The writer Palos said in "Bump World": There is no betrayal, just the expiration of loyalty.
It is true, especially in our real life, for every relationship between men and women, the most important thing is of course the word "loyalty".
Whether it is for marriage or love, loyalty is the basis of two people's relationship, a man only loves his wife (girlfriend) alone, and in the same way, a woman only loves her husband (boyfriend) alone.
But whether a person is loyal or not has little to do with whether he is happy in marriage or not, and whether he is affectionate or not, but depends on his personal quality.
In other words, a woman with a truly good character, no matter what the circumstances, will not betray her other half, nor will she do anything to be sorry for the other person.
On the contrary, a woman who does not know how to keep her duty, no matter how good and outstanding her other half is, and how good she is to herself, she will still be restless and keep to herself, and even carry her other half behind her back and do things that are sorry for him.
Therefore, if a woman has these four aspects of performance, most of them are very attentive and stay away when they notice it.
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Changing boyfriends is faster than flipping through a book, and there are a lot of ex-boyfriends
Have you ever met a woman whose love history is as rich as a novel? Changing boyfriends is faster than flipping through a book, and there are too many ex-boyfriends to count.
Whenever you ask about her past, she always says to you lightly: "That's all in the past, why mention it?" "But don't let her fool you.
Li Yinhe, a famous teacher of marriage and emotion, once said: "A person's past, especially emotional experience, can often reflect her attitude towards feelings." ”
If a woman changes partners frequently, it is likely that she lacks deep thought and investment in every relationship. Because in her opinion, love may be just a game, and if you get tired of playing, you will replace the next one. Such a woman, can you expect her to treat you sincerely?
02
I'm obviously with you, but I think other men are good in my heart
There is a kind of woman who is already with you, but her heart is like a kite, floating on other men forever.
She always mentions the good things about other men in front of you, and even compares you to them. Whenever this happens, do you feel particularly heartbroken?
Teacher Tu Lei once said: "True love is the fit of two people's hearts, not unilateral worship and envy." ”
If a woman is always distracted when she is with you and thinks that other men are better than you, how deep can her feelings for you be? Such a woman, her heart will never settle down, so why waste your time on her?
03
I like to play ambiguously with other members of the opposite sex.,Don't refuse any man's approach.
There is such a kind of woman, she especially likes to play ambiguously with other members of the opposite sex. She's always surrounded by all kinds of men, and she's happy about it.
When you are with her, she never refuses the approach of other men, and even flirts with other men in front of you. Can you accept such behavior?
Emotional expert Su Qin once said: "Ambiguity is the most dangerous game in the emotional world, it often starts with sweetness and ends with pain." ”
If a woman usually likes to play ambiguously, how sincere can she be to your feelings? She may just treat you like one of the spare tires, enjoying the kindness you have to her, but never thought to give you a clear answer. Such a woman is really not worth your feelings to waste on her.
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When she sees a handsome guy, she can't walk, and she will take the initiative to add each other's friends
There is also a kind of woman who can't walk when she sees a handsome guy. Whether it is on the street, in a shopping mall, or in a social situation, as long as she sees a handsome guy, her eyes will be like glue.
What's more, she will also take the initiative to add the other party's WeChat or social account to chat with each other happily. This kind of behavior is simply treating you as air.
Emotional expert Lu Qi said: "True love is when two people attract each other, rather than unilaterally falling in love." ”
If a woman can't walk when she sees a handsome guy, and will take the initiative to add the other party's friends, how sincere can she be to your feelings?
She may just see you as a temporary haven and will not hesitate to leave you once she meets someone more suitable. With such a woman, you really don't need to waste time and energy on her.
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In the world of relationships, we all long to meet the right person and spend the rest of our lives hand in hand. But the reality is often cruel, and sometimes the people we meet are not worth our heart.
So, keep your eyes peeled and watch her behavior carefully. If she has these four aspects of performance, then please let go decisively and find the happiness that truly belongs to you.
Love is not a game, nor is it a gamble. We should not waste our time and energy on those who don't deserve it. Only when we find the right person can we reap the rewards of happy love and a happy marriage.
I like a sentence written by Yishu very much: self-love, calmness, and then love.
Yes, in the final analysis, whether male or female, we should have our own principles and bottom lines as human beings, and we must know how to restrain the desires in our hearts, so that we are not controlled by desires, thus ruining everything for ourselves.
Especially for female friends, in the process of getting along with friends of the opposite sex, they should know how to respect and love themselves, one is to protect themselves and not let themselves be hurt easily, and the other is to harvest true love, so as to gain the respect of others and obtain a more beautiful and permanent love.