"China Youth Daily" once did a survey, about 30% of college students, winter and summer vacations are forced to go on blind dates.
Have you ever been urged to get married by your family? How old were you?
In the past, the marriages of children and daughters were mostly the orders of their parents and the words of matchmakers. Later, people pursued free love and free marriage, and did not want to be bound by their parents anymore.
But after all, the marriage of children is a lifelong event, and few parents will leave it alone. Therefore, even if the marriage of the children is not arranged, it will be disguised as a marriage, or the children will be urged to go on a blind date.
The third year girl was urged by her mother to go on a blind date, and her mother's words were too heartfelt
After the child goes to college, most parents will tell the child that academics are the most important, after all, at the age of 20 or so, the future life is still long.
However, there are also some college students who have begun to be urged by their families to go on blind dates at school, and this junior girl is one of them.
When the girl came home from vacation, the aunt at home introduced the blind date to her, but the girl felt that she was only 20 years old, and the blind date was still a little early, so she politely refused.
The girl's behavior made her mother very dissatisfied, and said harshly, if you do not marry for the rest of your life, we will break off the mother-daughter relationship. The mother felt that there were three filial pieties, and no queen was greater, and she drove her daughter back to school in one breath.
When the girls returned to school, it wasn't over. Mom continued to send messages several times urging her to go on a blind date. As can be seen from the screenshot of the chat history sent by the girl, the mother also criticized the girl: "You see what virtue you have."
Mom even asked the girl to take a leave of absence to go on a blind date, and said that the teacher would not give leave, and the mother would personally come forward. When the girl refused again, she was blocked by her mother, and the girl said: "It is very outrageous, I really did not expect it."
College blind dates are common, what do young men and women think?
Nowadays, it is very common for college students to go on blind dates, but many people just don't say it. Sugar Mom mentioned at the beginning of the article that 30% of college students have the trouble of being forced to go on a blind date.
College students have experienced the severe crackdown on early love in middle and high school, and it is difficult to go to college to fall in love freely, and they did not expect to be forced by their parents to go on a blind date with unfamiliar people in the end.
However, for going on a blind date during college, everyone has different views.
Some people feel that they are not very experienced in love and chasing boys and girls, and the family will find the right person to arrange a blind date, saving time and effort and reliability.
But there are also many students who feel that campus love is the most beautiful. And in school, you can find people with similar personalities and academic qualifications. Entering marriage through blind dates, there is no love at all.
For the student, the early 20s are busy studying, perhaps he already has a favorite person at school, but parents are eager to find a more suitable candidate for him outside the school.
And not only is it anxious to let the child go on a blind date, but even has the intention of letting the child get married after graduation. Seeing the statement of the girl's parent in front, many netizens felt sad for the girl.
Everyone thinks that this mother's thinking is too backward, her daughter is in college and has such a high appearance, and is she still afraid of not finding a boyfriend? I can't help but suspect that the parents of the girls are looking at some of the conditions of the man.
Why are these parents so anxious to let their children who are going to college go on blind dates?
"I was forbidden to fall in love early, but now why let me go on a blind date"? This is the sigh of many college students after experiencing blind dates. Why are some parents so anxious? Mainly related to the following reasons.
The first is the issue of regional customs
Although some boys and girls are admitted to college, they may not be successful in the eyes of their parents. Because in some areas, it is still felt that getting married early and having a baby is a better destination.
The girl's mother complained that the girl was 21 years old and still muddy, and the normal girl was married at the age of 23. But in the hearts of many young people, it is still too early to get married at the age of 23, and they will naturally refuse the request of their parents.
The second is that parents do not want their children to miss out on good candidates
Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. Compared with boys, parents of girls seem to be more nervous about their children's marital problems.
Parents are afraid that their children will not be unladylike, so when they meet people with good age and conditions, they will firmly seize this opportunity for their children.
The girl finally responded, she and her mother are like friends, being kicked out is just a joke, she thought it was funny to share it online.
In fact, very parents are like this, may not force the child to marry this person, just think of trying it is okay, in case two people really feel suitable after meeting, it is also a good relationship.
The kindness of parents may not be able to make children happy in marriage
In general, parents are well-intentioned. To a certain extent, parents, as people who have come over, have rich experience and experience, and their vision of people is more rational, and they can check for their children.
Marriage is a lifelong event for boys and girls, but some things are urgent, parents push too tightly, but will make children resist and fear marriage.
If you take the severance of the mother-daughter relationship as a condition, you threaten the child to go on a blind date. On the contrary, children will choose people they don't like because of guilt and pressure, and they may not be able to have a happy marriage in the end.
Whether it is for children who are going to college or children who have not yet started a family in middle age, parents can help them find good candidates and respect their children's wishes. Otherwise, if it hurts the parent-child relationship, it is not worth it.
【Today's topic】During college, were you forced by your family to go on a blind date?