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The other day, when chatting with colleagues, I talked about the topic of aunt and nephew.
The reason was that a colleague was preparing to sign up for a summer camp for the little niece as a birthday gift for the little niece's 10th birthday.
Because the cost of the summer camp is not cheap, many colleagues in the office have lamented that this is a generous good aunt, and some people frankly admit that only the aunt will love the nephew from the bottom of her heart, and it is estimated that many of them are superficial kung fu.
My colleague's approach reminds me of a screenshot I swiped on the Internet not long ago.
In a group of writing parents, an aunt enrolled her child in a training class to improve her nephew's writing level, and not only that, but the aunt also undertook all the costs of the training class.
Unsurprisingly, there were parents in the group who immediately praised her as a "good aunt in China", and some parents said that it was common for aunts to hurt nephews, on the contrary, it was difficult for aunts to have such a heart for nephews.
Why is it common for aunts to hurt nephews, but uncles to hurt nephews rarely? This is more important than blood
Why do aunts generally love their nephews and nieces? Let's first listen to what netizens say:
@ Discipline as I am: My aunt is related to my nephew by blood, and my aunt and nephew are not related by blood.
@ Anon. 2: I am the aunt who hurts my nephew and niece, the aunt who does not hurt my nephew, the nephew and niece who do the wrong thing I can say as if I were my own child, I can educate, my sister and brother will not say anything, it is all for the good of the child, my child is doing wrong, they will also educate, but the nephew can't say.
@ My two children: blood is too important, I love my nephews and nieces very much, I also love my sister's children, my husband hurts his nephews and nieces, I just do a good job of superficial kung fu, the heart is really close.
@ Strange Rain: The aunt and nephew are not only related by blood, but also the mother's family with the same surname, and my brother and I have had a good relationship since childhood, so now I hurt his daughter as much as I do to my own daughter.
The most direct reason why the relationship between aunt and nephew is closer is blood relations.
Since the nephew and niece are the children of their own brother or brother, and the aunt and they are the same surname, the aunt and the nephew and niece are close to each other, and the aunt and nephew and niece are relatives with blood relations, so the relationship between them will be very close.
And there is no blood relationship between the aunt and the nephew, nor is it a surname, the two are at most related to the uncle, so the aunt hurts the nephew more than the aunt hurts the nephew.
Of course, in addition to blood relations, some people who have come over have also explained several more important reasons.
1. As a daughter who marries off, the aunt is very reluctant and dependent on her family.
It is said that the daughter who marries out spills water, but for women, even if they are married and have children, they are still very reluctant and dependent on their mother's family.
Therefore, in the eyes of the aunt, the children of the brother and brother are also their own mother's family, so the aunt loves her nephews and nieces is also a manifestation of her closeness to the mother's family.
2. Some aunts were born into patriarchal families.
Some women were born in patriarchal families and were influenced by their parents' feudal ideas from an early age, believing that as older sisters, they must supplement their older brothers and younger brothers.
Therefore, even if they are married and have children, such women will still find ways to repay their mother's family, and the easiest way is to love their nephews and nieces.
Of course, we are not opposed to aunts being good to nephews and nieces, but we also do not agree that women care for their juniors out of a patriarchal mentality and regardless of their own small family interests.
3. When my aunt was a child, she had a very good relationship with her brother and brother.
In families with many children, many brothers and sisters get along very well.
If the aunt is a sister and is often loved by her brother when she is a child, then when she grows up, the aunt will return this love to her brother's children, that is, her own nephew or niece.
Similarly, if the aunt is the older of the siblings and often takes care of the younger brother when she is a child, then when the younger brother grows up, the aunt will habitually transfer her love for the younger brother to their children.
Therefore, in addition to blood, the friendship between brothers and sisters is also the biggest motivation for aunts to hurt their nephews, and it is also a more important point.
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