Text/BeiShu Source: Beishu Youyue (beishu2016)
Feelings in the world can hardly escape the change of heart, and men are the biggest variable among them.
If you become loveless, in the blink of an eye, it is the end of the world, and you can only chase the memories of the past and shed bitter tears;
But if you become more and more loving, you will be allowed to spend the rest of your life, accompanying you from green silk to white hair, and the sun is setting again.
Changing hearts is not an act of thin affection, but the more men who love you, the easier it is to change their hearts.
Not to become unloving, but to become more affectionate.
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Meet You: From Heartless to Heartless
In feelings, the partner's unintentionality is the most desperate.
No heart to pay attention to your emotional changes, no heart to care about your grievances, no tolerance, no care, some are just cold and impatient.
Just like Yang Zheng in the TV series "Two Conjectures of Marriage", his patience with Shen Mingbao after marriage decreases day by day.
She was not relieved when she was emotionally sensitive to pregnancy, late in her labor bleeding, and impatient when she was depressed in her postpartum mood.
On the other hand, Chen Tonggang, although he took the initiative to propose a divorce to Xue Kexin, he still silently cared about her after separation.
At night, he would help her order takeaway, remember her preferences when eating, wrap her favorite dumplings, and take care of her everywhere after knowing that she was pregnant.
In contrast, love or no love, no heart or no heart, how obvious.
Heartless people are always ruthless, will be impatient with every word you say, will be stingy with even a little care and warmth. It doesn't matter if you're upset or if you leave.
Only a person with a heart will care about your joys and sorrows, and will be willing to take care of the trivialities of your life, in his eyes, as long as everything related to you, no matter how big or small, can not be ignored.
Only with a heart will there be love, and only then will it be truly willing to pay.
As Roland said: "When you truly love someone, you will forget your own bittersweet gains and losses, and only care about the other party's bittersweet gains and losses." ”
The more people who love you, the more they will forget themselves and the more they will want to do something for you to make you happy.
I think this should be the best look for a man when he loves a woman.
So ah, don't think that men's unintentionality is just dull, just busy.
In fact, he just doesn't love, so he doesn't care.
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Falling in Love with You: From Flower Heart to Concentration
It is said that liking the new and hating the old is the inferior nature of men.
In fact, I just haven't met someone I really want to love.
If a man really falls in love with you, he will change from a flower heart to a concentration, and you will become his only choice for the rest of his life.
Not the casualness of "yes you can do it", but the only "can only be you".
Because he has fallen in love with you, the other person has become a general, and he is not willing to do it.
Because I have loved you miserably, I can no longer tolerate others in my heart, and naturally I am unwilling to look at the scenery elsewhere.
As a line in the movie "Heartbeat" said:
"Inadvertently, one day you will meet a rainbow-like person, and from then on, everyone else will be just a rushing cloud." 」
For feelings, someone once said: "It is an instinct for men to spend their hearts, and concentration is a choice." ”
I'm impressed with that.
Concentration is not an innate talent of a man, but a transformation he makes after falling in love with someone.
That's the first choice, it's preference, it's the exception that wants to put you first no matter what, it's just like your favorite no matter how much scenery around you.
In this age of temptation, the true heart of the person who can change from a flower heart to a concentration, and give you all the enthusiasm and love.
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Identify you: from careless to careful
See a passage:
"There may be many people who say they like you, but people who know how to take care of your emotions are the most precious." The gentleness in the details, those who have a heart do not have to teach, and those who have no heart really cannot teach. ”
True. People who really love you will always hide their love in the details, pay attention to your emotions, and take care of your needs carefully.
For example, will seriously catch your every word and not let your words fall to the ground;
Will silently remember the favorite things you accidentally mentioned, and then send them to you;
Will pick up what you have in hand, cross the street will hold you firmly by your side, and notice your every unhappiness in time.
Only people who don't care about you will be careless when they get along with you.
I can't remember your preferences, I can't understand your little emotions, and I never pay attention to your needs.
John Gottman once said:
"The key to the success of a relationship is not in a candlelit dinner, nor on a romantic beach, but to care about each other, to care for the small moments of life." 」
Only when people truly identify a person will they change from carelessness to carefulness, which is a manifestation of subconscious.
The more people who love you, the more delicate their hearts are, the more careful they will be to infiltrate their concern for you into every tiny moment of life.
Love is like this, the more you like it, the more timid you are.
Afraid of your grievances, afraid of your disappointment, afraid that you feel that he is not worth entrusting for a lifetime, so be careful, so carefully take care of it.
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Good feelings: all know how to change their hearts
When two people are together, it is inevitable that there will be stumbling, and it is inevitable that they will go through the wind and rain.
If you want to stick to a feeling in this time, in addition to having love in your heart, you must also know how to "change your heart".
From meeting a person, to loving a person, and finally identifying a person's firmness.
From unintentional to intentional, flowery to attentive, and careless to attentive.
Only by doing this, can this feeling resist the long years and keep the clouds open and see the moon.
Finally, may everyone have a person who "changes your heart" for you, a love that "changes your heart" for love, and experience the feeling of loving and being loved in the change again and again.
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