【Netizen Contribution】
Recently, something happened that made me, an old man in his eighties, particularly sad.
To tell you about it:
Yesterday, after work, my wife inadvertently talked about taking her children to the supermarket at noon, and at the entrance of the supermarket, I saw a blind box machine.
This blind box machine, which was not previously available, should have been recently set up and installed by the merchant.
The brand is a very popular and famous one among children nowadays.
The child wanted it, and the wife said at first, yes.
The blind box is divided into different price points, the lowest has 39 pieces, and the highest hundreds also have it.
The wife said to the child, you smoke a 39.
But the child's preference is a 79 yuan, and said that her classmates have a full set.
You know, the full set of blind boxes at the 79 price point is more than a thousand.
In fact, our child is already very sensible, she did not say that it is necessary to have a full set, as long as one.
But the wife did not agree, let her pick 39.
After several discussions, the child was not happy, so he said, "Then I don't want it," and the two left.
My wife said that at first she did not agree to her buying 79 because our two incomes combined were only more than five thousand this month.
Buying a small toy costs 79, which is almost worth the money for a family of three to buy vegetables for three or four days.
But now to think about it:
Isn't it just a 79 toy, and it's not seven hundred and nine, seven thousand nine! A child has only a little wish.
At that time, my wife may have been more anxious, after all, in the past few months, the company we both worked in, the income has decreased, and I dare not spend money on these useless things.
But the child has obviously become depressed, and we want to comfort, but we don't know how to comfort.
I didn't sleep much this night.
I don't think my daughter's requirements are excessive, it is those of us who are parents.
I also grew up as a child to an adult.
When I was a kid, I also had things that I wanted but my parents didn't buy for me.
Later, after I worked to earn money, I bought a lot of toys, shoes and the like that I wanted but couldn't get.
But the mood is no longer the mood of childhood.
I know that people's wishes can be priced, and the older they are, the more expensive their wishes are, such as hundreds of thousands of cars, millions of houses.
And children are actually very simple, dozens of dollars can buy their smiling faces.
It is our parents, and our earning ability is not enough, and even a child's wish worth 79 yuan cannot be satisfied.
Tell me about my professional experience in the past few years.
As a post-80s, working for nearly 20 years, the highest salary is more than seven thousand, the company's efficiency in recent years is not good, often cut income, has now dropped to more than five thousand.
After getting married, I was always raising a family by myself.
Our company is doing plastic products, the company ran well in the past few years, and my income has increased from more than three thousand to more than seven thousand later, and I became the team leader.
In recent years, the company's operation is more difficult, the relationship between raw materials has risen, and profits have become thinner and thinner.
The boss's life is not good, then we work even more difficult.
As a small supervisor, in order to keep my job, I work overtime every day, but there is no overtime pay.
I just want the boss to know that I'm willing to work hard.
After the children were older, they were originally at home, the wife of a full-time housewife, and also went out to work in order to subsidize the family.
She now works as an administrative clerk in a small company with a monthly salary of two thousand.
In order to save money, our husband and wife bring meals at noon every day and try to save as much as possible.
A few years ago, my salary was more than seven thousand, and her salary was more than two thousand, adding up to ten thousand, which was quite OK in our fourth-tier town.
However, looking at the Internet is "per capita monthly salary of more than 10,000", sometimes it is quite inferior.
In the past few years, my salary has reached the beginning of 4,000, and her salary has not risen or fallen, and sometimes the salary will be paid late.
Even so, none of us dared to resign.
Because we are both about forty years old, I think even if we jump jobs, it will be difficult to find a job that is on par with the current salary.
I read articles on the Internet, people say that 35-year-olds are all career crisis, I am forty years old, where dare to toss it.
Just think:
After working for so many years, I can't even buy 79 yuan toys for my children, which is very sorry for my children.
After reading this submission, I also feel that the whole person is not good.
This post-eighty father, I believe he loves his daughter very much, and in fact, he is not as bad and unqualified as he evaluates himself.
The post-80s father has been reflecting on his lack of ability, he mentioned that "the average monthly salary on the Internet is more than 10,000", and he feels that he is very inferior.
In fact, this is just a kind of "focus effect":
Things with a very small probability appear repeatedly in front of your eyes, and over time you will feel that this is a high probability event.
In first-tier cities, it may be possible to do it with a monthly salary of more than 10,000, but in a fourth-tier city, a monthly salary of several thousand is normal, and there is no need to feel inferior!
The Internet has expanded the "survivor bias", people have watched too many news of overnight wealth on the Internet, compared to their own thousands of monthly salaries seem so pitiful.
Sometimes I lament what is wrong with the world, and whether ordinary people can still live with dignity.
The environment, the industry, the survival of the company or not are not decided by the beaters, most people can only passively follow the tide.
However, diligent and earnest work to make money, encounter industry, environment and other force majeure and lose their jobs, life is in trouble, but they are ridiculed and sarcastically said that "it is not because you do not work hard" that "it is not because you do not work hard" .
All people live in a huge gap of anxiety and cognition, rich and poor, like a sharp blade, cutting apart our folded world.
Whether it is marriage or child-rearing, it is not that if you have money, you will be omnipotent, and if you don't have money, you should die, these are all distorted values instilled in you by the materialistic world.
Keep a clear head and the ability to think independently, and don't be biased by some noise.
discuss
After 80, after working for 20 years, I failed to buy a 79 yuan toy for my child, and I felt that I was a failure.
What do you think about this phenomenon?
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