It can be set as a star
My cousin, who grew up together, is getting married.
Most of the children of our relatives do not have much contact, and when they were young, they could meet each other every three or five times, and when they grew up, they gradually drifted away because of the lack of intersection of work and life.
Everyone invariably sent blessings, the man is five years older than her, the family is solid, although the appearance is not outstanding, but it is also decent. Her parents were satisfied.
When I came to the house to visit the New Year in the New Year, I realized that he was very good at talking, coaxed the elders to be happy, and had a very good impression of him.
And the cousin herself hardly speaks, and all the questions thrown at her are finally answered by her husband, which provokes the elders to praise their good feelings.
From blind date to marriage, it was only half a year, and she walked fast and well on the road paved by her parents.
She is the most experienced in taking this road, and she listens to her parents on many matters from childhood to adulthood.
Even if there is an opportunity to choose, it is also chosen in the choice of parents. The person who chooses the blind date is this one or that, and the time to choose marriage is whether the other party says "the sooner you get married, the better" or the "you can wait for a few months" here.
Originally sheltered by her parents, now married, she begins to be sheltered by her older husband.
We can't say that she has a bad life, on the contrary, she has no worries about food and clothing, does not have to work hard, and even does not work, which is a life that many people put on their lips every day.
She spent a lot of time learning how to rely on others willingly, even if she might be a little dissatisfied.
Sometimes we say that life is precious in contentment, which is very reasonable.
If you had lived a life with little to no worries, would you have shifted your attention to raising the bar for your partner?
You may also compare yourself with others and finally move him from the role of "patron of the second half of his life" to the role of "companion for the rest of his life".
No matter how you look at it, it looks like a late look. When the other party has paid a lot of money and material for you, when you can't pay the same amount of money and material on your own, you don't actually have the right to do this kind of scrutiny.
We don't have to speculate on the future marriage of others from a pessimistic perspective, but we just hope that every girl can be wary of a possibility.
Zweig has a sentence in "The Severed Queen", "She was too young to know all the gifts given by fate, and she had already secretly marked the price."
When we rely on our parents, rely on our partners, and live a life like a gift, we will feel taken for granted, we will feel that no matter what, this life is already my bottom line, and where the upper limit is, it is not yet known.
But the truth is that while we are becoming dissatisfied by human nature, there is no way to guarantee the protection of our parents and partners forever. That unfounded flutter, like a time bomb, will one day cost us.
If you don't earn your own life, you don't have the opportunity or qualifications to make your own decisions, and all free will will become a torture.
So when a young reader asks me if I have to work hard after graduation, although I am not used to the word desperate, I will always answer yes.
You may be bothered about how to balance the expenses of the three meals, and you may also break your leg in order to rent a house with a good location and decoration, but it is better than one day in the house provided by others, and you have endless regrets about fate.
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