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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
In the relationship, many women think that what men want most is nothing more than their own needs.
This kind of thinking is too shallow, because once a man falls in love with a woman, he needs to be understood and respected more than just satisfying his desires.
When men love you with all their hearts and want to give you happiness, they will be under a lot of pressure and need someone to comfort him, care about him, and make him motivated enough to take responsibility.
Although love needs to have the texture of physical contact, what really maintains feelings is the tacit understanding reached by both sides at the spiritual and material level.
Any relationship, if you want to develop for a long time, you need men and women to maintain together and manage it with heart.
Therefore, women understand what men really need, which is conducive to the harmony and development of the relationship, and the feelings will be more harmonious and stable.
Generally speaking, when dealing with women, what men want in their hearts is mostly these things.
First, women's understanding and affirmation will make men more confident
After men really enter the relationship, what they want most may be the understanding and affirmation of women.
When he comes home tired, you can care about him, understand him, and see him not easy, which often makes him more confident.
At this time, the man will love you more, think that you are an understanding woman, and he will be more motivated to fight for happiness.
If you don't understand a man, lack of concern for him, or even often count his deficiencies, it is easy to hit his confidence, and naturally become negative.
He can't get your understanding, feel that everything he pays is meaningless, because you pay so much, you can't see it, you don't affirm his achievements in time, where does he still have motivation?
So, when a woman gets along with a man, she must care more about him, understand him, and let him feel your support, which will make him full of confidence.
Some women do not understand this, always dislike men for not making money, or feel that men have no ability, this attitude will make men feel cold.
There's no guy who doesn't want to work hard to make money, they all want to give you happiness, but everyone's abilities are different and can't be treated equally.
If a woman often compares him with others, it will make the man very hurt, and over time, his confidence will be worn away by you, and how to give you a happy life.
Therefore, a woman must not hit a man, but must give him affirmation, understand him, and become the woman behind him.
In this way, men will be more confident, but also full of strength, to work hard for happiness, naturally easier to achieve.
Second, give him more free space, he will cherish you more
Men need freedom, even after marriage, they need to have their own personal space.
Therefore, a woman can't restrain a man at all times, can't control him too strictly, give him more freedom, and he will cherish you more.
Some women, after being with a man, always like to restrict his freedom, not let him go out to socialize, even if they come back later, they have to make a big fuss, which is not right.
Men themselves are very tired, they have a space to release repressed emotions, but also need to be with friends to complain about the unhappiness in their hearts, which is understandable.
If you always restrain him, for example, come back late, information, phone calls continue to urge, it will inevitably make him uncomfortable.
Sometimes, give the man a certain space appropriately, let him have more freedom, he will feel that you have special respect for him, and naturally be more attentive to you.
Ms. Shen and her husband were married for two years, and in the end they did not come to the end, they were not because of emotional discord, but because Ms. Shen was too restrictive to her husband.
My husband is in the company to do management, usually work is very busy, home late is inevitable.
However, Ms. Shen always felt that her husband did not come home on time, that is, the motive was bad, she also personally went to the company to find him, and saw that he and female subordinates were often together.
So she restrained him even more, basically not allowing him to have a little personal time.
She stipulates that her husband will come home after work, is not allowed to go out to socialize on weekends, and even if there is a real thing to go out, he must report to her every ten minutes.
In the end, the husband felt that the feelings were too depressed, and he put forward separation in pain, and the marriage fell apart.
Therefore, a woman must give a man a certain degree of freedom, can not be too tight, not to limit his social, he will cherish you more.
Otherwise, men feel that their bodies and minds are bound, and they will eventually be like strangers with you, and they will not have a trace of nostalgia for you.
Third, women are gentle and considerate to men, which will make him love them
Gender interaction, what men crave most, is the gentleness and thoughtfulness of women.
A gentle and considerate woman can make men feel a strong sense of love, and the body and mind will be softened by you, so as to love you more.
If women are too strong, always suppress men, or put feelings above men, men will feel very self-respecting, and naturally will not care about you.
Why some men don't like women who are too strong is nothing more than that this kind of woman is not gentle, full of too many accusations against men, and even imperative calls.
If a man seems to have no self-esteem in front of you and has to listen to your arrangements everywhere, he will be very dissatisfied in his heart and will not be able to stand it for a long time.
Therefore, women can be gentle and considerate to men, know how to be submissive, and men love you more and are willing to give everything for you.
Whether it is love or marriage, women must learn to be gentle, even if you are not gentle enough, you must pretend to be gentle.
Many times, managing feelings requires some skills, a gentle and well-behaved woman, always will make men move, willing to take care of you for a lifetime.
Conversely, women who are too strong, neither gentle nor considerate, tend to leave men at a loss and eventually alienate you.
Therefore, women still have to know how to be gentle and try to be considerate to men, so that he can love you.
For example, a man is in a bad mood, what he wants most is a word of concern from you, and when he is tired, he is most eager to get a warm hug from you.
From these small details, you know how to give the best care to the man, he will feel very sweet and touched in his heart, so as to work harder and give you the happiness you want.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Time, you can understand love, you can prove love, you can also overthrow love." ”
Sexual intercourse, truly able to stand the test of love, can go to the end, after all, time is the best proof.
If a woman wants to get the affection of a man, it is best to know how to give the man what he wants most, so that he can not abandon you.
To sum up, in the minds of men, they may want these things more than they need physically:
A woman's understanding and affirmation will make the man more confident; give him more free space, he will cherish you more; a woman is gentle and considerate to the man, which will make him love it.
Love, sometimes does not need so much vigorous, but in the mutual dependence, living a flowing day.
Both people will bring what the other wants, integrate with each other, progress together, and grow together, which is good love.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.