Chinese culture is broad and profound, has a long history, and is all-encompassing, and one of the branches is the colloquialism. Sayings, both easy to understand, but also concise, many sayings are passed down from generation to generation of people, word of mouth, handed down to the present, the saying comes from life, acts on life, involves a wide range of fields, covers all aspects of people's daily production and life, today to talk about this saying, for "people have three no relatives", the saying said three no kisses, in addition to uncle, uncle, there is another who?
First, uncle
Why did the ancients think that the uncle was not close? There are mainly two deeply rooted concepts of the ancients as the dominant one. The first is the preference for sons over women, because in ancient times it was an agrarian society, men dominated labor, so the ancient clan society was dominated by male blood, and once a woman was married, she was like a daughter who married out, spilling water. In the eyes of the ancients, once the aunt got married, the relationship with the mother's family began to be estranged, except for the New Year's festival or what major things happened in the mother's family, the aunt rarely returned to the mother's house, and the relationship with the aunt became unkind, not to mention the uncle!
In addition, the uncle belongs to the son-in-law of the aunt's family, has no blood connection, belongs to a different surname, and is called a foreign family. As the saying goes, "a son-in-law goes to the grave and insults his ancestors", this is the truth.
Second, uncle
The ancients distinguished the closeness of the relationship through the distance of the bloodline, whether it was an uncle or an uncle, because a woman was related to the family, and the blood relationship was estranged. What's more, in ancient times, it was a male clan society, and the inheritance of blood was mainly based on the patrilineal line.
The uncle is more distant than the uncle, so the aunt is patrilineal and the aunt is matrilineal. There are also related sayings that illustrate this truth, such as: "Aunt is an aunt, aunt is an aunt, uncle and uncle are ridiculous"
Third, aunt
Finally, many people may not think that aunts (called uncles and aunts in some places) also belong to one of the "three no-kisses". Of course, there are also related sayings, such as the phrase "dear uncle, fake concubine", which means that your uncle's concern for you is from the bottom of your heart, and your aunt's booing and warm greetings to you are only a form.
In the same way, your aunt is not related to you by blood, and at the same time has a foreign surname.
summary:
As the saying goes, "The aunt is dead, the aunt is dead, the uncle is gone, and the rest of the old cousins are not coming", the ancients distinguished the relationship between each other through the distance of the bloodline, but as time goes by, the generations of descendants will still become estranged.
Eight hundred years ago, it was a family, and now we don't know each other, although this sentence is exaggerated, but it also reflects reality.
This saying that "people have three unrelated relatives" only revolves around blood relations, and the relatives who are not related by blood, such as uncles, uncles, and aunts, are classified as unrelated, but the contradiction is that although these three unrelated relatives are not related by blood, their spouses or children are related by blood, and their spouses or children are the bonds of relationship.
Today, this saying has become unusable because it one-sidedly emphasizes blood relations and ignores the relationship between people, and most importantly, the feelings between each other. As in "Journey to the West", the sand monk said to Sun Wukong: "Don't come to the door for three years, don't kiss when you kiss"
What do you think about that? Comments are welcome.