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In fact, we have long known that the payment and harvest in love are not equal, love can not be forced at all, some people you dig their hearts and lungs out of him, he will not have a trace of pity for you, he does not love you, even if you pay more, there is no way to get back.
Love this thing, willing to gamble to lose, you like a person, there is no way to force the other party, let him like you. All your efforts from beginning to end are willing, and if you can get his response, it is extremely lucky, if you don't get it, you can't blame him, after all, you are willing to be good to her.
If you like someone, you must be brave and proactive, there is no doubt about it. It's just that when we give, we also have to weigh it, and if we don't get a response from the other party for a long time, you have to learn to stop at the right time.
Many people feel that as long as the other party does not reject themselves, they still have a chance, have been foolishly waiting for him, can find their own good, with a glimmer of hope to continue to invest in it, and finally end up full of scars.
In the minds of most people, it is a matter of course to accept what they like and reject if they don't like it. However, it is not excluded that there are some people who obviously do not like you, but still blindly enjoy your good, do not accept or refuse, and repeatedly consume your patience.
Such behavior is actually using you as a spare tire, there is a suspicion of riding a donkey to find a horse, unwilling to refuse your payment, greedily enjoying your good, ambiguous with you, entertaining your feelings in the name of friends, and then kicking you away after finding true love.
From beginning to end, your efforts are like a joke, just touching yourself.
Women have these performances, in fact, they treat you as a spare tire, and one of them must be kept away.
Don't reject all your efforts to her, and don't accept your confession
The most hateful point in the relationship is to hang on to you and not refuse all your efforts to her, whether it is the courtesy you usually show, or give him a gift, or accept every invitation to her.
Her various performances seem to be giving you hints of love, but every time you confess to her, she chooses to back down, does not accept it, and gives you a good person card, saying that it is very happy to have you as a friend.
On the one hand, in the name of friends to distance themselves from you, on the other hand, they maintain an ambiguous distance from you, and their words and deeds give you hope.
I have to say that such behavior is really too grinding. Because for the party he likes, the other party's refusal is to let him ignite the flame of love, and he will amplify any little opportunity of love and turn into an infinite ocean. As long as one party does not explicitly refuse, he will assume that he still has hope and will not choose to let go.
Don't tell me that she doesn't know you like her, she thinks you're just a friend-like concern, fools can see it, everyone is not a child, and they can tell the difference between liking and ordinary friends. No one can't see your liking, she just doesn't want to give up a person who is saddled with her and tried her best to revolve around her. After all, who can refuse a person's kindness to themselves?
If you don't like it, you should explicitly refuse, rather than accepting all his kindness to you on the one hand, but on the other hand, pretending to be stupid, saying that you just regard him as a friend, and since you are a friend, keep your distance.
Women's non-refusal and non-acceptance is actually treating you as a spare tire, you have to understand.
When you meet someone you like, you snub it and lie to you
The reason why many people want to find a spare tire is actually riding a donkey to find a horse.
On the one hand, I think he is a good person, but he can't reach the level of liking, and he is reluctant to give up on him, because once he refuses, he will draw a line with you, will no longer be good to you, and is not willing to give up a meticulous care.
But I am not willing, because I always feel that there will be better in the future, and I am not willing to stay in front of this person, so I drag him along, looking for new opportunities and pursuing my love.
Gu Qingyu in "Heart Residence" is like this, she has always had a person in her heart, that is, her first love Shi Yuan, the two people agreed to wait for him to return to Shanghai, just in the location of the old house, not scattered, but unconsciously waited for a long time, waited until the age of 36, did not wait for his news.
In fact, Gu Qingyu had no bottom in her heart, she wasn't sure if Shi Yuan would come back or not, and whether she remembered the agreement between the two people? Will you still come to her? So on the one hand, she greedily enjoyed zhan xiang's good, on the other hand, she was waiting for Shi Yuan, she had to use zhan xiang as an alternative, otherwise it would be impossible to say to her father: If I am looking for someone you don't like? For example, Zhan Xiang, it can be seen that she also thought that if she really can't wait for Shi Yuan, Zhan Xiang can also be a choice.
But in the end, she waited for Shi Yuan, and in the process of contacting Shi Yuan, she was not willing to show too obvious, and she did not take the initiative to explain to Zhan Xiang clearly, when Zhan Xiang asked her out, she lied that she was working overtime, in fact, she went to see Shi Yuan. She and Shi Yuan had an appointment, but there was still hanging Zhan Xiang, and it was clear that both sides were unwilling to give up, until they established a relationship with Shi Yuan, they dared to point out with Zhan Xiang that she was using Zhan Xiang as a spare tire, otherwise she would not lie to him.
When you are unhappy, they come to you and give you hope in disguise
One of the annoying things about Gu Qingyu is that she knows that Zhan Xiang likes her, and she doesn't like him, but she doesn't take the initiative to explain, nor does she keep a distance, but instead maintains a relatively close relationship with Zhan Xiang.
What she couldn't figure out was that she also asked Zhan Xiang to give her advice and help her confirm Shi Yuan's intentions.
When Zhan Xiang asked her: How was the recent date? She wanted to stop talking, and Zhan Xiang said: "It's over, as soon as you hesitate like this, I feel that I have hope again." She was not sure what Shi Yuan wanted to do to her, and actually agreed to let Zhan Xiang assist to verify Shi Yuan's feelings on the side. It's a little too unenlightening.
There is also a more infuriating point: she went to Shi Yuan's home to be provoked by her mother-in-law, and she was in a bad mood, and after meeting Zhan Xiang by chance, she actually took the initiative to ask Zhan Xiang, confided her grievances with her, refused To meet Shi Yuan, but shared her bad feelings with her love enemies here, which is really difficult to agree.
Since you already have a lover, you should keep a distance from the opposite sex, which is the most basic, but also a person who likes your opposite sex, when you are unhappy, you go to him, spread the contradictions in your feelings in front of him, and make it clear that you are giving each other hope in disguise.
If a woman, when sweet, will leave you behind, unhappy to come to you, in fact, is to do whatever you like, she knows that you will not reject her, and even hurt her, she will not refuse a man who is distressed about herself, but such a like is clearly using your feelings, treating you as an alternative, don't be unaware.
Those who don't like you, but don't reject you, are leaving a way back for themselves, that is, treating you as a spare tire.
They use your liking to satisfy their vanity and satisfy their own selfish desires. Such a person is undoubtedly very greedy and unwilling to give up anyone who is good to him.
She can be greedy, can be scum, but you can't be blind, you have to accurately judge her intentions, once you notice that she doesn't like you, you have to stop the loss in time, stay away from her, and find your love.
Your good should be handed over to people who deserve to be cherished, and not to people who waste your feelings at will.