The ancients said:
"When the moon is full, it is lost, and when the water is full, it overflows."
As soon as anything reaches its peak, it is bound to go downhill.
This is true of all things, and so is life.
Imperfection is the norm of life.
Instead of struggling to pursue a perfect life, it is better to let go of obsession and enjoy the comfort of "a little warmth in the day and a small peace in the year".
Only after reading Gusu Ajiao's "Xiaoman in the World" can I understand that the best state in life is Xiaoman.
The so-called small man, that is, contentment, but also insufficiency;
There is something missing, there is something to expect, everything is just right.
Contentment, but also inadequacy
Gusu Ajiao wrote in "The Little Man in the World":
"There is no delusion in the quiet, there is joy in the busy, the four seasons are lived, and you also live yourself."
That's true.
Man can only see himself if he discards unrealistic illusions;
Only by learning to be content can we get a glimpse of the small happiness in ordinary life.
Aman, a high school classmate, went to Shanghai to work hard after graduating from university, chasing the so-called prosperity and fame.
She worked hard for 12 years, and finally achieved fame and had an ideal life.
However, this glory and wealth could not make her happy.
Once, she went back to her hometown to visit relatives and met her ex-boyfriend, and learned that the other party had already married a family, and although the life of a family of three was dull, it was very happy.
In the past, she felt that this kind of life was vulgar and looked down on it from the bottom of her heart.
Now she suddenly discovered that this seemingly ordinary life is a certain happiness.
Instead of tossing yourself for fame and fortune, it is better to cherish the present.
If the heart is content, everything is lovely;
If the heart is not satisfied, no matter how much you have, you will not feel happy.
In the same way, people must be content, but also know their own shortcomings, in order to go further.
Zhang San, the protagonist of "Little Man in the World", is middle-aged and a little greasy, and often feels anxious about his out-of-shape figure.
After weighing himself on the scale many times, he calmly accepted the reality and comforted himself with self-deprecation:
People must know how many pounds and taels they have.
I think so, too.
People must be clear about their shortcomings, so that they can develop their strengths and avoid weaknesses and grow rapidly.
When his former colleague Xiaode was still a technician, the boss saw that he had a stable personality and took the initiative to do things, and wanted to promote him to be the company's deputy general manager.
However, Xiaode knows that he is not good at management and does not know how to deal with complex interpersonal relationships.
So he politely turned down the opportunity.
He told his boss that what he is good at is technology research and development, and even if he is reluctant to be the vice president, it is difficult to make a big contribution to the company, so it is better to leave the opportunity to someone more suitable.
It is precisely because Xiaode is well aware of his own shortcomings that he only does what he is good at.
Therefore, it took him less than 3 years to become a senior technical consultant, helping the company win a good reputation and performance.
The Book of Rites says:
"If you don't know enough, then you can self-reflect."
People must recognize themselves so that they will not go down the wrong path.
Contentment is the only way to enjoy life;
Only by knowing what is not enough can we improve our lives.
A person must be content, but also know the shortcomings, in order to achieve steady and far-reaching results.
When it's tough, smile too
In "The Little Man in the World", it says:
"It takes some hippie smiles to get through those difficult days when you don't know what to do."
Even though life is full of difficulties, as long as you maintain an optimistic attitude, life will not be too difficult.
Gusu Ajiao dreamed of becoming a painter since he was a child, but he studied a major he didn't like, and after graduation, he engaged in a job he didn't like.
Despite this, he did not sink into passivity, and still picked up his paintbrush after work and insisted on practicing painting.
After more than 20 years of hard work, his paintings have finally been loved and recognized by the public.
Life is like this, no matter what difficulties you encounter in life, as long as you can face them with a smile, you will definitely be able to get through it.
There is a line in "Ode to Joy":
"Although life is a chicken feather, we still have to make great progress, there are always thorns on the road to growth, but nothing can stop a strong heart."
In the face of life's crits and challenges, the most powerful weapon is a smile.
At the age of 38, Wang Zengqi went to the countryside to undergo labor reform, and his daily work was to raise pigsties, plow pig manure, and carry grain.
Although he had never done farm work and was often so tired that he couldn't straighten his waist, he still worked with a smile every day.
Most of the people who were sent to work with him sighed and sighed all day long.
Only Wang Zengqi always smiles, and he often says to others:
"We have all kinds of trauma, but we should be happy today."
In his spare time, he often goes down to the river to fish and stew a pot of fish soup for himself.
He had no spare time to work, but he happily traveled around the mountains and rivers, and lived every day of suffering with joy.
By the time the transformation was over, everyone else was sickly, but he was still in good spirits.
It can be seen that people who can face setbacks with a smile can always find hope for life and face difficulties.
As written in "The Little Man in the World":
"Life has its troubles for a while, and it has a beginning for another time."
A truly intelligent person will not let down a hopeful future because of the current troubles.
Because they know that only by keeping a smile can they overcome suffering and live a new day.
It will be full, and it is the most anticipated
The best state of life is a small full, will be full, the most expected.
Xiaoman is one of the 24 traditional Chinese solar terms.
For farmers who rely on the sky for food, Xiaoman is a kind of hope, a state that is both mature and new.
For the vast majority of ordinary people, Xiaoman is a process of continuous accumulation of life.
If people have expectations, then no matter what life encounters, they can bravely deal with it.
On the contrary, if one does not pursue it, it is easy to lose one's way and find no meaning in life.
Netizen @Zhan Xiao has a wealthy family since he was a child, with no worries about food and clothing, and no shortage of money.
Because his family had money and had not yet graduated from college, his parents bought 3 properties for him.
After graduating from college, he neither wanted to look for a job nor go home to take over his parents' business, and lived like a walking dead every day.
Sometimes I hide at home and play games all month, sometimes I hang out with my friends in bars and clubs day and night, and my girlfriends change one after another.
Until one day, he woke up from a hangover and accidentally saw the circle of friends of his former classmates, although they were not rich in life and had been living by renting, but the smile on Yang's face was so bright, which stung him deeply.
What others have been pursuing all their lives, he can easily get.
However, he did not feel happy.
And those students who have a vision in their hearts and a pursuit of the future, despite the difficult life, their hearts are very happy.
"The Little Man in the World" says:
"In this world, I came to tinker and turn my defects and regrets into the light of the future."
Regret that you can't get it is sometimes an important part of life.
It is precisely because there are many imperfections in the world that there are more possibilities in our lives.
Instead of forcing perfection, it is better to live in the expectation that will not be fulfilled, and always keep the upward space, the current life, and the distance in the heart.
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Zhuangzi once said:
"The bird nests in the deep forest, but it is only a branch;
Voles drink the river, but they are full. ”
It's the same with life.
Even if you have a mansion with 10,000 seats, you only sleep in one bed every day;
Whether you have a monthly salary of 2,500 yuan or an hourly salary of 2,500 yuan, you can have a full stomach with three meals a day.
The substance does not have to be too much, just enough;
Life is not too full, just a little full.
May you have a full life, no rush, no rush, and everything is just right.
Author丨Poetry and weeds, born like weeds, indomitable. I will never stop looking forward to the future, vigorously and savagely.
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