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The relationship between men and women, in fact, has never been as complicated as we imagined, although it is not very simple, but it is not difficult to distinguish between sincerity and flower, and it is not difficult to distinguish between careful feeling!
A counselor once told me about his past experience:
Teacher, when I was with her at first, she was always surrounded by suitors, and she was also very "troubled" about this. In order to digest our common troubles, we even changed our mobile phone numbers and social media use......
However, that's it, she still has a constant suitor!
Later she told me one day that I found out that we were not very compatible! I've found someone more suitable, and I hope you'll be ...... too
The counselor, who was "suddenly" broken up, asked me very suspiciously: Why is the teacher?
Yes, in the mindset of this counselor, he thinks his girlfriend loves him. And it can give you the safest sense of stability. Because, his girlfriend talks to him everything, why is he still broken up?
In fact, the answer is very simple:
This consultant is not aware of the "green all the way" who was feared!
Imagine, if a person does not give the green light to other members of the opposite sex, whether this person is single or not, does the other opposite sex have a chance to approach?
The answer is no!
In a sense, the person who eats the bowl and looks at the pot is the best at pretending to be innocent!
It's just that these people who habitually play ambiguous and cross the line use it in a different way!
However, no matter what methods and methods are used, in the end, such people will be classified into a common trait - using indiscriminate affection to disappoint and stab people who are sincere to themselves!
It's just that honest people are not good at observing the people in front of them, and they are not sure about the truth!
Here's a reminder for honest people:
If you don't want to be deceived, you don't want to be consumed by the wrong person for too long, don't remember to find the traces of being truly identified and centered from the details of the behavior of the person in front of you!
People who are accustomed to playing ambiguous flowers, no matter how well they hide, they can't hide these traces of behavior:
1: A flowery person will not maintain a healthy "boundary" between him and the opposite sex
If you look closely, you will find that those who are good at playing ambiguous and transgressive flowers are people who have no healthy sense of "boundaries" with the opposite sex!
For these people, I wish I could be sought after by all the opposite sex!
Even, these people don't think that this is a low-self-aware work at all, and they are complacent that they are infinitely attractive!
Of course, in the ambiguous and cross-border relationship, this kind of flowery person will also do merit-based phased satisfaction to his phased self according to the actual situation - whether he should change his lover!
Between men and women, if something wants to happen, as long as it smells like each other, the opportunity will exist at any time!
When the sense of boundaries is blurred, all members of the opposite sex may be "liked" by each other.
So, when the person in front of you seems to be "opposite", remember:
It's not that the person in front of you has a good relationship with the opposite sex, but that the person in front of you is simply playing ambiguous and crossing the line because of his heart, and he doesn't really set his mind on you!
2: People with a heart are easily touched by the opposite sex, but they will not have affection for anyone
If you think about it carefully, you will find that the person in front of you is really "very simple", and it is easy to be moved by a few kind words and small acts of the opposite sex, right?
And when you think about it deeply, you will find that the person in front of you is simply very fraternal, so fraternous that any person of the opposite sex except you is close to him/her, he/she is happy, right?
Let me tell you, in fact, the person in front of you is not a single-minded and loyal person at all!
Otherwise, how could he/she be easily touched by other members of the opposite sex? Are you not good to him/her?
Actually, you yourself know that you are very good to him/her, but he/she later begged for it, right?
People with a heart are always good at moving, but they are never affectionate! Otherwise, he/she will not be eating in the bowl and looking at the pot, always looking for self-satisfaction, but not satisfied all the time!
The reason why people form actual betrayal through ambiguous and transgressive behavior is just desire and dissatisfaction!
Easily touched by other members of the opposite sex, it's just the part of the inner desire that is not satisfied, and it is just satisfied in stages!
It's a pity that how can a disgruntled person be satisfied?
There are good and evil in human nature, but the people who are ambiguous, transgressive, and even actually betrayed are men and women.
So, no matter how much you love someone, don't forget:
Character is important! A person with an ambiguous relationship with the opposite sex is an inevitable result of being unfaithful to you! It's just that timing determines whether this person betrays you spiritually or practically!
Feelings are not games, and you can't be sloppy!
Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
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Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
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