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Red face
At some point, he had a close relationship with a "red face".
One day, as soon as I entered the house, my wife greeted me and mysteriously pulled me aside: "Come here, ask something."
"What's the matter, God is nagging?"
"I've heard people say that you've been getting very close to XXX lately, and your relationship is not ordinary."
My heart tightened: "Don't be blind, friends, normal relationship!"
"Oh, how can I talk nonsense? We are husband and wife, you are my other self, it is too late to maintain you. I listened to what others said, and it reached my ears, so the impact was not small. Some of the words are quite ugly. ”
I was a little anxious: "That's nonsense, no, don't believe it!"
How could I believe it! I know best about my man's character, how could I do such a thing! I just heard people say this about you, and I don't feel good.
"So, remind you, you should pay attention in the future, don't let people gossip about you behind your back, you are a person with an identity!"
"Okay, wife!"
I hope: I will marry you in the next life.
The poor and the poor must not be forgotten, and the wives of the chaff do not go to church.
Lesson 1
Business trip back.
My wife and daughter, who have just turned one year old, have been living at my grandmother's house in Hangzhou for half a month, and plan to pick me up at Hangzhou airport at 7 o'clock in the evening and go home together. As a result, the plane was delayed, and it could not take off until after nine o'clock and arrive at twelve o'clock.
At about nine o'clock, I was boarding the plane, my wife called, and my tone was irritable: "I won't pick you up tonight, you don't want to go back, stay with us in Hangzhou for one night, and go home tomorrow morning!"
"Why?" I don't understand.
"So late, my daughter was already asleep. Three more in the middle of the night, the child tossed more, she often cried at night recently. "A hen guarding her cubs.
"Oh, got it. "I hung up the phone.
Five minutes later, I sent a long text message to my wife: "Honey, hard work! I have been traveling for more than a month, and I really miss you, especially the little girl must be more lively and cute. But I have to go home tonight!' Out must be told, the opposite must be faced', this is the ancient adage.
The old mother knew that I was back today and must be waiting for me at home. I can't see my son tonight, and I certainly can't sleep peacefully. So, I had to see her first time.
"You mother and daughter, you can continue to stay at Grandma's house for one night, and it will not hurt to go back tomorrow morning." However, I still suggest that you can get up with me for three reasons: First, a child sleeping in bed is no different from sleeping in a car. Second, let her know from a young age: a girlfriend is the loveliest in our family, but not the most important. If you don't understand this truth, then it is no longer cute. Third, today is the first lesson in her life: in order to honor her grandmother and obey her father, she must learn to pay from now on, and it is natural to stay up late for her grandmother and parents. A very meaningful lesson, please judge!" Send. takeoff. At twelve o'clock in the evening, land on time.
At the exit, the wife, children, and the husband's family were already greeting. The daughter has not yet slept, and will call her father. My wife looked at me, smiled at her daughter and said, "I'm going to see Grandma again soon!"
Expert
Once, for a trivial matter, he got into trouble with his wife and ignored her for three days.
Suddenly, I received a strange text message: "Hello teacher!" I'm your old student, I'm bothering you today and asking you a question, is it okay?"
Absolutely!" I answered enthusiastically.
"Because... My husband has ignored me for a few days, what do you say I should do? ”
"Such a small-bellied man is rare!" I was also quite angry, "Does he have anyone to be afraid of?"
"Yes, he is most afraid of my mother-in-law."
"How is your relationship with your mother-in-law?"
"Very good, like mother and daughter."
"That's easy to do!" I was happy for her, "You don't have to worry, you go straight to your mother-in-law." He is your husband, and you can't teach him ethically, but your mother-in-law can. Tell you a truth: all daughters-in-law who can honor their in-laws will not be bullied by men. This is the Way of Heaven, since ancient times. Congratulations!"
I'm proud of my communication.
Less than five minutes later, I received a text message from my wife: "Husband, I just asked my teacher about the two of us." He taught me this... to deal with you. What do you think of this approach?"
"Don't!" I was anxious, "Don't alarm my mother with such a small thing!" I surrender and go back in the evening to buy you good food!"
"Giggle..." The wife laughed.
"What teacher, teach you such a way to do something, and you are not allowed to associate with him in the future!"
"Well, don't bully me in the future, I have a high-ranking person to point out!" The wife is old and proud!
Practice
One day, my son, who had just graduated from high school, suddenly asked, "Dad, do you really have to be prepared to love the people of the world first?" Then touch one with the fate and promise her to grow old with her white head?"
"Yes, that's called true love." Love and marriage are a kind of practice, the most effective practice. ”
"Well, listen to your old ones, you can't go wrong! Is the order of parents a higher practice than free love?"
"Free love is a term coined by modern people to compromise with habits, and it is an excuse for moral degeneration. In ancient times, only frustrated literati played this in brothels. A righteous gentleman can spend his life with any woman designated by his parents. ”
"Is filial piety to parents, fraternity to brothers, and consortia between husband and wife the most basic and important practice?"
"Yes, this is the most Chinese way of self-cultivation. Filial piety, self-denial, is the beginning of benevolence; Cultivating equality, cultivating joy and selflessness, is the beginning of righteousness; Marriage cultivation is focused and refined, which is the beginning of virtue. We call this practice the ritual. Modern people can't read Confucianism!"
"The son understands, and the son will spend his whole life realizing your teachings."
accomplishment
My distant cousin, a female entrepreneur, a people's congress deputy, a March 8th red flag bearer, at home filial piety to in-laws, kind to the neighbors, but also looks good-natured, really up to the hall, down to the kitchen, is the goddess of the whole family.
But she was in pain! Because she has a spending and lawless husband. Not going home all day, meeting two things: First, running into trouble; Second, there is no money. If you don't give it, you hit it, and once you hit the city government.
My cousin was in pain. Leave it, sorry for the in-laws, sorry for the children, and sorry for their own identity; Don't leave, this day really can't go on. Several times the heart of death has been!
Not long ago, the ghost sent God to a lesson on "If It is Moderate", and his understanding was extremely deep, and he cried to death in class several times.
On the night after class, she sat next to her husband for the first time in more than ten years and took his hand: "Husband, I went to a class today, and I felt very deeply, and I felt very, very sorry for you, sorry for this family, sorry for the ancestors of this family." Crying as he spoke.
"What's wrong with you?" Taking the wrong medicine? Crazy?" The husband was terrified.
"No madness, it was the most sober day I've had in decades. Ever since I knew things, I felt that I was amazing: beautiful, capable, well-studied, and very well-behaved, and praised by people. After marrying into our family, it is even more polite and decent to deal with up and down. Running an enterprise is smooth sailing, there is a look, and all kinds of social honors are pouring in and shining. I've been very successful, very accomplished. I am a perfect person without any faults.
"So, all the faults are yours, you are not out of the woods, you are not good at learning, I married you, it is flowers planted on cow dung." The worst thing is that almost everyone thinks so, even your parents think that their son is not good, and told me to look at their share, to be more burdened, and once almost gave me a kneeling. So, I feel that I am very great, I have given too much, and I am the benefactor of your family. So, as soon as I got home, I felt wronged, miserable, and even desperate.
"But today, I went to a class. The teacher said: The husband is your other self, the first and most important object of management and cultivation in your life... I was enlightened, and I suddenly woke up: I seemed to do everything well, but I did not do a good job as a woman; I run a business well, but I don't have a man who runs my own business well. I am the most failed woman in the world.
"Oh yo, what fairy teacher, can make our goddess bow her head and admit her mistake!" The husband still can't adapt. "I think at the beginning, what a good young man you were, with ideals and insights!" But since I passed the door, I have pressed you everywhere, and in order to prove myself, I have said that you are useless. Every time I see you make a mistake, I even have a vague pleasure, and finally prove that I am better than you; In order to monopolize power, I squeezed you out of the enterprise, and almost squeezed you out of this home. I am the most vicious woman in the world, forcing you to idle, and saying that you are not out of the woods, I even make your parents believe that their son is not out of breath, and I even make your children believe that their father is a jerk. I learned today how cruel this is, I am a sinner in this family! It's adultery!"
"No, it's not like that! I'm really not a thing, in fact, sometimes even I look down on myself. You are indeed better than me: self-disciplined, competent, virtuous, well-managed, and everyone is willing to listen to you. The husband also shed tears.
"No, it's not like that! Our teacher said: The benefits of the enterprise are good, not because you have the ability, but because you have accumulated virtue in your ancestors. My husband's company has been smooth sailing because you have yin virtue in your ancestors, and if you had changed you, it was also the result today, but I stole your limelight. So, I'm a house thief!"
"At the beginning, it was not that I had not tried, I managed, and everyone was really not convinced..."
"That's because you're a handsome man, not a general." You have a strategic vision but disdain for tactics. At the beginning, I didn't want to cooperate with you, and I watched you make a mistake in tactics and didn't help you. It's my fault, thank you ancestors for forgiveness and give me the opportunity to correct it!"
Is that right?"
"That's right! From tomorrow onwards, you are the chairman of the company and I will be your general manager. You are in charge of the strategic direction, and I will take care of the specific affairs..."
"Can I do it?" The husband was a little excited.
"Okay! Absolutely! Tomorrow, go change to a bigger car and convert the original small conference room to your office. Then, order a few sets of the kind of Chinese clothes that our teacher wears, and you will wear them more stylishly. You'll go to work next Monday. X Dong, okay?"
"Okay! You arrange it. I'll have to take a moment to see your fairy teacher. ”
Later, it really did!
This article is excerpted from Ruping teacher's "If it is a husband and wife, if it is a godson"
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