In the past few years, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a hot topic of discussion, saying that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with, and even saying that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is "a problem for eternity", but over the years, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to have been greatly alleviated, especially the relationship between post-00s and young mother-in-law is getting better and better, and there are many reasons behind this.
01 After 00, the daughter-in-law and the young mother-in-law get along as girlfriends, and the good feelings are enviable
Now the earliest batch of post-00s are also 22 years old, some of the post-00s fell in love earlier, because the age has not yet arrived, so they may not have received a marriage license, but have lived with their in-laws, This is the case in Xiaolin, Fujian, and the way she gets along with her mother-in-law is also very envious of nearby neighbors.
She is a post-00s, and her mother-in-law is also a young mother-in-law, and the two people's concepts of life are very compatible, and they get along with their girlfriends. Usually, the two people often go shopping together and see new things, and the mother-in-law is also willing to accompany Kobayashi to try together, and will not deny Kobayashi's ideas and practices, and will not take a traditional set to bind Kobayashi.
Sometimes Kobayashi and her husband quarrel, and the mother-in-law will stand on Kobayashi's side, give Kobayashi "advice", and criticize the shortcomings of her son, and the family gets along very well.
What is even more envious is that the mother-in-law never urges Xiaolin to conceive, she is thinking of Xiaolin as her own daughter-in-law and girlfriend, because she knows that Xiaolin's age is still early, and young people should have their own lives, and should not be bound by children too early.
Whenever Kobayashi and other friends talk about their relationship with their mother-in-law, they will make others extremely envious, after all, such a mother-in-law relationship is rare. Of course, among the other friends around Xiaolin, many of them are married after 00, although they do not get along with their mother-in-law as well as Xiaolin, but they are also very good, which shows that the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law after 00 is getting more and more harmonious.
02 After 00, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law get along more harmoniously, these reasons are very real, but the model is difficult to follow
Perhaps many post-70s, post-80s, and even some post-90s people have a hard time understanding why the post-00s and their mother-in-law will get along so well, there are many reasons, one of which is that the mother-in-law herself is relatively young. You know, when the post-00s get married, many mothers-in-law themselves are only in their early 40s, and at this age they have been exposed to a lot of new things, and the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law have also received a certain education, so they will respect each other's ideas and practices more when they get along with each other.
Compared with the past, most mothers-in-law's thinking is more traditional, and daughters-in-law have accepted more advanced ideas, resulting in a more violent ideological collision between the two generations, so there are more contradictions. And the older generation of people are relatively stubborn, not easy to accept fresh ideas, unlike the current young mother-in-law, many even more open than the post-00s thinking, so they and their daughters-in-law will get along more harmoniously.
Another reason is that many post-00s daughters-in-law do not live with their mother-in-law, it can be said that the elders after 90 are very hard, can not afford to buy a house, generations live together, if the concept of life is different, it is easy to contradict. But if you don't live together, just like many post-00s daughters-in-law and sons now, they will move out after marriage, and the conflict between life and mother-in-law will be less, naturally there will not be so many mother-in-law contradictions, and people say that "distance produces beauty", which is not unreasonable.
Just like a niece of mine, also after 00, because she did not study earlier, so she married earlier, at the beginning she also lived with her mother-in-law, it would also have a lot of disputes, but after buying a house, after moving out to live, her relationship with her mother-in-law was better, from time to time to go home to see her mother-in-law, she would often buy things for her mother-in-law, and the feelings between the two slowly warmed up.
Therefore, without living together, the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be relatively much less, but it is also necessary to contact frequently, and the feelings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious.
The last reason is that the role of men has changed greatly, in the past, many men were macho, and they saw their mothers and wives arguing, most of them on the side of the mother, whether the mother was at fault or not, which also escalated the contradictions between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But now many men's macho psychology has changed a lot, become able to deal with the contradiction between the two women in the family, they will not blindly stand on the side of the wife, or on the side of the mother, but to coax both women to be good, and then constantly give psychological guidance to both sides, but also create opportunities for reconciliation, all men are an important bridge to resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is not unreasonable.
But the above three reasons, it is still difficult to emulate the post-70s, post-80s, or post-90s mother-in-law, after all, many deep concepts have been solidified, it is difficult to make changes, but you can also try, in case it is successful?