1. The enviable happy life is full of countless twists and turns and hardships
Xu Yajun, who is over fifty years old now, has achieved brilliant development in his career and harmony and perfection in his family. The love between him and his fourth wife, Zhang Shu, is deep and enviable; Their two sons, the eldest is 22 years old and the younger is only 13 years old, and the whole family is filled with a peaceful and joyful atmosphere.
Whenever people ask about his emotional journey full of twists and turns, Xu Yajun always said firmly: "Although I have experienced four marriages and even cheated during my marriage, this does not mean that I am distracted, but out of a responsible attitude towards my feelings."
With such candor tone, he tried to give a reasonable explanation and justification for his actions.
Indeed, looking back on Xu Yajun's life journey, we can see that he has not been smooth all the way. He has experienced four marriages, and even once fell into an extramarital affair with He Qing. These things may sound bizarre, but he never lost faith in his relationship because of this, and finally found the confidant who could bring him happiness and lived a happy life.
We have to admit that the veteran actor's life experience is indeed full of dramatic twists that make people sigh. This is how he bravely walked through the hardships and dangers of life, and finally won his own happiness.
Second, a young man with a dream, determined to pursue excellence
Looking back at Xu Yajun's youth, he was born in an ordinary family, and his father was an ordinary worker. However, his parents loved him very much, and as the youngest child in the family, he was pampered and willful from an early age.
When he was 8 years old, he first realized the true meaning of success and failure. Due to his outstanding appearance, he was recommended to audition for the movie "Beacon Boy", but unfortunately failed in the end because of his height.
This defeat sparked his endless yearning and curiosity about the world.
Three years later, the opportunity struck again. 11-year-old Xu Yajun got the opportunity to audition for "Youth Like Fire", and this time, he finally got his wish. During the filming of the film, he was deeply moved by the emotions of the character and became deeply interested in acting, so he decided to become an actor.
At the age of 12, Xu Yajun was successfully admitted to the children's actor class set up by the China Academy of Drama at that time, and established a deep friendship with his classmate Cai Guoqing. Who would have thought that this former classmate and friend would later become a household name and famous singer? .
After graduating at the age of 16, Xu Yajun was assigned to work in the children's theater, and since then he has started his career as an actor in the field of stage drama.
In his youth, Xu Yajun pursued his own ideals with unswerving determination. Even if he suffered a small setback, he was not afraid, but became more and more motivated and forged ahead!
3. Taste the sweet fruit for the first time and taste the bitter taste of life
At the age of twenty-one, Xu Yajun became famous for his delicate portrayal of the role of "Earl" in the hit TV series "Looking for the World Back", and won the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actor in one fell swoop.
At the time of the initial success of his career, he also ushered in another major change in his life - the advent of love.
At that time, he and Huang Jianping, a young actress who also worked in the Art Theater, understood each other and fell in love.
Subsequently, he did not hesitate to propose to the person he loved, and the two successfully entered the sacred hall of marriage.
In order to get rid of the pain brought by reality, Xu Yajun devoted himself to his work. Since 1988, he has entered a high-intensity continuous filming mode, participating in the filming of 3 film and television dramas almost every year, going back and forth between various crews.
suffered such a heavy blow as soon as he stepped into the entertainment industry, Xu Yajun temporarily put his emotions aside and devoted himself to his career to seek comfort.
However, good times are always short-lived, and in 1992, he won the Feitian Award and the Golden Eagle Award for Best Serial Drama for the drama "Wind and Rain Beauty", and his career reached the peak, and his love life also opened a new chapter.
This time, he met and fell in love with the well-known actor Zhang Si, and finally tied the knot. Zhang sighed and resolutely left the showbiz for this marriage, and the future of the two looks bright.
Fourth, be willing to bear the name of a negative man and indulge in the romantic feelings of wind and snow
However, life after marriage is not all smooth sailing, and trivial daily affairs are full of it. In the course of their marriage to Zhang Wei, due to the long-term separation of the two places and the lack of communication, the two gradually became estranged.
Eventually, they had to choose their own paths.
When this relationship was not completely released, an unexpected opportunity in 1995 made Xu Yajun's love life fall into a new predicament again.
In the years of that year, during the filming of the TV series "Wind and Lotus Resentment", he had an indescribable subtle emotion with He Qing, who played the heroine in it.
At that time, He Qing's worth was immeasurable, she not only successfully created the image of classic beauties such as Li Shishi and Xiao Qiao in the four famous Chinese novels, but also became famous many times with her outstanding performances; What's more, she was also a high-profile actor at the time, and the quality of her work was also quite outstanding.
However, in the face of such a hot actress, Xu Yajun fell in love with her at first sight as if he was tricked by fate. In their relationship with the crew, a spark of love gradually ignited.
As for his ex-wife Zhang, he seems to have forgotten all about it.
He Qing was not single at that time, she once had a relationship with actor Liu Wei for several years and lived together. However, in the face of Xu Yajun's passionate pursuit, she finally chose to betray her former love and started a new life journey with Xu Yajun.
As a result, a couple who were scolded by the world as "negative men" and "little three" were born. Xu Yajun resolutely left his wife for He Qing; And He Qing also gave up the time spent with Liu Wei for many years for Xu Yajun.
They embark on a crazy and desperate love affair.
Soon after, they walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand, and soon ushered in the crystallization of their love - a lovely boy named "Xu He", symbolizing the eternity of their love.
For the sake of this newly formed family, He Qing even took the initiative to slow down her acting career and devote herself to the daily chores of taking care of her husband and children.
However, married life is not as rosy as it seems, and the chasm is quietly deepening. As an actor, Xu Yajun is running around all year round, and the time he spends less and less time with his family.
And He Qing was not willing to completely give up the acting career he loved, and the two had a huge disagreement on the issue of raising their children.
"We did have a lot of arguments during that time, and in the end we broke up because we couldn't agree on how to arrange the children properly." Xu Yajun recalled the bits and pieces of the past, and his tone was full of endless regret.
Finally, in 2003, the once loving couple signed a divorce agreement, He Qing left the family with regrets, and the custody of the child was finally left to Xu Yajun. At this point, his third marriage also ended in failure.
After the divorce, Xu Yajun still stuck to his job and worked hard to raise his son. Although he experienced several emotional twists and turns, he did not feel afraid of love because of this, but behaved more open-mindedly and calmly.
It was not until a valuable opportunity to cooperate in the spring and autumn of the past three years that Mr. Xu Yajun was fortunate to meet and fall in love with Ms. Zhang Shu, a well-known emerging actor at that time.
Even though Xu Yajun had already entered middle age at this time and already had a son under his knees, Ms. Zhang Shu still could not resist the attraction of his profound wisdom and unique personality charm.
In the short but beautiful time together, Ms. Zhang Shu not only showed excellent quality and deep maternal love, but also made Mr. Xu Yajun have a strong admiration for her.
After three years of lovesickness, they finally tied the knot in 2009 and embarked on a new chapter in their lives together.
For those intricate emotional entanglements in the past, Mr. Xu Yajun has always maintained a taciturn attitude and never revealed too many details to the outside world. "Although I have been through four marriages and even made mistakes during them, it may sound ridiculous.
However, I have always been sincere in my pursuit of true love, but sometimes it is a little blind and impulsive," he said frankly.
Sixth, the fallen leaves return to the roots, and finally enjoy the family
Looking back on the past years, Mr. Xu Yajun is full of regret and reflection on his emotional journey. "I must admit that I was indeed too headstrong and too rash in my attitude towards feelings.
Zhang Na resolutely gave up his acting career for me, but I failed to give enough attention and returns; In order to spend the rest of her life with me, He Qing did not hesitate to abandon her ex-boyfriend, but I quickly left her."
However, whenever asked why he chose to leave his ex-wife, Mr. Xu Yajun always replied firmly: "I just want to be responsible for my feelings." "Emotions come and go so fast, and I've never seen it as a game.
I have loved each and every one of my wives with all my heart, and I have done my duty to them."
Indeed, at the beginning of every relationship, Mr. Xu Yajun poured all his sincerity. It's just that over time, various factors lead to the breakdown of the relationship. In the face of these problems, he never tried to shirk responsibility.
"I've been divorced, but I've never owed any of my ex-wives living expenses, and my sons have been raised by me."
Today, Mr. Xu Yajun, who has become two fathers, is immersed in a happy family life. "Zhang Shu is the last partner in my life and my closest confidant.
We have a heart-to-heart and she is the person I cherish most in the world."
After the vicissitudes of life, Xu Yajun's life has gone through half a century! In the process, he has experienced numerous ups and downs and difficulties. "When I was starting my career as an actor, I was brutally eliminated because I was too short.
However, despite this, I remained steadfast in pursuing my dreams and gradually gained recognition through unremitting efforts, however, the road to marriage was not all smooth sailing, but full of ups and downs" However, these are regarded as the only way to go in life, and he has no complaints about it, but faces it with a positive and optimistic attitude.