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Author: Seven Seven
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I remember that a while ago there was such a hot search topic about "soul mates" on the Internet, and I saw a lot of "soul mates" in daily life at the bottom, and I instantly felt that "soul mate" love was really too beautiful, and at the same time, it was too enviable.
No wonder it is said that in fact, the so-called most beautiful love in the world is that the souls of men and women can fit each other, and the hearts of two people can be snuggled with each other, especially in the process of interpersonal communication, when one person likes another person, then he will become very strong and brave, as if wearing armor and battle clothes, not only indestructible, but also invincible.
Of course, at the same time, the softest place hidden deep in the depths of the heart will be completely excavated, making yourself gentle like water and addicted. This is the two sides of a true love, so that a person has both strong and soft "magic".
Especially in today's society where love is particularly rare and precious, each of us initially began to yearn for love, the desire for love, is to find their own "soul mate" in the vast sea of people, if you are lucky enough to find such a person, to put it bluntly, it is a kind of spiritual mutual understanding, emotional mutual trust, two hearts are connected together.
Just like the love between the literary writer Qian Zhongshu and his wife Mr. Yang Dai, who I have always liked, the love between the two of them is the so-called "soul mate" type of love, I believe that no matter who it is, they will unconsciously yearn for and desire a love similar to this, as Yang Dai described: "Before I met her, I never thought of getting married; I married her for decades, and I never regretted marrying her; and I never thought of marrying another woman." ”
However, to tell the truth, it is difficult to meet a person who really likes each other now, not to mention the so-called "soul mate" is even more difficult, if you are lucky enough to meet the real is unattainable, you must cherish it, so friends, when you meet the "soul mate" in your life, you really feel very happy and excited, and at the same time you will feel as if you are as lucky as if you were taken care of by heaven.
Therefore, if you want to judge whether two men and women can become "soul mates", the following three feelings are very important, after all, only when we choose the right person, can we always go on happily.
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The three views of the two people are the same
Forget which article to read such a sentence: "Three views of the union, then a hundred interesting students, three views of the disagreement, then get along tired", in fact, this sentence is very easy to understand, in the end is only two people with the same three views, will get along happily, then the two people together will be more long-lasting.
After all, you and I both know that the so-called "three views of consistency" in the real sense means that the two of you have the same three views, but also have common ideals, you will support each other's things and decisions, and the other party will also appreciate your advantages and longevity, the two of you can go in the same direction, work together, progress together, and grow better.
For example, if a man and a woman are together, one of them very much wants to start a family and establish a family that belongs to the two of you as soon as possible, but the other person does not want to enter the marriage hall so early, does not want to be bound by the family so early, so to tell the truth, two people like this will definitely not be able to go together in the end.
Just like the "soul mate" love between the literary writer Qian Zhongshu and his wife Mr. Yang Dai, which I originally mentioned at the beginning, is really particularly enviable, they are the soul mates who are truly "consistent in three views", and I vaguely remember when the writer Qian Zhongshu wrote the very famous masterpiece "Siege of the City", if Mr. Qian Zhongshu did not have the company of his wife and the support and encouragement of his wife, then it would be impossible to write this long novel "Siege of the City" that circulated around the world.
It is said that in ordinary daily life, Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Dai read and write together, studied literary works together, read each other's literary works together, and then put forward some valuable suggestions for each other's reference and revision.
Especially in life, Yang Dai, who may be a wife, usually takes care of her husband Qian Zhongshu a little more, but once his wife Yang Dai is sick or in poor health, her husband Qian Zhongshu will also care for and take care of his wife, and will clumsily learn to cook rice and cook dishes, and make daily dishes for his wife to taste.
Therefore, the so-called two people "three views of the same" soul mate is probably like this, each other can appreciate each other's strengths and advantages, can also tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, two people in life can support each other, in the career can help each other, two people can accompany each other, rely on each other has been hand in hand, until the end of life.
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The two of them had endless conversations
For the "soul mate" type of feelings, in addition to the need for two people to have the same three views, the most important point is that two people have endless topics between each other, two people can talk together anytime and anywhere, if the two of you face to face always look at each other without words, there is nothing to say to each other, then to say a bad truth, or two people have been tired of each other's feelings, the heart has been tired of each other, Or either the two of you can't reach the same height in thought and spirit.
Usually like this kind of two men and women can not talk, there is no common topic of people, get along will feel very tired, because what they want to express, the other party can not understand, the other party wants to convey the message, they can not understand at all, such two people must be difficult to talk about the same idea, and simply can not communicate together, two people chatting and chatting is easy to fall into an embarrassing situation.
But the real "soul mate" type of love is different, especially when you are fortunate to meet the "soul mate" that belongs to your own life, then no matter what you talk to each other, you will find that you can talk to each other very well, no matter what kind of topic you talk about, you will find that the other party can smoothly receive your own stem, when the two of you chat together or small talk, there will never be a cold field, and you will feel that time passes too quickly, two people can never finish talking, and they are not enough to stay together.
There is a couple with an age difference of nearly ten years in my circle of friends, even if the woman is nearly ten years older than the man, but this does not affect the love of the two of them, nor does it affect the daily communication and exchange of the two people, because the two just happen to be people in the same industry and profession, so there are many topics to talk about each other, and they also understand each other's pressure and confusion in the career, of course, this can also fully show that the marriage of the two of them is not a whim, nor is it because of the decision made by impulse. It is two real souls that collide with each other, which produces a chemical reaction about love.
Perhaps in the eyes of outsiders, the age difference between husband and wife is so large, but what is the relationship, as long as they are truly in love with each other, they can talk together, and they can struggle together, then there is no problem. After all, true love is originally regardless of age, regardless of borders, regardless of distance, as long as there is love in the heart, everything is not a problem.
Therefore, as long as the two of you are truly in love with each other, you can have no age, no distance, not limited to the region, as long as the two people have a common topic, you can talk together, you can say that together, you have similar souls between each other, you can fall in love with each other.
To know that in real life, those couples or couples who will eventually face separation are mostly because they have nothing to say to the last two people, no common topics, and they can't talk together, and they feel that the two of you are not people in the same world at all, to put it bluntly, your world can't come in, the other person's world you can't get into, the feelings between each other will slowly become shallow, so in the end, the two people will slowly separate, so in the feelings, the two people have a topic that can't be talked about.
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The two can get along without getting tired
In fact, in the relationship, there is also a very important feeling of meeting the "soul mate" in your life, that is, when two people are together, you can be yourself casually, feel very comfortable and comfortable, can get along without getting tired, feel very relaxed and harmonious, which is of course a crucial point.
Just like there was a girl in the background who complained to me about going on a blind date, I once met a very strange male friend, not to mention that the two people went deeper into the look, as long as they were with each other, they would feel very uncomfortable and become particularly uncomfortable.
The girl and the blind date can not talk for two or three sentences, it feels completely unable to talk, into a stalemate, because the other party is very impolite, the speech is always a look of contempt for people, talking like a knife, often poking into the pain of their own heart, they meet with each other for less than half an hour, this atmosphere makes people feel very uncomfortable, do not want to know more about each other, just want to end this blind date as soon as possible, of course, finally the girl found an excuse and slipped away in advance.
So in the process of interpersonal communication, men and women want to be together for a long time, it is very important to get along without getting tired, the two people can not only be themselves, but also get along very comfortable and harmonious, that feeling is like in the vast sea of people you finally found a soul mate in your own life, you find the right person you have been looking for.
Only when the two of you are together, you can be free to be yourself, you will feel more relaxed than ever, not only will you not get along with each other, but you will also feel very comfortable and harmonious, and you will feel that the other party is the same person that Nuwa specially pinched for herself, and each other enjoys this feeling very much.
In fact, the so-called "soul mate" is to meet their own really right people, in front of each other, you can be yourself, show your original appearance, get along with each other is not tired and comfortable, two people also feel very relaxed and comfortable, that feeling is very precious, even if you two don't say anything, just do your own things, just sit in a daze and will not feel a little embarrassed, this is the most comfortable way for lovers to get along ah.
The poet Xu Zhimo once wrote a sentence that I like very much: I will search for my only soul mate in the vast sea of people. I am blessed to have it; no, I am destined.
In fact, in my opinion, the soul mate is really encounterable and unattainable, after all, we only live one life, if we are fortunate enough to meet a soul mate in our own life in this life, then what regrets do we have for life?
Just want to say to every "you" who is reading the article, if the person you meet can give yourself these 3 feelings, then it is enough to prove that the two of you are the "soul mate" in each other's lives, you must cherish each other and accompany each other well!
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