Had a good friend before. She and her boyfriend went from realizing that they were in love in just four months.
I asked her if the time was too fast, and she said, "Because I identified this man, and this man identified me, there was some mysterious tacit understanding between us that has been attracting each other." ”
I thought the relationship between friends and boyfriends would be very delicate, and I also felt that they were only together because they were momentarily carried away by feelings.
When one day they calm down and find that they are not each other's dishes, they will disperse and leave each other's world again.
Unexpectedly, they did not break up as I imagined, but after a year of falling in love, they entered the palace of marriage and eventually became the happiest couple.
Later, my friend told me that she and her husband loved each other so much because they did not hide anything from each other, they would be honest with each other, and they would communicate in time about anything and seek each other's opinions.
Therefore, a person who loves you really can't hide it. People who love you, don't need you to keep asking the other party whether they love you or not, the other party will always guard your side.
When you get along with people you love, you will find that no matter what you do, you will not feel unhappy with each other, on the contrary, the more you get along, the happier you will be.
Of course, if you can't feel the other person's love, it can only mean that the man doesn't love you.
After all, in the eyes of a man, he will only give these three things to the woman he loves the most. If it's someone he doesn't love, he usually hides these three things.
1, men's preference
In a relationship, being favored is the most precious existence.
I often see people saying on the Internet: "If what you give me is the same as everyone else, then I'd rather not." ”
I believe that everyone understands this truth, if the person you love gives you the same thing as other ordinary friends, this means that you are in his heart, but just ordinary friends.
A woman is very focused on the feeling of preference in her feelings, what she wants is different, and she wants her to be unique in the man's heart.
Only those who are favored by the loved one will find true love in a relationship. If the person you love the most does not give your preference to you, it can only mean that in this person's heart, there is no love at all.
In emotional interaction, men usually only give preference to the person they love the most, applaud the person they love the most, and pay for the person they love the most.
If you meet someone you don't love, or a "substitute" for your lover, then this person and man usually only think that they have found a sustenance for their feelings.
2. Sincerity
I believe that everyone knows the love story of Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai, the two people have stayed together for more than sixty years, from teenagers to white heads, experienced countless ups and downs, but have always loved each other.
Qian Zhongshu said: "Before meeting you, I never thought about getting married, and after meeting you, I never thought about getting married with anyone else." ”
This is true love, and in the face of true love, you are the only one.
The person who truly loves you, he only has you in his eyes, you are a unique being, he can't tolerate anyone else.
So no matter what happens between you, his sincerity will only be handed over to you. Although there will be some occasional small conflicts between you, he understands that you are his only one, and he will tolerate you and understand you.
Even if you're not perfect, he'll guard you and shield you from the wind and rain, rather than arguing endlessly with you over minor issues.
If two people argue over small things and look at each other unfavorably, it can only mean that there is no need to maintain the relationship any longer.
3. Money
I remember watching an emotional program before, the host said: "Men in the process of falling in love, have always been calculating the cost; with the smallest cost, in exchange for women's feelings." As soon as the host's voice dropped, there was a loud burst of applause below.
People who really love you usually don't do this, and they don't bother with you in the process of interacting.
When a man truly loves someone, he usually loses his mind and is willing to give everything for the person he loves; on the contrary, if a man does not love you, he will always calculate how much he has paid and how much he has received in return in the process of interacting with you.
Once watching a variety show, the host asked the actor Sha Yi, "Who in charge of money in your family?" Sha Yi replied without hesitation on the spot: "I don't know anything about money, and our family's money is under the management of the treasurer." ”
The treasurer he said was actually his wife.
A man who doesn't love you will always weigh the pros and cons, weighing it back and forth between his own interests and your feelings, because in his heart, the interests are far more important than you.
No matter what feelings, as long as they are related to money, there will be a huge chemical reaction, and a little carelessness will trigger the entanglement of this relationship.
So as long as a man is willing to compromise on money, it shows that the man is really touched by you.
Feelings are something that is sometimes delicate, and if two people have a very good emotional relationship and both sides love each other enough, then the relationship will continue happily ever after.
If there is a contradiction in this relationship, and the contradiction will become more and more serious, then the two sides will continue to evolve in the contradiction, and finally become the key to the breakdown of the relationship.
Finally, please understand a truth, the most important thing in a relationship is to change the heart for the heart.
When you're sure this person loves you, you have to respond. Because the person who loves you will definitely give a lot of things for you, and the person who does not love you does not think to give to you at all.
Feelings are not easy, and I hope that each of us can have a happy and beautiful relationship and want to have a deeply loved person.
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