The ancients had clouds and were not close to each other. However, such a simple truth, many people do not understand.
What is the most intimate relationship in a marriage?
It is not the nature of mother and child, not the affection of father and daughter, but the deep love between husband and wife.
Outside of that besieged city, everyone was free to talk about their relatives. But when you enter this besieged city, there is only a husband and wife, the two masters, and as for the rest, the visitors are all guests.
Since they are guests, they should have the consciousness and measure of the guests. We should not cross the thunder pool by half a step, we should not cross the line, and we should not do everything in a big way.
Foreshadowing of the breakdown of a marriage
In the urban emotional drama "Dear Child", in front of the relatives and children on both sides, Xiao Lu's mother-in-law said a word.
This sentence suddenly woke up many viewers, perhaps this is a sign that Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage is about to break down.
After Yinuo gave birth to the child, the sister-in-law he was looking for did not lean on and ran away. Under xiao Lu's request, the mother-in-law came to the house to help take care of her daughter-in-law Yuezi and her granddaughter.
However, because of the difference in the concept of the older generation, taking the child is smoking and watching people play cards.
Suddenly, the granddaughter slipped down the slope and fell. The two of them, holding the child, hurried to the hospital.
The mother-in-law, carrying her luggage, broke into the house in a furious manner.
When the mother-in-law is facing the mother-in-law, dry firewood is on fire, and the cockfighting posture is about to erupt.
When taking the child, neglecting her duties and dropping the child, the mother-in-law herself is already very guilty. Staying at home, I didn't know what to do, so I had to clean up the house.
But as soon as the mother-in-law came to the door, she scolded her mother-in-law.
In the urban emotional drama "All Is Good", there have been similar scenes.
The second son, who was beside the old man, did not seem to take perfect care of Su Daqiang.
The eldest son, Su Mingzhe, who was far away in a foreign country and had never fulfilled his obligation to take care of the elderly, returned. He blamed the younger brother, believing that he had not taken good care of everyone's father.
Whether it is Su Mingzhe or Fang Mu, a person who does nothing, but in front of a person who does things, he picks his nose and eyes.
Many things, more to do more will be more wrong, do nothing, naturally there is no mistake to pick.
Xiao Lu, who rushed back from the hospital with Fang Yinuo, looked at his mother-in-law who was fighting with his own mother-in-law. Xiao Lu, who knew his own loss, hurried forward to ease the atmosphere.
But when Xiao Lu proposed to his mother-in-law, Mom, you give me a face.
Mother Fang naturally blurted out, what face do you have here with me.
Hearing this, not only Xiao Lu, as the son-in-law, but also as the audience, we also lived.
What kind of emotional intelligence can make Fang Mother say such things in front of her daughter, son-in-law and mother-in-law.
Hurt the daughter First hurt the son-in-law
Since ancient times, except for a few men. In most marriages, the woman marries into the man's family.
As a female parent, in order not to let the daughter get angry in the in-laws' house, but also to make the relationship between the daughter and the son-in-law more harmonious, most of them will not be too bad for the son-in-law.
Hurting the son-in-law is hurting the daughter, and the mother's family has given the son-in-law's inner face enough, so that he has one more home and more feelings of love and protection for the elders.
But any son-in-law who is not too, a reasonable father-in-law and a mother-in-law, is a helpful help for the marriage of children.
Moreover, men want face, and Xiao Lu is both a man and a son. No matter how unsatisfactory it was outside, he didn't want to let his mother know and worry about him.
Fang's mother not only did not save face for her son-in-law, but also made him clear. No matter how much you pay for your mother-in-law's family, you will not get the approval of the other party and will not be treated as a family.
Fang's mother did not save face for her son-in-law in front of her own mother, so that she worried that her son, in the family, was not satisfied.
Mother-in-law and mother-in-law often have contradictions because they represent the most fundamental interests of their respective children.
As a daughter and son-in-law, I often need to pretend to be crazy and stupid, acting as a conciliator between the two.
The old man will not deal with each other again. But anyone who does not want to add to the blockage of their children will not be too embarrassed in front of everyone and make the daughter-in-law and son-in-law too embarrassed.
Fang Mu's move was undoubtedly a thorn in Xiao Lu's heart.
Whether the bead will appear or not, as long as the thorn is not pulled out in time. It is possible to take root and sprout in Xiao Lu's heart and grow into a towering tree that can break through this marriage.
When a marriage breaks down, the trigger is not inside or outside
Because she did not believe that her mother-in-law was taking the child, Fang's mother volunteered to join the family.
Since then, the mother-in-law has taken care of the child and the pregnant woman. And stubbornly and proudly asked to continue to stay in this family mother-in-law, can only wash and cook, clean up the house.
At home, you can ask her to wash her hands and ask her to pay attention to hygiene, but you can't let your mother-in-law hold her grandson.
The mother-in-law took her daughter and granddaughter out to breathe, and refused to let the mother-in-law go with her.
Two old men went grocery shopping together, one shrunk his hand, walked ahead, picking and choosing. One pulled the shopping cart and followed suit. From a distance, it looks like the hostess of someone's house, with her own nanny to visit the market.
Such an obvious difference in treatment is an individual, and the heart will not be too comfortable.
As an outsider viewer, the feeling is still the same. As his own son, Xiao Lu saw that his mother was so humble and made such a small prostration, how could his heart feel better.
The mother-in-law could not figure it out, and forced the son-in-law and the family into a corner, laying the groundwork for the breakdown of the daughter's marriage.
In such a marriage, which was constantly problematic, because of the intervention of the mother-in-law, the cracks in the walls were getting bigger and bigger.
Even without that bead, there would be other warblers and swallows.
Many things are the family affairs of the two little families in the marriage. As a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law, she was originally for the happiness of her children and could help, but instead of crossing the thunder pool, she became the evil person who inadvertently beat the Mandarin duck in the siege city.