Who doesn't love each other and kill each other at the same time
When we see an elderly couple walking slowly with each other in the sunset, their white hair dyed red by the setting sun; or on a park bench, the old couple snooze in the sun together, letting the sun shine on the wrinkles on their faces. Many romantic people will praise the inseparability of love and the warmth of growing old with their children. But I often lament that it is probably because the two families have experienced many quarrels and cold wars, and when they are old and physically tired, and people are tired, they have to stop fighting in a peaceful state.
To tell the truth, naïve as you and me, after experiencing the sweetness of love, regardless of entering the marriage regardless of the fact, both men and women will suddenly realize that the person who married himself, the original acting skill is so superb, he can interpret the characters with completely different personalities, and the spirit can split into two completely different people to spend this life with you!
Men and women before marriage, acting skills are bursting, each drama is possessed, can be called "shadow emperor" and "shadow queen", gentle and moving, gorgeous and unique, considerate and sunny and noble; and after marriage, men and women have taken off the mask of "emperor", unkempt and dirty, outspoken, eat and spit, sleep snoring thunder, it is reasonable to be straight and bold and you do not see each other, the relationship between the two sides is directly upgraded to an acquaintance comrade-in-arms and an enemy.
Originally, the marriage was tied to the lovely child before marriage, but the result was that the "lion roaring woman" or "pig teammate" after marriage was harvested, and they also had to face the seven aunts and eight aunts with complicated relationships, the trivial chai rice oil and salt sauce vinegar tea every day, so the two people in the consumption could not discuss everything, and everything was not calm, the friendship boat said that it was overturned, quarrelsome, cold war is the norm, to say that the husband and wife do not quarrel, the ghost believes it! The wrongdoers of the past life, in this life to be husband and wife, then do not take the opportunity to avenge the past life, make him turn the world upside down, and cry ghosts and gods!?
However, after marriage, the "empresses" will play a decent role again, affectionate, humorous and funny, and the bird is both considerate and considerate, so that when both sides are at the end of their patience, they are once again blinded by each other's flashes, find the shadow of the past, and find the sweetness of the love period between the two small mouths, so they laugh and hate, and continue to foam at each other instead of forgetting each other.
It is said that human beings have a far greater tolerance for pain than they can accept happiness, and their emotional needs are often "to give a little sunshine is brilliant, to give a little flood is to flood." The tenderness of a moment and a half, the snuggling in a few days of suffering, the smiling of each other with a sharp heart, and the short but overwhelming warmth of the sea are enough to strengthen the hearts of both sides to deal with the long days and pans and chickens and dogs. As Zhang Ailing said in "Love in the Fallen City", there are only each other left under the fallen city, the ruined home, the displaced night, the tassel hugs Fan Liuyuan through the quilt, and Fan Liuyuan also reaches out from the bed to hold her hand, "They see each other transparently and transparently, just a moment of complete understanding, but this moment is enough for them to live together in harmony for ten years and eight years."
"To the nearest farther and farther east-west, to the deep to the shallow clear stream." From the highest to the moon and the sun, to the closest to the estranged husband and wife. "The ancient Chinese people have long insight into the relationship between husband and wife in marriage, and it is precisely because the two parties have the most intimate and loving time in this world, so when they are physically and mentally far away, they can make the human body feel particularly ruthless and alienated in this world." However, it is precisely because of that dear time that both sides can jointly resist the ups and downs of the earthly world, help each other in the same boat for a lifetime, hold the hand of the son, and the son and the old, love and kill each other to the white head.
How many couples can raise their eyebrows like Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai, and be harmonious? Ordinary people like us, the people of the city, will still go out to buy guns after the quarrel, and buy back the salted fish that the other party loves to eat.
The author is a contributing writer for "Eight O'Clock in the Evening"
Originally from Anhui, he now lives in the UK
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