Author: Number One Emotion
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Yuan Shu wrote in "One of the Three Songs of Sorrow and Sorrow": "I sincerely know that this hatred is everyone has, and the poor and lowly couples are sad. ”
Among them, the sentence "Poor couple Pepsi Lament" that deserves people's deep consideration is really the case in real life? If the marriage falls into a poor situation, life is bound to be unhappy, and the relationship between husband and wife will become very tense.
However, the saddest thing in marriage may not be that they are poor, but that if the husband and wife can still maintain their efforts and be optimistic enough, they believe that everything still has a chance to improve.
Many times, the real sadness in marriage is that you fail to control your mouth and tell others something more private.
As the saying goes: "The ugliness of the family should not be publicized", but if the family does not understand the truth of this sentence, and even often tells outsiders about these three things, this is the saddest thing in married life.
Tell outsiders about the contradictions in the family
Marriage is a very special place, two people who love each other come together to form a family, and everything is closely related to each other.
After being together for a long time, the sweetness and beauty of the past will gradually return to plain, especially the contradictions between husband and wife are particularly prone to break out, which is also an "ugly thing" in the family, if someone tells outsiders about the contradictions in the family, it is inevitable that it will seem a little redundant.
Any news has a communication attribute, you may feel that the other party is very trustworthy, but the reality is that people turn around and tell others, your contradiction with your family has become the talk of others after dinner, and you may even feel uncomfortable.
Originally, you thought you could exchange sympathy from outsiders, but in fact you did something hurtful and harmful to yourself.
You know, the contradictions in the family need to be resolved behind closed doors, and spreading it out will only bring greater contradictions, and eventually lead to a rift in your family.
Tell outsiders about your partner's flaws
When you first get married, look at each other everywhere is good, in your own eyes is a perfect existence, but who in life does not have shortcomings? It's just that I loved deeply at that time.
When the marriage gradually becomes stable, and the understanding between the husband and wife becomes more and more thorough, it will be found that in fact, everyone has shortcomings, and of course, the people they have loved are also the same, and these shortcomings will be infinitely magnified.
However, these are your own choices, even if you complain again, it is meaningless, you feel that telling outsiders about your partner's shortcomings can let yourself vent your emotions for a while, but how do others look at your marriage and look at your partner?
In addition to blackening your partner, the feelings between husband and wife may also be affected, and every sentence you complain about is likely to become a "weapon" to hurt your partner, and in the end not only has not changed the status quo, but even the marriage is difficult to keep.
Many times, after partners find shortcomings, they can positively remind each other to correct them, rather than telling outsiders about these shortcomings, otherwise these will become sad in married life.
Tell outsiders about the inadequacies of children
In a family, in addition to husband and wife, the most central existence is the child. Indeed, children are like the future of a family and need to be nurtured.
But the child is still young after all, there will certainly be a lot of deficiencies, occasionally make some mistakes, but some parents often tell outsiders in front of their children about his shortcomings, which seems to be a very effective communication, but invisibly affects the child's psychology and makes his self-esteem hurt.
You know, the child's heart is very fragile, even if he has grown up, but in the face of the mistakes he made and was told to outsiders, the heart will certainly be very uncomfortable, once affected, it is particularly easy to cause tragedy.
At first, they will become more and more autistic, and if something happens again, their parents will only be left with regrets, but even then they can no longer start from scratch.
Therefore, do not say in front of outsiders that children are insufficient, but look at them from the perspective of appreciation and encouragement, otherwise it will become a sad thing in life.
Write at the end
For married life, poverty may only be a temporary situation, but once it falls into these three misunderstandings, often telling outsiders about the "ugly things" in the family is the saddest thing for a family.
At any time, you must learn to keep your mouth shut, you feel that the other party is trustworthy, or want to exchange for sympathy, but the truth is that you will only get ridicule and guidance from others, and more conflicts will break out between your family, isn't this the saddest thing?
If you say that the money is gone, you can earn it again, but if the cohesion between the family is gone, the married life will naturally collapse.