In this world, there is nothing difficult, and if there is, it proves that your mind has not yet opened.
For example, some people think it is easy to make money, and some people think that making money is as difficult as ascending to the sky, which is not only the gap in ability, but more importantly, the difference in thinking level.
The same is true of chasing girls, when you think that chasing girls is a difficult thing, it proves that your thinking has been restricted.
Many boys think: I can't catch up with girls, mainly because I don't have money, as long as I have money, girls don't automatically throw hugs?
Instead of complaining, it is better to be down-to-earth, perhaps, you are not good enough now, but you must have your own charm, you must be able to attract girls, but your thinking needs to be transformed.
When your mind is opened, you will see a scene of the sea and the sky.
If you have been "chasing" the girl to run, it is better to think differently and make the girl fall in love with you in an "attractive" way.
"Chasing" and "attracting", these two behaviors have a big difference?
"Chasing" behavior: The boy focuses on the girl and keeps "chasing" her to run, so that you will not only be tired, but also have poor results.
"Attracting" behavior: Boys are focusing on themselves, making themselves better and better, and constantly attracting girls, which is more gentle, not only not tired, but also very effective.
If your appearance is not high enough now, you may wish to spend more energy and dress yourself up more handsome, which is more effective than buying a set of cosmetics for her.
In the process of getting along with a girl, your thinking should be: how to show her your own attraction? Instead of constantly thinking about how to please girls?
Everyone has their own attraction, find out your advantages, and then, constantly amplify this advantage in front of girls, you will find that the development of feelings will be very fast.
If you have been pandering to girls, it is better to change the way and learn to "lead" girls, the effect will be more obvious.
For example, a boy goes shopping with a girl, the girl tries on two sets of clothes, and then she asks you, which one looks better?
If, you answer: both sets are very good-looking, and the clothes that originally look ordinary are worn by you on the body, and they instantly become very good-looking, just like the fairy under the mortal.
Such an answer is a kind of "pandering" performance, and the girl actually does not like it, because such an answer is hypocritical and does not provide practical help for her to choose clothes.
If, in another way of answering, you say: I think that white skirt is more suitable for you, your skin tone is whiter, the white skirt will highlight your skin tone more, and you wear it very well, just choose this white dress, the next date, I still want to see you wear this dress.
This is a kind of "leading" behavior, directly help the girl make decisions, do not need her to dwell on too many problems, for the girl, she will like this feeling of being "led" by the boy.
Boys have to believe that a lot of times, it's not that you're not doing well enough, it's that there's something wrong with your way.
If you want to attract girls through "material", it is better to pay attention to the "spiritual" aspect of attraction.
Providing material value to a girl is difficult to touch her heart, at most it is to make her move, but she will not be moved by you.
For example, when a girl has emotions, you must understand her emotions; when a girl confides in you, you must learn to understand the ideas behind her; when a girl lacks an emotional need, find a way to meet her emotional needs.
These specific methods of operation are not the focus of this article, but they will be explained in detail in my column.
Paying attention to "spiritual" attraction is equivalent to "fighting psychological warfare" with girls, which is easier to touch her heart, and you will find that chasing girls in this way will be more effective.
Boys should believe that as long as the thinking of chasing girls is correct, you can easily do this thing well, and you can do what others can do.
We must firmly believe that with the right method, we will be able to catch up with the girl we like.