There is a song in "Dream of the Red Chamber" "Hate Impermanence": "Joy and glory are just right, hate impermanence has arrived." ”
As Mr. Yang Dai said:
There will be no simple happiness in the world, happiness is always mixed with troubles and sorrows, and there is no eternity in the world. When you understand impermanence, you will find that everything is just ordinary.
Life is impermanent
In "The Two of Us", Yang Dai recalled and wrote down two experiences of the death of relatives.
In March 1997, Yang Dai's beloved daughter Qian Yuan was admitted to the hospital due to illness.
The day before her daughter's death, Yang Dai seemed to have telepathy and had foreknowledge in advance.
At that time, she was walking on the road and whispered a word: "Yuanyuan, Ah Yuan, you go well, go back with the blessings of your parents and mother." ”
In December 1998, Qian Zhongshu was also hospitalized due to illness.
Before his death, Yang Dai, who was deeply hurt by the loss of his relatives, endured the grief in his heart, calmly attached himself to Mr. Qian Zhongshu's ear, and said a word to him: "You are tired, close your eyes, go to sleep." ”
Later, Mr. Qian Zhonglu once went to visit Yang Chen, and he wanted to comfort him, but when they met, she did not have any tears at all, and everything was as usual.
After that, Yang Dai plunged into the pile of books, worked tirelessly every day, and spent 13 years sorting out all the academic manuscripts of Qian Zhongshu.
In a busy and fulfilling life, she gradually soothed her inner grief and died peacefully at the age of 105.
"Grass and trees are unintentional, and prosperity and withering sometimes."
How fragile people are, a virus invasion, a small distraction, an accident without warning, will make life disappear.
When a man understands that death is a thing that can come at any time, he puts away his arrogance.
When a man understands that death is a sure thing to happen, he puts away his ramblings.
Only by knowing the impermanence of life can we cherish and treat every everyday life.
The odds are uncertain
Zhuangzi said: Knowing the time is endless, observing the surplus and the void, so that it is gained but not happy, lost and not worried, and the impermanence of knowing the division is also.
Know that the time series is endless, and see the truth of things. So gain without complacent, lose without grieving.
People want perfection. In fact: "People are not good for a thousand days, and flowers are not red for a hundred days."
There is no "inevitable" thing in the world.
Sometimes the scenery is proud, the ups and downs are life, and the peace of mind is the most correct attitude in the face of impermanence.
When Su Shi was in Fengxiang's post, his superior, Chen Xiliang, built a Lingxutai.
Su Shi wrote the "Ling XuTai Record": "However, after several lifetimes, I wanted it to be like, and the rubble was broken, and there was no one to recover... And in the case of the loss of personnel, suddenly and suddenly come! ”
In ancient times, those palatial palaces have long been turned into ruins.
The gains and losses of life are originally like this, which is unpredictable.
People who understand this:
When they are proud, they are not rampant, because they know that there will be bumps ahead.
Don't despair when they're frustrated, because they know that there will be light when it's dark to the extreme.
Life can be more satisfactory, but everything is half satisfactory.
In the face of the ups and downs of life, it is better to calm down the mentality, gain indifference, and lose calmness.
Human emotions are uncertain
Bai Juyi once wrote in "Taihang Road": "It is difficult to walk, not in the water, not in the mountains, only in the repetition of human feelings." ”
During the reign of Emperor Wen of Han, there was a minister, Zhai Gong, who, when he was a high-ranking official, was full of cars and horses every day in his home, and the guests were like clouds.
When he lost his official hat, the guests disappeared, and the door was a sparrow, such a strong contrast made him very resentful.
So he wrote a line in large letters at his doorstep:
"One death and one life is to know friendship, one poor and one rich, but to know friendship; one noble and one lowly, friendship is present."
Many times, we overestimate our relationships with others. But when you're in trouble,
Even people who are connected by blood have times when they are cold to you;
Even if you are intimate and intimate, you have the heart to abandon you;
Even friends who are brothers and sisters have the intention of being far away from you.
Mr. Yang Dai said: "Only in a humble place can we have the most chance to see the truth of human feelings in the world." ”
One day you will understand that there is no eternal relationship in this world, and there is no unbreakable friendship.
Only by facing it with a normal heart, looking down on the repetition of human feelings, looking down on the heat and cold of the world, spoiling and not being shocked, and leaving no intentions, can we release our peace of mind.
No one's life is the same, no one's life is the same every year.
The four seasons of the year change, the seasons are different, and the joys and sorrows of a lifetime are tasted.
When you understand impermanence, you will not be ostentatious, today's gorgeous scenery, tomorrow may be a mess.
When you understand impermanence, you will not be sad, today the clouds are bleak, tomorrow may be full of sunshine.
To things and things, to fame and profit, to gain or dislike, not to worry about loss, not to be insulted, and to leave no intention.
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