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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Both men and women, after middle age, love cannot be as pure as before, often becomes very complicated, and is also full of a lot of calculations.
The love of young people can be romantic, can be expected, and has many more possibilities of choice.
However, middle-aged men and women are different, and the love at this stage has not had so many expectations and not too many choices.
The harshest reality is that as long as both parties have slept, the choices they may face will be very narrow, either falling apart and getting together, or paying a painful price and bearing their own pain.
To put it bluntly, love at this time, basically has no future, can not withstand the test at all, like a pile of sand, the wind blows away.
Therefore, after middle-aged men and women fall in love, once they have slept, there may be only three choices, which is cruel:
First, the two sides delete each other, indifferent to break up
Middle-aged men and women fall in love, and if there is no substantial affection, the relationship may last for a while.
At this time, each other can feel sweet and fresh, and feel that they are still in love when they are young.
However, once you have slept, it may be a completely different result, and both parties will no longer feel the nourishment of love as before.
Because, at this time, there is no freshness, it is likely that both parties will be dissatisfied, resulting in the relationship becoming indifferent.
Whether right or wrong, two people can no longer be together, the biggest possibility is to delete each other, and finally break up coldly.
Therefore, after people reach middle age, do not have too many expectations for love, if you do not see the true heart of the other party, or both sides are involved, this is not love.
Both men and women can not easily walk into love, no responsibility, no bottom line of love, basically fragile, no basis for love.
In any relationship, once the foundation is unstable, even if the superficial love is deep, it will eventually collapse.
Especially for people with families, all unrecognized love is a lie, and there is no future at all.
No matter how sweet love is at the beginning, when both parties have a substantial relationship, the feelings will collapse.
After the two parties wake up like a dream, the first thing must be to delete each other, and finally break up coldly, so this kind of love is not worth it.
Second, complain to each other and calculate each other
If middle-aged men and women fall in love, they generally cannot go to the future, because the union of the two sides has a purpose that is not simple.
Men covet beauty, women covet money, both sides have their own thoughts, and their feelings are also what they need, this kind of love is particularly complicated.
Love, if it is mixed with too many calculations that have nothing to do with it, with a lot of selfishness, then it will lose its original meaning, and it will certainly not last.
Especially when the two parties have intimate contact, it will further complicate the relationship, because at this time, both parties will make small calculations in their hearts.
Once you don't get what you want, the two people will complain to each other, which is likely to lead to frequent conflicts, so that the original unstable life has become a chicken feather.
In fact, at this stage of love, both parties will not have the same expectations as when they were young, but pay more attention to reality.
The future is too long-term for both sides to wait. If the current demands cannot be met and the desired benefits cannot be realized, then quarrelling and attacking each other may be a common thing.
At this time, the two people will not talk about love, but like enemies, meeting is a quarrel, and the sense of calculation is particularly strong.
In the final analysis, after middle age, the love between men and women has long become very realistic, where is there any true love?
This kind of love, in each other's complaints and mutual calculations, gradually goes to a strange road, which is a kind of harm to both parties and is not worth it.
Third, pay a painful price and lose a lifetime
After middle-aged men and women fall in love, there is also the heaviest result, that is, they each pay a tragic price, and they lose their lives and suffer unspeakable.
After middle age, if men and women cannot abide by loyalty, blindly pursue so-called love, and finally bear the tragic end is inevitable.
Because, once the relationship is revealed, it is almost impossible to be forgiven, and no one will really forgive a person who is unfaithful to feelings.
Even if you temporarily choose to forgive because of the involvement of reality, the pain in your heart will accompany you for a lifetime, and you can't let go at all.
At this time, middle-aged men and women who have entered love can only bear the bitter fruit, each paying a huge price, may lose their whole lives, and it is difficult to raise their heads.
In fact, at this time, whether middle-aged men and women choose to stay where they are, or go to a strange place to start over, it is difficult to get happiness.
Moreover, whether two people are together or separated, their respective lives have also been greatly affected, and they will not be as easy as before.
Staying where you are, you will be hated by your family, and you will also be poked in the spine by familiar people, and you will not be able to feel at ease for a lifetime.
Even if you choose to stay away from the familiar place and start over, you may not be able to find what you have lost.
Therefore, after middle-aged men and women fall in love, no matter how they choose in the end, it is difficult to have happiness, which is the greatest pain.
This reminds middle-aged men and women in reality that instead of blindly pursuing so-called love, it is better to cherish the people around them and manage their own lives with their hearts, which is the real happiness.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
To sum up, after middle-aged men and women fall in love, once they have slept, there may only be these three choices, which is cruel.
The two sides delete each other, break up coldly; complain to each other, calculate each other; pay a terrible price and lose a lifetime.
Therefore, I hope that middle-aged men and women must be cautious about their feelings and do not make mistakes, otherwise, one day you will pay for your mistakes.
Loyalty is the bottom line of marriage, once this bottom line is touched, don't use any excuse to argue again, you must be different and wide, and put it down in time.
Otherwise, in the second half of your life, you will only live in the abyss of pain, and your life will not be peaceful, and the gains will not be worth the losses.
In short, men and women must be loyal to their feelings, and at any time, they must not cross the bottom line, let alone trample on dignity, which is the responsibility and dignity that adults should have.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.