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Both men and women must understand the importance of separating the family of origin after marriage.
Once it comes to the point of sacrificing a small family to satisfy everyone, that is when the family is unstable.
The heroine in the next case, in the process of unmeasurable help, gradually made her husband unbearable.
Since marrying Tian Xiaojing, He Wei felt that this day was getting past and more hopeless.
This disheartened word did not come out of thin air, but there were too many things in Tian Xiaojing's family.
When they first got married, the two families were not very happy about the bride price.
Because Tian Xiaojing still had a younger brother below, the He Wei family explicitly demanded that the dowry of 120,000 yuan be brought back.
But Tian Xiaojing's mother promised to be good at the dinner table, and as a result, after the marriage was completed, she pretended to be deaf and dumb about the return of the bride price.
He Wei's mother was a straight temper, and asked her daughter-in-law at home why she did not bring back a single point of the bride price.
The indecisive Tian Xiaojing said timidly: "My mother said that the money will be mine sooner or later, and she will take care of me later." ”
The meaning of this statement is obvious, that is, it is impossible to pay back the money.
He Wei's mother did not sleep well at home for several days, and privately counted down her son and found a wife with a brother.
But He Wei had just gotten married, who understood the complexity of this person's sophistication, and felt that marriage was a matter of two people.
Originally, the life of the two young people was quite good, but gradually He Wei found that his wife always liked to drag him back to his mother's house.
It is said that it is not uncommon for the son-in-law to go to his mother-in-law's house as a guest, but every time he buys things in large bags, which is economically unbearable.
You must know that He Wei is only a programmer in a third-tier city, and he works overtime for five or six thousand a month.
As a result, the wife went back to her mother's house once a week, and bought four or five hundred things each time.
After two months, He Wei felt that this was already a heavy burden, so he found an opportunity to talk with his wife.
That time, during dinner, He Wei said solemnly: "Xiao Jing, I understand that you want to go back to your mother's house when you just got married, but I think the cost of two thousand a month is too much." We're going to have children in the future, so how can I save money?" ”
Tian Xiaojing did not get too angry about her husband's complaints.
On the contrary, he comforted him with a good voice and said that he would go once every two or three months in the future, and there was no need to break the fee.
Seeing that his wife could understand him, He Wei was relieved.
The next two families finally lived a quiet life, but He Wei did not expect that his mother-in-law had a new trick.
It turned out that after the mother-in-law knew that He Wei was worried about the cost of buying gifts, she was sullen at home for several days.
Later, the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I became, and I actually called my son-in-law directly. He also said that he liked a mobile phone, can he help her buy it.
This sudden request made He Wei a little overwhelmed, but thinking that it was his mother-in-law after all, he spent more than two thousand to buy a mobile phone.
The mother-in-law who got the mobile phone seems to be in a better mood, but she still mutters that the price of the mobile phone is somewhat cheap.
He Wei was a little embarrassed, but he didn't say much, but he thought that within a few days, the mobile phone would be in the hands of his brother-in-law.
Although he didn't often go back to his mother's house, his brother's affairs Tian Xiaojing still had to be managed.
This brother had just gone to college, and his mother asked Tian Xiaojing to ask He Wei for a computer as a gift.
In the evening, He Wei dragged his tired body back from work and heard his wife tell him about buying a computer.
He hesitated for a moment before agreeing, after all, the brother-in-law was admitted to college, when the brother-in-law had to express.
So on the weekend, the two families chose a computer of more than 5,000, and swiped He Wei's credit card when paying.
After the mother-in-law got the computer, her face was full of joy, and she was warm to her son-in-law again.
Later, when the brother-in-law started school, he let He Wei wrap a red envelope of three thousand.
At this time, He Wei was a little unhappy in his heart, but after complaining to his wife every time, Tian Xiaojing asked him not to be so stingy.
In the years when his brother-in-law went to college, He Wei spent more than 20,000 yuan before and after.
It is not the brother-in-law who wants to change his mobile phone, or the small red envelope of the school bag. He Wei did not dare to tell his mother about these things, otherwise he would scold him again.
Therefore, he can only complain to his wife about these dissatisfactions, and he also hopes that his mother-in-law's family can ask for less money.
But Tian Xiaojing agreed to talk to her mother with her lips, but in fact, she did not trust this matter at all.
In her heart, helping her brother is also a matter that should be divided, and the family cannot be so clearly distinguished.
Although He Wei was irritable in his heart, he thought that his brother-in-law would not always let him pay for it when he graduated from work.
But who knew that the brother-in-law had not worked after graduation, and he squatted at home.
This can make He Wei sad, because he now has one more responsibility, that is, to solve the problem of the brother-in-law's work.
This was a task given to him by his mother-in-law and his wife, but he introduced several jobs, and the brother-in-law was not satisfied, not that the money was too small or too tired.
With such a delicious and lazy brother-in-law on the stall, He Wei didn't have to mention how annoyed he was. The most infuriating thing is that the brother-in-law still has the face to ask him for money.
Fortunately, this time it is hundreds of hundreds of wants, mainly used to buy tobacco and alcohol on the Internet.
Finally, I heard that my brother-in-law found a class, which was to do sales work, and there were more than 10,000 when the performance was good.
Originally, He Wei was very happy for his brother-in-law, but the next thing that happened at home made him intolerable.
It turned out that my mother-in-law was sixty years old this year, and she was ready to do a good job, and this big birthday was lively and lively.
The mother-in-law began to want to do it at a large hotel in the city, and when she learned that her son-in-law He Wei was unwilling to pay the bill, she decided to do it at home.
The brother-in-law ordered a six-layer cake that day, which looked intimidating but the production was relatively rough.
A large table of dishes is very rich, all made by Tian Xiaojing alone. And He Wei prepared a large red envelope of 6666 in advance, which was auspicious.
In the gap between meals, He Wei took out the big red envelope he had prepared, and also blessed his mother-in-law Shoubi Nanshan, smiling often.
But the mother-in-law sat still for a while, and after seven or eight seconds she smiled and groaned: "He Wei, my mother still thinks you have no money, otherwise she would not let me do it in the hotel." This red envelope looks like there is no ten thousand bar, hey the old lady next door received more than fifty thousand red envelopes for life, you are too little ah ha ha. ”
He Wei's face turned red, and this remark made him completely explode. He flipped the table all over the table and shouted loudly: "Mom, you have to speak according to your conscience, have I spent less money on my family over the years?" If you have one of you who have eaten me, why should you frame me! Why blame me for your reluctant money when you have a birthday?"
The old lady who said this was angry and did not dare to speak, and finally could only cry bitterly.
And his wife also got into trouble with him when she got home, saying that he wouldn't give her mother's face.
In the face of this physically and mentally exhausted marriage, He Wei finally chose to divorce without hesitation this time...
The hero in the case finally chooses to end this unfair marriage and stay away from his wife's unsatisfied family.
This tells us that marriage is not only a matter of two families, but also to keep the following two guidelines in mind.
02
One: Confusion is a manifestation of immaturity.
A partner who can't figure it out will always be unable to see through people's hearts and can't tell the world.
Therefore, it is easy to be swayed by the language of others and go farther and farther on the wrong road.
This kind of immaturity is not only due to the improper education of the original family, but also from the problem of their own cognition.
Under these multiple influences, they also maintained wrong thinking habits after marriage.
The wife in this case is actually mainly responsible for the failure of the marriage.
It is in her unclear behavior that her husband is completely disappointed and gives up step by step.
In the end, only divorce can liberate the hero and free him from endless exploitation.
So this also warns every married couple not to make a fool of themselves within the marriage.
Sooner or later you will find that nothing is more important than your own family.
03
Second: Whether it is a man or a woman, after marriage, we must put the interests of the small family first.
Not all married men and women are well versed in the division of the family.
Because of their attachment to their original families, children always have difficulty adapting after marriage.
So he took his partner to serve the original family until his marriage began to fall apart.
Therefore, the first lesson before marriage is to understand that marriage is the beginning of a split family, the beginning of a completely independent personality.
You must know that whether it is a man or a woman, you must put the interests of the small family first.
Because once married, your first responsibility is to protect the interests of your small family and protect your partner.
Don't be like the heroine in the case, who has been helping her mother exploit her husband, and finally there is only one way to divorce.
I hope that all couples can support your little family, and I hope that all parents can learn to let go.
04
Happiness in the family is always hard-won.
Therefore, cherishing and gratitude are what everyone should remember.
Do not be swayed by others at will, at the expense of your partner's interests.
Know that you truly love your family and will not disregard your future.
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