A few days ago, there was a family in my neighborhood, and the whole building where the husband and wife quarreled was clearly heard.
His house was open with windows open, and the woman stood on the balcony and called her husband to help dry her clothes.
Shouting several times, no one came over, the woman's clothes were emotional, and she threw things.
Then I went into the house, and after entering the house, the child cried, but the woman couldn't leave when she was busy with other things, so she called her husband to make milk powder for the child.
As a result, she still couldn't shout, and the woman began to shout and scream:
"XXX, are you dead?" Didn't you hear the child crying? How is it so hard for you to do something? ”
"I have to work to earn money and do housework and take care of the children, why are you so idle?"
The more you scold, the harder you hear.
At first, the man did not fit in, and may later be scolded beyond the heart, and also loudly hit back:
"How hard are you?" Isn't it better to wash clothes and see a child today? Usually, the children are brought by my mother, so you can call them for two days on the weekend. ”
"I've been working overtime for two weeks in a row, it's hard to rest, I can't play a game?"
"My mother was also working and raising me and my brother at the same time, why can't you?"
The couple quarreled for half an hour, and finally ended with a heavy slamming of the door of the "dang", I don't know whether the man went out or the woman went out.
"Comparing women of the previous generation with women of the present" – this seems to have become a new means for some men to express their emotions and opinions now.
There is a male colleague in my company, it is a small leader, after seventies, single, in his early forties, usually very greasy.
Most female colleagues hate him, just don't bother to pay attention to him, and don't show it obviously.
That day, he made a misogynistic remark in a small group of the company:
"Now the divorce rate after the eighties is so high, most of them are proposed by women, and now women are too [made]."
"It can be seen that we men have not changed, or we are still so hardworking, contributing to the family, and becoming women."
"Women now, selfish, materialistic, snobbish, women used to be the real half of the sky."
"Today's women only know how hard they are to eat and be lazy, eat and take cards, get married at zero cost, and twitter all day long about how hard they are."
The group in which he said this was full of male colleagues, so he could unscrupulously express his dislike for women now.
But the sad thing is:
Although the mouth hates women, some people will still go on blind dates without stopping, rushing to give gifts to women, hoping that the other party can marry him.
When you think about it, this question is actually quite interesting:
Why did women in the past not divorce, but now women, especially after the 80s and 90s, are so disappointed in marriage and dare to give up unhappy marriages?
Let's look at the life of an ordinary woman:
A girl, she was born into a very ordinary family.
After birth, if nothing else, just because of gender, just because she is a girl, she will be slighted, even ignored.
The surroundings were telling her (including her mother):
Girls, don't read too many books.
The best place for girls is to find a good husband.
It is better to learn well than to marry.
What is the use of reading a doctorate, and it is most important to get married and have children quickly.
……
All the sounds around the girl are like this, 360 degrees of immersive brainwashing without dead angles.
As a result, a girl will receive an imperfect education, and it would be even worse if she had a brother, because most of your family's resources will be given priority to your brother.
If nothing else, just because he is male and you are female, your original family regarded you as water destined to be spilled, and you had to be grateful for giving you food to let you grow up.
When the girl grows up and starts a professional career, her personal value and personal ability have not been recognized for a long time, and in every job-hopping interview, she will be asked countless times:
"When are you going to have a baby?" Won't you be born in our company? ”
At the same time, the surrounding environment continues to brainwash, vigorously celebrating cases of sacrificing one's career prospects for the sake of the family.
Tout such a woman as a female model, a model: "Everyone comes to learn, this is a good woman." ”
The lack of resources in academic qualifications and education in the early days made it objectively impossible for many women to compete with men of the same age but with high academic qualifications.
Under the multiple attacks of external brainwashing, career setbacks, etc., most women will gradually recognize the life path of "returning to the family".
It's not that women used to want to do this, it's that they have to.
A person with a low education and no skills, how do you want her to break through the shackles of fate in this society?
Over time, she had no other way but to return to her family, because all other ways were intentionally or unintentionally blocked.
So why do post-80s and post-90s women choose not to follow the old path of previous women and bravely give up unhappy marriages?
Since the 1980s, many families have been only children.
As the only child in a family, even if it is a daughter, the parents will carefully raise her, giving her the best family environment and the right to education within her ability.
Once they have a higher education, it is no longer difficult for women to survive independently in society, and even to find better jobs and better incomes than men of the same age.
Second, modern women are gradually awakening their sense of rights.
If the previous generation of women, no matter how bad the marriage, will swallow their anger and make up their minds to live with the people they hate for a lifetime, women now don't want to endure these anymore.
When in marriage, men turn a blind eye to women's efforts, take it for granted, and even put up a machismo shelf to let women bear all kinds of risks and pains alone.
This is where women's disappointment comes from.
When marriage is left with only mutual consumption, divorce is a more beneficial option for women.
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The divorce rate is as high as 43.53%, of which the main force is the post-80s, and divorce is mostly initiated by women.
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