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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Every woman longs to meet true love, to marry a worthy man, to be able to protect herself for a lifetime of stability, to be treated with tenderness.
However, in reality, many men, the love for women is not firm, they will change with time, and dilute their emotions, and they will not care more and more about women.
Especially those men who did not pay their hearts at the beginning, and then did not cherish and cherish women even more, it is easy to cause harm to women.
Therefore, when a woman interacts with a man, she must learn to judge his sincerity and see if he really loves you.
If his love for you can't be consistent and can't put you in the most important position, maybe he doesn't love you that much.
In fact, whether a man loves you or not, it is very good to judge, to see who he cares about at the following three times, basically knows in his heart.
Who is more important, you and his family?
In the relationship, if the man really loves you deeply, he will definitely put you in the most important position and give you a preference at all times.
At this time, even his family will not surpass you, because he knows that you are his companion to the old man in this life, and he must pay attention to you.
However, when a man does not truly love you, you will not have such an important place in his heart and will not care so much about you.
When it comes to difficulties, he will definitely prioritize and be considerate of his family, rather than caring about you.
For example, when in love, the man who really loves you, no matter what kind of obstacles are encountered, even if the family opposes you, he will not give up on you, because you are important in his heart.
On the contrary, a man who does not love you may have a sentence from his family: "Inappropriate", and he may deny you. Moreover, when you really encounter the difficulty of getting married, he will not think about it for you, which will make you very aggrieved.
Friend Xiaomin is like this, at the beginning, she and her boyfriend fell in love for a year, the relationship is very good, and finally decided to get married.
At that time, the conditions of the boyfriend's family were not good, and Xiaomin's parents were also very reasonable, so they let the boyfriend's family give a dowry of 60,000, which was a formality.
At that time, the boyfriend did not save any money, and there was no extra money in the family, which was less than 40,000 in total.
For this reason, Xiao Min is very concerned about her boyfriend, so she gives him the ten thousand she has saved, let him go back and make up a little more, thinking that it is not much worse, it should not be difficult.
As a result, when the boyfriend's parents came to Xiaomin's house to propose to them, they only gave 50,000 bride price, which also included Xiaomin's 10,000.
Xiao Min was very angry, so she privately asked her boyfriend: Is it so difficult to go to 10,000? The boyfriend replied that he couldn't bear to see his parents borrow money. Xiao Min was even more angry, he was considerate of his family's difficulties, did he not understand her?
Later, after getting married, Xiao Min gave birth to a child, and the boyfriend also understood his parents, saying that they were not in good health and did not help at all. Moreover, his brother-in-law has a bad attitude towards Xiaomin, and he never goes to justice, but lets Xiaomin tolerate it.
Therefore, whether a man really loves you, from his attitude towards you and his family, there will be a clear judgment, he cares about and understands his family most in his heart, and ignores you, and there is not much true love for you.
Second, who is the weight of you and his friends?
In reality, when many men are with their friends, they will be accustomed to ignoring the women around them, even if the women need him very much, they cannot pull him back from their friends.
Such men basically value the weight of friends very much, and regard women less lightly, or feel that they have been together for so long, there is no need to care as much as before.
However, even if a woman is your lover, your wife, and has been with you for many years, she also needs your care and companionship, so why do you have to rank behind your friends?
Many men, once with friends, will forget women, do not put women in their hearts at all, such men, not to say that there is no love at all, at least it shows that love is not enough.
Men who really love you deeply are unlikely to ignore you, let alone forget you because they are with friends.
If a man always puts you behind friends, it only means that he doesn't care enough about you in his heart, or doesn't love you that much.
After her friend Ms. Wang and her husband got married, their feelings were still relatively stable, but a sudden incident made her completely cold.
It was once, my husband had a very good friend came over, it was night, Ms. Wang was cooking, my husband received a call from a friend, only said a word to pick up a friend, and then closed the door and went out.
Ms. Wang thought to herself, her husband's friend came over, how to prepare a few more dishes, so she rushed downstairs to buy vegetables, and also specially ordered a hot pot, and brought back a bottle of good wine.
Later, Ms. Wang made a hearty table, wine and dishes were also placed, and quietly waited for her husband and friends to return.
However, after waiting for almost two hours, the dishes were cold, and my husband and friends did not return.
So, she called, but her husband did not answer, after a dozen times in a row, her husband answered, but told her that he and his friends went out to eat.
At that moment, Ms. Wang's heart was completely cold, her husband and friends were eating out, he said that he did not say a word, was ignored for no reason, and felt that there was no place in her husband's heart.
Therefore, if a man is with a friend, he habitually ignores you and often ignores you, indicating that your weight in his heart is not heavy, and may not even be compared to his friends.
Third, when a contradiction occurs, who will he consider in his heart?
The man who truly loves you, even if there is a conflict with you, he will definitely think about you in his heart, and he is reluctant to see you shed tears of grievance.
Such a man would rather admit his mistake to you, even if it is not his fault, he is willing, because he cares about you, he will bow to you.
On the contrary, after a man has a conflict with you, he never cares about your feelings, even if he sees you sad and crying, he is also a hard-hearted look, indicating that he does not love you so much.
Moreover, even if you take the initiative to show kindness and admit your mistakes, he is also an attitude of love and irrationality, and he is used to being cold to you, which fully shows that you do not have much place in his heart.
See if a man really loves you, from this time can best be reflected, he does not have a little accommodation to you, and he will certainly not be very sorry for you.
The man who truly loves you will tolerate you, even if it is your fault, he also knows how to comfort you, wait until the right time, and then communicate with you, will not make you sad and sad.
Men and women get along, what kind of attitude he has towards you, is basically his inner true thoughts, love or not, at a glance.
In reality, some men will be accommodating to women when they are in love, and once they are married, they will become indifferent and not as accommodating as before.
In the end, a woman should see through the man's sincerity and have a fight with him, of course, not to argue unreasonably, but when the two sides really have problems, you observe his attitude from it.
If you are often cold to you, not accommodating, not tolerant, every time you have to admit your mistakes to him, to please him, to take care of his mood, basically he does not love you.
The man who really loves you, no matter what contradictions occur, he will take care of you and pamper you for the first time, and will not make you so aggrieved and sad, and will especially hurt you.
Men who don't love you may bring you only tears, always helplessness, and invisible hope.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
For a man who doesn't love you, at the end of the day, it's that you're loving him, and he's just passively accepting your love without really putting you in his heart.
Therefore, whether a man loves you or not, it is easy to judge it, and see who he cares about at the following three moments, basically knowing in his heart.
You and his family, who is more important? You and his friends, whose weight does it? When a conflict arises, who does he have in mind?
If there is never you in the answers to these questions, then he may not love you that much.
Therefore, when women get along with men, they still have to love themselves, don't fall into feelings, lose themselves, and can't bet themselves on men.
When you meet a man who truly loves you, you should cherish it, and for men who do not love you, you don't have to consume yourself, know how to make trade-offs, and maybe the future can be expected.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.