"You're thirty years old, and if you don't look for it, you won't find it!" "If you make it up, you'll get it, there's so much love, love!" ”。
A bottle of dissatisfaction, half a bottle dangling, less than thirty, twenty hanging point zero, this age group of you are being urged by your parents to marry? What made you go from being afraid to get married to not wanting to get married, and what was it that made you completely break the idea of getting married?
"Men are not easy to find in thirty, women are thirty and no one wants", now more and more young people are not willing to marry early, or even unwilling to get married. At the end of the day, there are three main reasons that plague them:
First, there is no object of interest
Some people have very few opposite sexes around them because of work reasons, and they hold the psychology of "rabbits don't eat nest grass" and rarely go to the opposite sex in the same unit, worried that even colleagues have no need to do it. Due to the limitations of the work, the circle of friends is naturally not large, often introduced by others, either do not look at it or can not see, always want to meet a favorite, for a long time even the introduction of no one introduced, but also to delay themselves.
Second, the family intervenes in many things
Many parents want to check for their children, always want to introduce their favorite son-in-law or daughter-in-law to their children, with the so-called "people" eyes to screen and check, denying the object of free love for many children. Due to the intervention of parents, children not only have a gap with their parents, but also do not want to talk about it again.
Third, the economic pressure is as heavy as a mountain
Love needs to spend money, buy gifts, eat, travel, etc., many people in love on a lot of money, everyone has a different income, naturally in the choice of objects will habitually filter out some people, of course, some people say that the three views are not in line, character is not good, this is also a certain reason. It is not easy to get married, the bride price, the car, the house, including raising children are not a small expense. Many families get married once and bleed once, and financial pressure makes young people and even parents a little breathless.
Loss of personal and economic freedom
When you get married, you can't look like "one person eats enough for the whole family and the whole family is not hungry", but you must have a sense of family responsibility and responsibility. Losing economic freedom and personal freedom, unable to allocate time freely, it can be said that it is basically necessary to cut off all contact with the outside world and the circle of friends, and focus on the family, which will be difficult to accept for a while and a half. Especially after having children, taking care of the family and children is even more confusing.
Some people say that they are not in a hurry to find a partner to marry because fate has not arrived. There are still many people who have no intention of getting married at all, and feel that it is good to live alone. However, in my opinion, marriage is of great significance as an important milestone in the adult life trajectory. The purpose of marriage is not only to pass on the generations, but also to make yourself an important node of maturity.
Your life is your own decision, as to whether it is perfect or to have regrets, you still have to make your own choices.