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With the development of the times and the improvement of the level of thought, the status of women has been greatly improved compared with before, on the surface, the status of women is vaguely more than the trend of men, because they are frequently mentioned in various fields, and even praised very high, but if you think carefully, you will find that this is just a false appearance, the so-called praise and praise, in fact, is just a kind of killing.
What is killing? When you praise others, blindly praise the other party with a level beyond the strength of the other party, and then let him overestimate his own strength, quickly inflate, so that he becomes conceited and arrogant, which is a typical killing.
The biggest feature of people who are killed is that they can't listen to objective and true evaluations, because they have been immersed in false praise, praise, praise, which make them difficult to extricate themselves.
Women in today's era face such a scenario.
This is an era of focus on economic benefits, all walks of life spare no effort to obtain greater benefits, when the e-commerce platform will focus on women, they will use overwhelming marketing means to create more consumption scenarios for women.
Whenever there is a need to decorate the façade or atmosphere, the e-commerce platform will tell women that you need to buy new clothes, accessories, daily necessities and other goods.
For example, sense of atmosphere wear, home ins style ornaments, girly heart jewelry, etc., e-commerce platforms can always find a variety of scenes to guide consumers to consume, it seems that as long as a woman buys a product, she can live the life she wants.
When e-commerce platforms continue to induce women to inflate themselves, their purpose is achieved.
How are women being killed today?
There was once such a questionnaire, the question is what does the femininity of women in the new era include? The most popular of these options are gentle, kind, pretty, gentle, frugal, filial piety, no aggression, etc., which all seem to be praise, but it is worth noting that the above options are the result of male selection.
Femininity should have been determined by women, but why does it become a measure of women by men? In the eyes of men, a woman can only be called a good woman if she contains the above "advantages".
This thing itself is ridiculous, but what is frustrating is that many women believe it to be true, and even really regard these standards as an important benchmark for self-measurement, even if they are self-objectifying but do not know it.
If the compliance rate reaches 90%, they will be proud of their advantages, content to accept everyone's compliments and praise, if they fail to meet the standard, they will secretly inferiority, secretly weeping, even with the whole society can not tolerate her.
Women should be clearly aware of their situation, not to be killed, but still unconscious.
From the perspective of the bystander, how to look at and evaluate women needs to be decided by the women themselves, rather than measuring everything from the perspective of men, although it has become the subconscious rule and consensus of the whole society, but who can say that this is correct?
Women need to think about the following questions, who has the right to judge you? What exactly is the criterion for judging? Why are women always painted under a single frame? Where is the richness of being human?
If you start thinking about these questions, it means that you are awakening step by step.
The current society's killing of women is actually to make women infinitely close to men's preferences, not only ordinary men, even the philosopher Zhou Guoping can not get rid of the gaze of men's perspective, he once made such remarks in 2015, if a woman is very talented and has great achievements, but she will not be a gentle lover, a considerate wife and a loving mother, then her beauty will be greatly reduced.
Zhou Guoping is obviously a modern independent intellectual, a philosopher and a thinker, but in judging the beauty of women, he still can't get rid of the identity of men, let alone other ordinary men.
While killing women to highlight the trend of the times, while suppressing women, starting from the perspective and needs of men, how can this be absolutely objective and just?
Women need to be self-aware, and everyone does not need to become medals and funeral goods under patriarchal thinking, let alone be maliciously induced to become shallow victims.
This society's killing of women can be seen everywhere, for example, after the age of 40, we still have to pay attention to girlishness, obviously after giving birth to a child, we still have to be as young and beautiful as if we have never had a child, and if we meet these standards, we will be praised, and those who cannot reach it will be denigrated, and in the long run, women will only pay attention to their appearance and body, ignoring the really important things.
Women have to do the same as men, that is, hard work, continuous struggle, ambition, pursuit, only if you have enough strength, can you stand on an equal footing with men, even higher than them.
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Author | Tommida
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).