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Nowadays, many people are more and more insincere to love, like not daring to take the initiative to always hide it, after being together, many temptations and unwillingness to pay the heart, even the breakup of this matter, will not be generously admitted.
In fact, sometimes I don't understand this approach, why can't we be honest and honest? Like is together, dislike is separated, shouldn't love be such a simple thing?
Of course, I can understand that I don't dare to confess to someone who likes someone because I am afraid of rejection, but I really have no way to understand the psychology of people who dare not take the initiative to admit it when they break up.
It is true that a large number of people, obviously they want to break up, but they will use various means to force each other to leave first. I don't even have the courage to say "break up" on my own initiative. Maybe such people are too narcissistic, they feel that they have broken up, afraid that others will be entangled. In fact, such a person thinks too highly of himself and underestimates others too much. No one has to be you, and without you, others can live well.
In fact, I am very grateful to those who do not love and take the initiative to break up, because they have not thought of wasting your time, and the most feared are those who have clearly decided to leave, but still drag you down. You are still immersed in a beautiful illusion, and he has already planned to leave, which is too unauthentic.
We will never have a way to control the behavior of others, and the only thing we can do is to be vigilant and stop the loss in time.
When men want to end a relationship, they usually use these means to force you to leave, and when they understand it, stop pestering.
Being stingy with giving will make you very angry
Men will be generous when it comes to falling in love with someone and are willing to give each other the best things within their capabilities.
He is very willing to spend money for women, as long as it is what the girl wants, he will do his best to satisfy. He can see through a woman's mind at a glance, and he can also carefully capture the eyes of a woman, and he knows how to create romantic surprises.
When shopping, the woman looks at a certain thing a few times, he remembers, will secretly buy the item, give the woman a surprise at a certain time, he can see through the woman because she is reluctant to spend money and pretend not to like it, will be willing to save money to meet the woman's preferences, will also take the initiative to tell the woman his bank card password, this generosity and trust, is the performance of man's true love.
Men who love you always feel that they don't give you enough, and men who don't love you always feel that you want too much. When he loves you, he will give what you want, you don't have to export, he will satisfy you when he sees it, for example, he sees that other girls have something that you don't give to you, he sees the recently popular items, and he will think of buying it for you.
When he loved you, that generosity was completely hidden when he wanted to leave you, and later he always thought you spent money indiscriminately, and when you asked for gifts, you would feel that you were materialistic, always crying in front of you, reluctant to spend money for you anymore, and becoming more and more stingy with you.
Men who don't love you usually use the word material to describe you, in the name of material, in fact, they want to change you, leave a good reputation for themselves, and leave the infamy to you.
The compression of time, the time to accompany you is less and less
The amount of time a person spends on you can reflect his feelings for you.
When I love you, I will always want to stick to you, I will come to you as soon as I have time, and I will take time to message you between jobs, and leave all my time for you after work.
You don't need to ask for it, you will automatically give you the company you want, and you will always stay by your side every time you need it.
At that time, you will feel that he is very idle every day, not that he really has nothing to do, but because he is really fond of you and likes you.
There is a saying that goes like this: People who love you are on the way from east to west, north and south, and people who want you are not busy day and night. Because of love, it will sacrifice other time, and will give you time and companionship.
When he wants to end a relationship, you will find that he will suddenly become very busy, always using "busy" as an excuse to avoid getting along with you, if you ask for companionship, you will feel that you are not sensible, that you are too clingy, and that you have no space of your own.
In the past, he always sent you a message, and then you sent him a message and he didn't reply, even if the reply was always "busy" to perfunctory you. But what we need to know is that no one is too busy to send a message, just because they don't want to.
If a person is no longer willing to give you time, in fact, you should understand his mind, that is, he wants to leave.
The change of attitude is becoming more and more cold to you
Men want to leave you, and they are not willing to take the initiative to break up, and the usual means is cold violence.
He will become very cold to you, treat you in a very cold way, more distant than strangers, he can talk and laugh to the outside world, give all his enthusiasm to others, only in front of you, always cold, a look of inaccessibility, completely isolate himself from you, and block you out of his world.
He completely turns off the desire to share with you, will not take the initiative to tell you when he encounters anything, and has always remained silent in front of you.
Not taking the initiative, not communicating, not doing anything, this is his norm, not only will not take the initiative to open his heart to you, but even will take a disregardive attitude towards everything you say, he is indifferent to what you say, what you do he is cold-eyed, you keep walking towards him, he keeps retreating, treating you in a silent way.
He won't say break up, but it feels like a kind of delay, until one day you finally can't stand his cold violence and choose to break up, just as he intended.
Some people may deliberately delay, he does not say that the breakup has been dragging, in fact, it is not necessary, do not feel that the breakup is to complete him, but also to complete yourself, do not waste your time for a scumbag.
There are some men who will speak out generously when they don't love, take the initiative to break up with you, and break off the relationship. Even if such a man no longer loves you, he does not delay you, which is undoubtedly a manifestation of kindness.
There are some men who don't love you and don't let you go, who change their hearts but don't want to bear the name and pour all the dirty water on you.
In the face of such a man, entanglement is a kind of harm to oneself, and only direct and decisive separation is the wisest way.
When men have these performances, do not have the slightest hesitation, pull away, free their hands to embrace better love, embrace a better self.