He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
In the Four Disciplines of Fan, there is this passage:
"Blessed is coming, and it will be a prophet to see its goodness; Woe is coming, and if you see its unwholesomeness, you will know it. Now I want to be blessed and far from woe. If you do not do good, you must first change it. ”
Translated into the vernacular, it means:
When a person's blessings are coming, one only needs to look at the good deeds he has done to know in advance; And when a man's calamity is coming, he can predict it just by looking at the evil deeds he has done. If you want to be blessed and avoid calamity, you must correct your mistakes before you do good.
Do you believe in luck and fate?
For men, whether to get rich or not is actually in a critical period.
And a man's career is about to go uphill and become richer, in fact, there are some omen.
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Acting more and more decisively and self-motivated
There is a concept in psychology called the "slow horse law".
The boss pulled two horses and hurried, each followed by a scooter.
There is a fast horse that is very solid, it is serious, strong in action, and always conscientiously completes its tasks;
And the other slow horse, always sneaking and slippery, can be lazy.
Seeing this, the master put the goods on the slow horse on the fast horse.
Finally, the owner found: "I only need a fast horse to complete my delivery task, why raise that horse again, and the cost is extra?" ”
Finally, the owner ate the slow horse.
The "law of slow horses" means:
When everyone around you is moving, and you don't move, all that awaits you is elimination.
When everyone is working hard, only if you don't work hard, then you will soon be unable to mix in the current field.
They all say: "Standing on the vent of the wind, how can you get rich when you eat the first bite of dividends."
But "slow horse", the opportunity is in front of you, it still walks slowly over.
When it arrived, the opportunity was lost.
One sign that a man is about to become rich is:
He has the ability to act "above and beyond", decisive and hardworking.
First you have to have a mountain;
If you want to rot, you first have to have the capital to rot.
Some time ago, a 35-year-old couple in Shanghai deposited 3 million yuan in the bank and then retired early.
People choose to lie flat and don't have so much pressure, after all, people still have 3 million.
For a man, more action can make your life start to go in a better direction.
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Start "Streamlining the Circle"
All relationships are actually divided into "three, six, nine, etc."
This is true in social interactions, and it is also true with relatives.
Some people, who have not known each other for a long time, can become close friends with you;
There are also some people who have known each other for many years, but they still have a relationship that is not salty.
One of the signs that a man is starting to go uphill is:
Reorganize your social circle, learn to break away and streamline your circle.
What is the essence of socializing? Exchange value.
When you are not worth enough, it is useless to know many people;
And when you are valuable, even if you do not take the initiative to make friends, there will be many people who will take the initiative to approach you.
Remember the "most bullish student dormitory"?
There are 4 people in one dormitory, all of whom have successfully completed graduate studies, and all of them are top schools.
What does this mean?
What kind of people you are with will affect your emotions;
And your mood is good or bad, which will affect your luck.
This is called "near Zhu is red, near ink is black".
Get along with motivated friends, and you will invisibly become such a person;
And getting along with negative and lazy, idle, and unenterprising drinking and meat friends, over time your ability to act will also be affected.
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Know how to praise your lover
There is a concept in psychology called the "Pygmalion effect."
It can be understood as:
People are more willing to accept praise, support, recognition and appreciation because this is the most basic need and desire of the bottom of people's hearts.
Praise is always the best communication skill relative to criticism, accusations.
Whether parents get along with their children, or between husband and wife, lovers, they should learn to praise.
One of the signs that men are getting richer is:
The relationship with your lover is getting better and stronger.
You have to understand that after marrying each other, the lover is the one who will spend his whole life with you.
For parents, they are people who depend on each other;
For you and your lover, you are the ones who support each other for the rest of your life.
Only by managing the relationship with his lover well can men concentrate more on their own business.
If we say:
Every day you come home, you have to quarrel with your wife, have conflicts, and look at each other unfavorably.
Think about it, in this living environment, can you really make money with peace of mind?
Conversely: if you are happiest every day, it is to go home and eat with your wife, sit and chat together, and enjoy the warmth and happiness of the family.
With such a sweet, stable family environment and harmonious husband and wife feelings, how can you not work hard to do your career?
What kind of woman you find to marry will determine your financial fortune;
And what becomes of your wife depends on how you get along with her.
Today's Topic:
Do you think that men are starting to go uphill, what are the signs?
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