If you don't want to turn your face at the end, there are two things not to touch, which is very important

Originally, the two people had no intersection in each other's world, but because of fate, the two people crossed the mountains and rivers to come together.

Hand in hand, against the wind and rain, from a lonely body to a happy partner, all the way with you, life is no longer wandering.

However, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is the union of two families.

When in love, you only need to care about your partner's joys and sorrows, get along well with each other, and win the whole world.

After getting married, the two originally unrelated families came together, never spent a long time together and run-in, suddenly became the closest people, at the beginning they could respect each other as if they were safe, but the longer they got along, the problems would follow.

Getting along with your loved ones is a science, and getting along with your family is even more a wisdom.

If you don't want to turn your face at the end, there are two things not to touch, which is very important.

1 Always feel that the other person's children are not as good as their own children

In addition to the difference between living habits, the most untouchable thing is not to always feel that each other's children are not as good as their own children, and once this biased idea is generated, family wars are inevitable.

No matter when it comes, as a parent, you will feel that your child is the best, even if you know that there are shortcomings in your heart, you can't help but protect them.

However, if their children once they have a family, as their relatives with each other, still get along with such a point of view, often see each other's children full of deficiencies and shortcomings, more and more will feel that each other's children are not worthy of their own children, and then from all aspects began to belittle each other, sometimes because of a small matter can also be upgraded to a family war.

A reader left a message saying that after her husband got married, his mother and mother-in-law would quarrel as long as they were together, and now they had turned their faces, and it was even impossible to have a meal together on an occasion, and they looked at each other unfavorably and were full of disgust.

For example, the mother-in-law thinks that she usually does not like to clean up the house, and she says that she is too lazy. After letting the mother know about this, she thought that her daughter was not too lazy at all, but too tired.

Because the daughter not only has to take care of the old and young in the family, but also has to go to work to earn money, so there is no more time to clean up the house. In other words, her aunt did not show up, and her daughter was "lowly married".

The two people quarreled together because of this matter, and they felt that their children were the best and the other's children were the worst.

In fact, if the relatives and families always look at the marriage of their children with a critical eye, no matter when they can find a bunch of problems, after all, she is looking at others from her own standpoint, and naturally she will think that it is all the fault of others.

Moreover, it is reasonable to say that the public is justified, and the mother-in-law is justified. Such disputes have no end, not only to exhaust one's own mind, but also to make the marriage of the children and children in the mud and become precarious.

Since you have become a family, you should have more tolerance and understanding, rather than picking mistakes everywhere, which will only leave a curse.

2 Always measure each other's relationships by having more money and less money

Relatives and families get along, more should stand in the perspective of understanding, tolerance, equality, must not measure each other's relationship with more money and less money, can only let the relationship between the two families to break up, and eventually fall apart.

Today's young people can come together, many times pay attention to the three views or similar interests, and do not think too much about each other's family economic strength. However, when two people get married, although there are differences in each other's family situation, once the material basis is used as the standard for getting along, the relatives will often make a big move between themselves and eventually turn their faces.

Because, once one party thinks that one party thinks that it is a rich person who looks down on the other party, it will start to suppress the other party from all aspects, and even the other party's every move will be unaccustomed, thinking that the other party is not the same person as himself, which will lead to quarrels.

There is a true story.

The two young men were college classmates and married not long after graduation. Initially, they were opposed by the family, mainly from the woman's family, because they felt that the man's family conditions were too general and unworthy of their daughters.

However, girls are very fond of boys, thinking that as long as two people have love, everything is not a problem.

After marriage, the relatives of the two families have not much to say together, mainly because the woman always feels that the man's family is poor and looks down on each other.

Two people married two years after the baby, after giving birth to prepare to do a full moon wine, the woman's family thinks that it should be a big party, invite friends and relatives to come over and have a lively time. The man's family thinks it is completely unnecessary, and the relatives of the two families can eat a meal at home, do not be extravagant and wasteful.

The woman's family was not happy, and retorted to the other party in person, saying that the other party was not afraid of spending money, and if it was how much money they needed, they were out.

When the man's family heard this, they thought that the other party looked down on themselves, and then began to make a big fuss.

As a result, the original full moon wine was not completed, and the two relatives became enemies...

In fact, since they have the fate to become a family, they should cherish the fate cultivated in a lifetime, rather than still looking at each other from a secular perspective, which will only accelerate the deterioration of the relationship between the two families and ultimately affect the marital happiness of their children.

Therefore, no matter when the above two things must be easily touched, there are taboos in the heart, in order to understand what can not be said, so that each other can keep the hard-won happiness.

What do you think?

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