I remember that day, my sister-in-law came to our house with my second cousin, carried a box of milk, bought a little fruit, and sat in our house for half a day, when my parents were also present, although my sister-in-law did not say, but my parents could probably guess something.
Sure enough, after half an hour of greeting,
The sister-in-law said that the long disabled is actually not an ordinary disability, because the two sons of the sister-in-law are hemp.
When I was a child, because the two brothers had chickenpox, there was no adult around to watch, the two brothers scratched each other and scratched each other, and as a result, the chickenpox caused infection, and the skin of the whole body, especially the face, was full of acne marks.
If you haven't seen chickenpox scars before, at first sight of my two younger brothers, you might really be startled by them.
My eldest brother left junior high school, got a driver's license, and now runs transportation in Xinjiang all day.
Later, when I returned to my hometown, I caught a girl, and under the banner of taking the girl to "xinjiang for free play", I directly abducted the girl, and when I came back a few years later, the girl was pulling two children, although the girl's father was a hundred reluctant, and saw his son-in-law like a ghost, but fortunately, the skin of the two grandsons was normal, so he had to admit this family affair.
And my little brother is not so lucky, he is not as wild as his brother Luzi, as the old and young in the family, has always lived under the protection of his parents and brother, went to college to an ordinary specialty, did not have a job after graduation, idle at home to do micro-business, a month can earn about two thousand yuan. Although it is a good income in the countryside, it is still a bit stretched to cope with the 100,000 yuan of dowry money in front of you.
Let's talk about that girl, I really hold a loss for my brother.
Because the girl had already been married once, and she had a child, and she was still a son, although I had never met this girl, my brother was still a virgin chicken, and I was a bit sorry for this brother. And this girl also opened a price of 100,000 yuan, is not it obviously "watching people cook"?
Looking at my sister-in-law's sad look, and looking at my brother who bowed his head and did not speak, I felt very sad.
My father was also very uncomfortable to hear, but because of his mother's presence, he had been hesitant to express his position, and I think my father did not dare to take a stand. The scene was a bit cold for a while - the sister-in-law had finished saying everything, and the father had listened to it.
The mother has been listening, staring at the moment, she finally spoke - like the case of the little nephew, as an uncle and aunt certainly can not sit idly by, after all, "the male big should be married", and it is not easy to meet a girl like this, willing to marry the little nephew, is also a kind of fate, but recently ready to buy a house for the son, so there is no spare money on hand,
I just pricked up my ears and watched my mother perform—
I wanted to poke my mother at that time, because from the heart, I wanted to help this brother, he is 26 years old, has not tasted the taste of women, so many years, because of the mutilation of appearance, endured so much discrimination, now even this "second marriage love" is not qualified to experience? This is too cruel for this little brother of mine!
But I still put up with it, because at this time the sister-in-law spoke - then thank you so much for the second brother and sister-in-law, no matter how much, it is always good to be able to save the emergency!
The mother went on to say that in this way, the affection belongs to the relatives, and the borrowing money will always have to be debited and calculated as interest, and our family conditions are not good, and this money can only be regarded as emergency.
The sister-in-law estimated that she was cornered at that time, and she agreed to it one after another.
At this time, my father said to my sister-in-law as if he had just woken up - the child's thing is everyone's business, don't worry, the marriage thing is a lifelong thing, or you have to know each other more, you can't get married for the sake of getting married, and so on a bunch of nonsense.
Because the middle sister-in-law once said a word,
At that moment, I felt that my sister-in-law was so helpless, so I begged my parents three times and four times, and they actually borrowed twenty thousand yuan!
I couldn't look at my parents' faces, I kept my head down, and I was actually ashamed inside, because I was buying a house and paying off my mortgage, and I couldn't help this brother.
Second, I would like to ask: Isn't borrowing money or is there only one way to sue, and isn't family affection worth twenty thousand yuan?
One day I was working overtime in the office, and suddenly my mother called- little cookies, why can't the printer in the house be played? Because I rarely use the computer at home, and I don't know the specific situation, I replied - is there no ink?
Because this printer is an inkjet printer, because it was cheap, my mother bought such a disposable printer despite my objections.
My mother looked very anxious, caught me scolding several sentences of "useless", I was scolded urgently, and she said, "You send me through WeChat, I will give you typesetting, and then print, you want a few copies to type a few copies, isn't it OK"?
On the phone, I taught my mother how to pass the file through WeChat, and when I received the file,
The complaint reads that the defendant needed money for his son's marriage, and the plaintiff promised to lend the defendant 20,000 yuan, agreeing to return it after one year, and the interest was calculated according to the bank's interest for the same period. I looked at it, and it seemed like the interest of twenty thousand yuan, which was more than 7,000 yuan a year!
I don't understand interest, but I think 7,000 yuan is a bit much.
Then I continued to read the complaint, which reads - a year later, according to the agreement, when the plaintiff asked the defendant for money, the defendant was always impatient, at first saying that there was no money, and then did not even answer the phone, and even blocked the plaintiff's mobile phone number.
Then attached below is the transcription of the call.
The recording material is probably like this: the mother said that the child needs money to buy a house, and let the sister-in-law pay it back.
The sister-in-law said that in the past year, the three grandchildren in the family have to spend money, and they have not saved money, and they have no money on hand.
The mother said - how you talk does not count! The sister-in-law said--I asked my brother to borrow money, not to ask you to borrow money, so that my brother asked me for it! Then the phone hung up.
To tell you the truth, I arranged the complaint according to my mother's wishes and printed several copies. When I came home on the weekend, I pulled my mother aside —you told my sister-in-law about this, did my father know?
Mother said- you don't care, your sister-in-law has gone too far.
Mother said—count on your father, the broccoli is cold.
I'm sure I was talking to my mother in the study, and my father was lying in the bedroom playing with his phone, and must have heard it.
Father just didn't say a word.
My mother smiled, and at that moment, I felt a little panicked in my heart.
Because before the lawsuit, my parents even went to Xinjiang twice to travel, the cost was paid by the eldest cousin of the sister-in-law's family, at that time the eldest cousin did not have money in hand, and there was an IOU in his hand, and there was no money back.
The twenty thousand yuan made me feel so disgusted, and for the first time I felt the narrowness and shame of "human nature".
To be honest, I really sweated for my father—
My wife and I needed to save money to buy a new house at that time, and we looked at a set of large flats, but the money on hand was not enough, if we wanted to force a down payment, all the wealth management products we had on hand would be realized, which meant "killing chickens and taking eggs", and the financial income every month was gone.
I really couldn't do it, so I went home and discussed borrowing money with my mother.
I said there was a house, surrounded by lakes, the scenery was particularly good, I liked a set of large flats, but the down payment was not enough, I wanted to ask my mother to borrow money. Unexpectedly, the mother refused - no borrowing!
The mother's reason was this — my own son, I would never borrow money, I could only give. I said I didn't want my parents' money because I was already living independently, and my mother said—then don't pull this one.
As a result, my mother said a word - you should not worry about the house, and you should not mention the purchase of a house in the future.
This point hit the mother's weakness - well, well, give you twenty thousand yuan, it will be ok!
But I was going to borrow 100,000 yuan at that time, if it was a gap of 20,000 yuan, I just had to turn it around!
I turned and left. I didn't buy that set of large flats. A year later, rough houses rose by 250,000. I had no way, the money on hand was really not enough, so I bought a set of small high-rise. Up to now, my wife has been complaining about me all day, saying that if I can make more money, how comfortable it would be to live in the big flat floor!
My wife was also very angry about the fact that I borrowed money from home, not that my mother did not borrow money, but that I "did not have the backbone" to ask for help at home.
I said at the time — I just wanted to try it out, because my parents didn't have any money, and I still knew.
Both are in the system, there are several houses in the family, there is medical insurance, and there is no place to spend money.
However, through this incident, I found that in the face of family affection and money, my parents' opinions were surprisingly consistent.
Fourth, follow-up - all said to talk about money hurt feelings, these two things finally let me see that my parents love money so much.
This year's Spring Festival, the sister-in-law's family, including the eldest brother and the younger brother, did not come to visit the New Year. I think that not only will they not come this year's Spring Festival, but they will not come to the Spring Festival in the future.
Because my sister-in-law gave up such a big face and begged my father and mother to borrow money, I borrowed twenty thousand yuan, and I had to make an IOU, and I had to calculate interest, and I had to go to court if I didn't pay it back. I admit that our family is in charge, but if I were the role of father, I wouldn't be able to do this.
At first, under the banner of buying a house for me, I politely refused to borrow money from my sister-in-law, and then when I couldn't pull down my face, I had to lend out twenty thousand yuan. If it is not repaid when it is due, it will also be a lawsuit.
In fact, I know my mother, if she hadn't forced her sister-in-law to be anxious, her sister-in-law wouldn't have said it - she was asking her brother to borrow money, and if she still had to ask her brother to open her mouth first! The sister-in-law also worked as a people's teacher, and she also wanted a face, and when she asked her father in a low voice to borrow money, I really didn't dare to look at that scene directly.
Because when the sister-in-law repaid the money, my mother deliberately said that the bank card that received the money would not withdraw the money, so I helped to take it out and take it to buy clothes to wear.
I think it's impossible for a mother not to know how to withdraw money.
I asked my father--your own sister borrowed twenty thousand yuan, you can't be a homemaker, say a hard word, this money is not needed? The father was silent and diverted the topic - well, don't say it, this matter has passed, it is not interesting to say it again!
Father's eyes were a little red and bloodshot—what the hell do you mean, what do you want to say?
I felt as if my father had been forced to lose face by me, and I stopped asking.
Fifth, this matter, if I change to the role of my father, I may deal with it like this.
Of course, for the sake of face, I will not refuse my sister to borrow money, I will tell her - this matter is not urgent, I will find a way.
Because my wife and I are reasonable people, borrowing money has always been "saving the emergency and not saving the poor", my sister's affairs are urgent, I want to help in this matter, but I must ask my wife's consent. On the one hand, it is a respect for my wife, on the other hand, our family is my wife in charge of money, my salary card is in my wife's place, my wife does not agree, I can't get a penny.
Because the economic situation like my sister and brother-in-law is certainly not enough, but I can't watch my nephew as a man for a lifetime, and I don't even know what a woman tastes like, which is too cruel for him. With this 50,000 yuan, give your nephew the courage to be a man, I think it is worth it.
There is another important reason, the heart of the people than the heart, I am to help my sister through the difficulties, in the future she has money, can not pay me back? People's hearts are all flesh, and the trust between people and people is far from being something that an IOU can bear!
The eldest nephew will bring his brother to work hard together, and I believe that as long as young people dare to fight, there are infinite possibilities in the future. I will not look at people with dog eyes, nor will I look at people with old eyes, nor will I stand on the moral high ground when others are in trouble and step on them again.
Why do I give 50,000 instead of 20,000? Because I saw my sister begging for someone so low, it was so sad!
I don't want her to ask for someone else like this, the old father is no longer alive, the eldest in the family is a "wine cat", and my sister does not expect me to count on anyone? So I'm going to help, and I'm going to help.
Sixth, jump out of the circle to see the circle, this matter gives me a few inspirations:
Because I know that in their bones, money is more important than family affection, more important than life, more important than morality and ethics. Since people are unwilling and not active, why force others?
The same borrowing money, the sister-in-law had to borrow money three or four times, and the result was that she borrowed 20,000 yuan, plus more than 7,000 yuan of interest, and she could not afford to fight a lawsuit. And I can not borrow money, do not buy large flats, buy small high-rises that I can afford. Although I regret it now, I regret it, but from my sister-in-law's body, I am afraid that my parents will sue me in court because I can't pay the money - my parents can afford to lose this person, I can't afford to lose this person! Although, I am an only child.
My sister-in-law wanted to borrow 100,000 yuan, and my parents obviously had money, but they lied to my face and only borrowed 20,000 yuan. I really don't know, my parents don't understand, how my son sees them - being too harsh, not having any compassion at all!
This incident also once again proves a truth - it is better to seek others than to seek oneself!
Asking others to help you is really better off begging yourself to fight for breath!