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Love and marriage are different, as long as two people like each other and have a certain mind, they can be together regardless of whether they are together, even if two people eventually go their separate ways, it does not matter, because from beginning to end it is a matter for the two of you, no need to worry too much, as long as you obey the heart.
But marriage is different, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, the people involved are not only both of you, the cost of ending a relationship is too high, so in the face of marriage, we must be cautious.
The road to marriage is difficult, you have to go through a lot of difficulties to be able to enter the marriage hall smoothly, but marriage is only the beginning, there is still a long way to go in the future, and two people still have to face many, many tests.
From the moment we choose to get married, we are all determined to have the best hope, determined that we can definitely grow old with each other, at that time full of joy into the married life of two people, we will not think too much, we often overestimate each other's love, but also underestimated the difficulty of marriage, until those many tribulations are blocked in front of us, only to find that the original marriage is really fragile.
Leo Tolstoy said: Happy marriages are all similar, and unhappy marriages are different.
In fact, such a view should be divided into two, of course, those happy marriages, they will have some similarities, but at the same time, unhappy marriages, you can also find similarities, some marriages, as long as we carefully observe, we can basically determine their ending.
When watching "Heart Residence", Gu Xinyue's marriage, Gu Qingyue and Shi Yuan's marriage, even if we don't look at the finale, we can infer that their marriage is precarious, it is difficult to go to the end, there is a common point is that each other is too tired in this relationship, in their marriage, we can all have some inspiration.
Once these problems arise in marriage, it is difficult to last.
Parents on both sides meddle in too many marriages, and it is difficult to last
Marriage is ultimately a matter of two small families, no matter how much contradiction is encountered between two people, because they have that affection for each other, as long as they understand each other, calm and face, things can always be resolved.
But once both parents begin to mix, it will only aggravate the contradiction in the end, so that many otherwise small problems are infinitely magnified.
It is true that parents are for the sake of their own children, because of this bias, it is easy to pull a bias, too much interference, and finally will only separate the feelings between husband and wife, so that contradictions between each other.
In "Heart Residence", the marriage of Ge Yue and Gu Xin has such a problem, the hands of the parents of both sides are too long, and they are constantly mixed up between the two of them, making each other very unhappy.
The two mothers looked down on each other, Su Wangdi climbed up to this rich relative, both in the open and in the dark, and had a lot of discipline over Ge Yue, disgusted that she spent money and spends a lot of money, always spoke without measure, and frequently picked her thorns, especially after the fall of Ge Yue's family, it was aggravated, and it was difficult to communicate with her calmly.
At the same time, Ge Yue's mother also had a lot of dislike for Gu Xin, and she couldn't look at him at all in her bones, saying that she was better than him when she closed her eyes and picked her son-in-law.
With the mixture of parents, it is difficult for the two of them to have time alone, and they are exhausted just to cope with their parents. The difficulty of marriage is not only in the broken feelings of two people, but also in the need to dot the relationship becomes more, as long as the third party frequently inserts, it will inevitably deepen the gap between the husband and wife, it is difficult to calm.
If the parents are really for their own good, they must learn to let go, your interference will only affect their feelings, the parents intervene too much, and the marriage is difficult to last.
The door is not the right marriage, love is too tired
Marriage is to pay attention to the right door, the door is not right marriage, love is too tired.
Two people's family situation and income level need to maintain a basic equal height, this marriage can run smoothly, once the relationship has a high climb, low marriage and other words exist, marriage is difficult to maintain equality.
The so-called door-to-door pair is not only the condition of the two families, but also the basic conditions of both men and women, but if the conditions are not equal, love will also be unbalanced.
Ge Yue and Gu Xin's two people's family door is not right, for Gu Xin, this marriage is really high, from the beginning Ge Yue's mother did not look up to him, no matter what he did, the contempt in his bones was difficult to eliminate.
With this mustard, Gu Xin always felt inferior, he couldn't look up in front of them, outsiders looked bright and beautiful, and the taste of it was only understood by himself.
Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan were also harassed by their mother-in-law, but the biggest problem between the two of them was not others, but themselves.
For Shi Yuan, he married Gu Qingyu and he climbed high, Shi Yuan is very clear, the inferiority in his heart has been lingering, although Gu Qingyu has been doing everything possible to take care of his self-esteem and face, but his heart has always been very awkward, unable to accept her goodness.
Men's self-esteem is too strong, it is not necessarily a good thing in love, the two of them will feel very polite and estranged, less intimate between husband and wife.
They both loved each other, but one was humble in love, one was carefully guarding his self-esteem, and both sides were too tired. The relationship between the two of them is like a glass bottle, which can break at any moment. Such a marriage is full of rifts from the beginning and is difficult to last.
Caring too much about a person will accelerate the decline of feelings
Gu Qingyu is a very sober person, facing other people's marriages, you can analyze the head of the Tao, but when it is your turn, that lucidity and sanity are completely lost, and you become completely unlike yourself in this relationship.
She was in the workplace, but in front of Shi Yuan, she loved carefully and did everything to please, because she looked too hard, but she became suffering from gain and loss, and lost herself.
In order not to hurt his self-esteem, he secretly bought the piano, and after being punctured, it actually stung Shi Yuan's self-esteem even more. She's done too well in the relationship, cares too much about him, and instead does something that feels uncomfortable.
Secretly stalking him, obviously knowing that he secretly stayed up late at night to translate materials, did not dare to break it, obviously broke him and lied to himself, but also pretended not to know, such a careful love, as a spectator we all feel very tired.
She said: She has never liked a person like this, please him, even his parents, just hope that he will not be too careful, not angry, but as her girlfriend said: you are too concerned about this relationship, too nervous, but will mess things up, it is better to try to relax, lower expectations, maybe better.
Caring too much about a person is often likely to have a counterproductive effect, blindly caring about the other party's ideas, constantly pleasing him, and finally losing himself, loving too tightly, and also making the other party feel uncomfortable, so that it will accelerate the decline of love.
Sometimes, two people can't come together, not because they don't love, but because they love too much, and they love so much that both sides feel depressed and tired, and finally only by letting go is liberation.
Those who can't get to the end of the marriage will also have something in common.
Marriage is a matter of two families, but in the final analysis, it is still a matter of two people, if other people are over-mixed, in the end it will only affect the feelings of the husband and wife.
Door-to-door pairs still exist in real marriages, an unequal marriage, both parties will feel tired in love. This is especially true in marriages where women are strong and men are weak. If you want to break, men must eliminate that inferiority complex and make themselves stronger, rather than pushing the other party away.
Finally, love a person again, do not be humble and flattering, care too much about a person, but will accelerate the decline of love, want to be long-term, you need to try your best to avoid the above problems, so that both parties can love comfortably, love calmly.