I know a post-80s girl, 34 years old, who has been particularly worried lately.
She herself wanted to get married, and at this age, it was false to say that she was not in a hurry.
Recently, she often asked colleagues and friends around her to help introduce people, but she found that:
After the age of 30, she became more and more dissatisfied with the object of her introduction.
Either the economic strength is not very good, or the age difference is too much.
Even some time ago, someone introduced her to a second marriage with a baby.
The introducer also said:
"You don't have to pick, although this man is married for the second time with a baby, his job is very stable, and his monthly salary is more than five thousand."
The girl felt speechless: Did I have to be forced to accept such poor conditions at the age of 34?
Someone asked her:
Since you want to get married, why didn't you get married a few years ago?
When you were in your twenties, the range of choices was definitely wider than it is now, and you had more choices.
The girl smiled bitterly:
"When I was in my twenties, I was influenced by some friends around me, and I read a lot of emotional articles on the Internet, and my mentality was relatively high.
At that time, I always wanted to find a particularly good and satisfied person before I was willing to get married.
In fact, at that time, I also encountered a lot of OK, but because I was too picky, I always felt that I could meet better in the back.
So it didn't work, other people couldn't wait for me, got married one after another, and left me, single until now.
Now I really want to travel back and tell my twenties to stop looking at that irresponsible emotional rotten chicken soup, toxic! ”
There is indeed some specious emotional chicken soup on the Internet.
Strictly speaking, such a thing as the "three views" does not exist.
Many people are like this: what conforms to their own views is the "three views are positive", and the opposite is "three views are crooked".
The author of these chicken soups, writing these things is not from his heart, but only to cater to a certain point of view and tailor chicken soup.
So he must be very cool to write, and the people who read it are also very cool.
However, if you follow these chicken soups to guide your life, it will definitely be a big problem.
People who write chicken soup can write it in a minute;
But if you believe those irresponsible trumpets, the price may be repaid for a lifetime!
If you're in your twenties or thirties and are more inclined to marry women in this lifetime, you must look down.
There is some poisonous chicken soup on the internet that is affecting your mind and affecting your judgment and hindering you in terms of marriage.
1, "Boys can't do these things, they just don't love you." ”
Before brushing into a video, I was purely speechless:
The video shows a boy washing strawberries for a girl, peeling pomegranates, cutting apples, and stitching together the pieces.
Finally a line floated across the screen:
"If the boy really loves you, he will be willing to do these little things for you."
If you can't even do these little things, then he probably doesn't love you. ”
No, I want to ask, how did this conclusion come about?
What does true love have to do with washing strawberries and peeling pomegranates?
If you think this is love, then your love is too cheap;
If you feel that if you can't do this, it is not love, then your love is too childish.
Cheap or childish, you choose one.
Everyone is an adult, and they have a busy job every day and all kinds of worries.
Where are there so many spare efforts to wash this and peel that, is your boyfriend an unemployed vagrant?
Take a step back, what if your boyfriend doesn't help you wash the fruit, but is willing to spend more money to buy you leave-in fruit?
Life is not black and white, using a boring standard to apply a complex life, pure speechless behavior.
2, "A woman's own career is not as good as marrying." ”
What age is this, can you stop making such naïve statements?
First of all, using "marry well" as a single criterion for judging a woman's worth is inherently foolish.
With the improvement of modern women's education level, there is no shortage of outstanding women in all walks of life.
In previous eras, women had only three labels in their lives, daughter, wife, and mother.
Times have changed and women have more choices about their lives.
Secondly, in modern society, will "marry well" really become a magic weapon for women's survival?
I have to admit the fact that many women do not have the eyes to see people.
Some men look the same before they get married, and after they get married, they look another way.
Anyone will only show the best of themselves to the other person until they achieve their goal.
Therefore, marrying well and marrying badly is actually largely based on luck!
Betting your entire life on a matter of luck is actually the greatest irresponsibility to yourself.
3, "Cherish the girl who is doing everything in the world, she really loves you." ”
Think of it in a nutshell:
If your boyfriend sends you a message and you don't respond within 2 minutes, he'll make a big fuss about "don't you care about me",
What's your mood?
It must be a face full of black lines.
A lot of things, you can think about it in a different way.
4) "Don't listen to your parents, whose ideas are outdated and harmful. ”
Some emotional chicken soup not only instills wrong emotional concepts in women, but even uses to provoke family conflicts to obtain traffic.
It is normal for young people to have a generation gap between themselves and their parents.
The two generations have different life experiences, different levels of education, and conflicts of opinion are common.
Don't you and your friends and colleagues of the same age also have different opinions?
But this does not mean that your parents are bad and are harming you.
I think the best attitude is:
Listen to advice from all sides, including your parents' ones, but ultimately it's up to you to make your own decisions.
5, "Women must have/have/get something in this life"
The rise of consumerism in recent years has spawned the following views:
"Dress up more when you're young, and it's not good to dress up when you're old."
"A woman must have a certain bag for the rest of her life."
"You have to travel somewhere before you turn 30."
"For family gatherings/company annual meetings, you must wear this [battle robe].
My most speechless thing is the last sentence, every New Year's Festival, a bunch of marketing numbers on the Internet will inevitably jump out and shout:
What New Year's robes, annual meeting robes, wear this one, you must be glamorous and so on.
What battle do you fight and with whom?
Fighting this and that all day, making girls crazy infighting, in the final analysis, is to cater to the "female competition" mentality of some women.
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The above 5 sentences are aimed at women's emotional poisonous chicken soup, which ones have you heard?
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