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With the progress and development of the times, more and more people do not want to get married, everyone believes that marriage is no longer a necessary option in life, with better, without their own alone will not be too bad.
People who once started a family in their twenties and are still single after thirty abound.
So among such people, who is more anxious, man or woman? In fact, the answer is obvious, men are more anxious. If they are not married after the age of 30, they will be laughed at by the family, thinking that they can't find a daughter-in-law to beat the bare stick, which is undoubtedly a failure, but women are just the opposite.
They enjoy being single, and they can pursue spiritual enjoyment while supporting themselves, so marriage is no longer the only destination for them.
In general, the reasons for this situation are nothing more than the following two, each of which is very realistic.
One: the cost of married living has increased, and there are many young people who cannot afford to get married
Faced with a generation that does not want to marry and have children, the confusion of the elders has never stopped.
They were materially scarce in that era, but everyone naturally married, had children, and grew up. Although there are also stumbles, but after a lifetime, why are the conditions now good, but they all say that they can't afford to get married and have children?
The meaning of marriage has changed dramatically in recent decades. In the era of the fathers, marriage was two people living together, because the economic conditions were not good, it was difficult for one person to bear the cost of living, and two people needed to support each other to survive.
At that time, there was no concept of eugenics, children were born to eat without starvation, and they could go to school and receive education, even if they fulfilled the responsibility of parents.
For modern young people, there are higher requirements for marriage. Marriage is no longer a means of sustaining life, but more focused on the improvement of quality of life. I can live very well alone, if marriage does not make me live happier, but reduces the quality of life, then this marriage is better than not getting married.
For the next generation, modern young people also have higher requirements.
The increase in the pressure of life and the cruelty of competition are all reminders to young parents that if their children want to win at the starting line, at least they must not be too far behind others.
The cost of children's education and support is increasing year by year, and some people have calculated that if you let your children receive secondary education in first- and second-tier cities, the cost required is about 2 million. In third- and fourth-tier cities, the cost will be lower, but it will also be around 600,000.
Such a huge amount of money is enough to scare off many young people who are hovering outside the door of marriage.
In such a big environment, love is no longer a necessity for marriage, and economic conditions are in the forefront. It is not the reality of modern people, but the environment that forces people to be realistic.
Second: the awakening of women's consciousness, they want to live themselves more than they rely on marriage
In previous marital states, men were dominant. Due to objective reasons such as childbearing age, education level, job opportunities, etc., men are less affected by age and have a longer choice time in marriage.
With the development of society, women have gradually assumed the same important role as men in social life, they have more educational and work opportunities, they can live independently, and they no longer need to be attached to the family.
They have more identities and choices. And because of the impact of childbearing on the career, some women are more cautious about choosing marriage and childbearing.
This has led to the current situation where women are far less eager for marriage than men.
In the current state of marriage, there is an objective fact that has to be admitted, a large part of the reason why men are unmarried is because of their own conditions and cannot find a suitable partner, and most of the women who are unmarried are because they have not met the object that meets their expectations, they are not willing to settle, they are a group of people who take the initiative to "leave".
Many men do not realize such a situation, once the blind date fails, the reason they can think of the most is that women actually worship gold, but rarely find reasons from themselves.
In fact, between blind dates, the economic objective conditions of both sides have been known to each other, and if women really care about men's economic conditions, they may not even meet each other.
In fact, women's rejection of blind dates is often something uneconomical, such as men are not careful enough, have no common topic, or find that the other party has some habits that they don't like.
In the environment where this woman can withstand most of the sky now, what a woman needs is no longer a long-term meal ticket, but a soul mate who can face the wind and rain with herself.
Two people to enter into marriage, need the fate of the time and place, even if you can not become a lover to spend a lifetime, there is no harm in being a friend. And some people's nitpicking calculations seem to protect their interests in this blind date, but the invisible loss is immeasurable.
If you think too much about the gains and losses in a relationship, you will lose the measure in the whole marriage.
Oranges are not the only fruit, just as time has no only answer. Marriage is not the only meaning of life. I hope that everyone will not be impatient, will not be satisfied, and will not be demanding when facing the examination paper of marriage. As long as your life is wonderful, why bother if you hand over the white roll.
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