The greatest growth in life is that in the most difficult time, there is no one to rely on, no one is reliable, and it is difficult to survive the most difficult stage alone. Finally one day you will find that life is in the process of wear and tear repair and reshaping, and you will encounter a new self one after another. Growth is your subjective world, encountering the gap between the objective world, you fall into it, called frustration, climb out, call growth.
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I saw an article on the subway in the morning: Single population, more than 200 million. The article writes that in 2018, China's single adult population reached 240 million, of which 77 million single young people lived alone.
Behind such a huge number, marriageable young people have become a hot topic in society. It just so happens that the New Year is approaching, and every New Year, young people who return to their hometowns are most afraid of the lives of the elders in the family and ask again!
"Did you talk about anyone?"
"Who's the object?"
"When to get married?" Bring it back and have a look? ”
"Yo! I'm not young, but I have to hold on! ”
"When your dad was as old as you were, he had two children!"
I don't know how to pick up the above dialogue, anyway, I have nothing to say, of course, I don't know, when the elders say these words, they hope we can give an answer. If netizens have a good reply, welcome to the message area to point me, grateful!
Two days ago, I also saw a hot search and said: An economist said that you should not expect to have children after 9000, and you should catch the post-80s when you have children.
Netizen comments: After 90s and 00s, they don't want to get married, and they really can't expect to have children.
It's not unreasonable, but it's not all right. The first batch of post-90s is already thirty years old, followed by the post-90s are also on the road of rapid running three, thirty and standing basic requirements to start a family, but this young people have become a generation of "what to do", to have no job, to have no home. Unlike when parents are thirty years old, at least two problems for children are not big, and job stability is not a big problem. However, these are too difficult for the current post-90s and post-00s.
Let's start with marriage. At that time, the threshold for marriage was quite low. Listening to the elders in the family, the marriage of the grandfather generation rarely pays attention to the freedom of love, the fate of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, many people know what the person they marry looks like on the day of marriage, and then, it is a lifelong down-to-earth little life. Some netizens also joked that my grandfather spent half a bucket of rice to marry my grandmother, and my father married my mother and spent half a cow. My mother's reason for looking up to my father was that there was a lot of food in the family. So pure!
That post-90s and post-00s are complicated, especially after 95, marriage early is better to say, the later the marriage, the more conditions, first look at the marriage object to examine the conditions:
Does it look good? Slimmer?
Decent work? Is the income substantial?
What do parents do? How many siblings?
What are the family conditions? What about character?
Where is home? Is the distance acceptable?
Of course, the above conditions have different selection criteria for different families, in addition to the above, there are hard indicators, do you have a car? Do you have a room? Do I have a deposit? None of the above, the conclusion is: then you deserve to get married?!
What to do? If you don't get married, it's not good to be single, you can have no worries about food and clothing, and you can also drive the development of the single economy, which can also be regarded as a contribution to the country. However, at this time, how can the family let you go, the label of the elderly leftover woman and the old single stick is attached, in addition to the urging is the urging, but also blindly accuse you of how useless, the family contribution is not, personal problems can not be solved, the label of waste is on the label again.
Well, it's really good, and finally through their own efforts, they have become a waste in the eyes of others.
But, calm down, we return to the problem itself again, what are we going to discuss? Discuss why this generation of young people is not married? What is the basis of marriage? Is it love? Is it door-to-door, right? Is it a value exchange? In summary, the current popular control of the conditions of the marriage object seems to avoid the main factors, and the additional conditions are infinitely increased. Let's look at the official interpretation of marriage.
This explanation is more official, it is estimated that there is no interpretation, just look at a lonely.
To tell the truth, in the materialized social environment, true feelings will become quite rare, some people say that Lu Xun said a word, the dogs in the village barked, and other dogs also barked, but why they barked, they did not know. In a turbid environment, right is wrong, and wrong is right.
The final personal point of view, about the conditions and requirements for young people to marry, is nothing more than fear that you will not live well in the future, afraid that you will suffer and suffer, afraid that you have chosen the wrong person and paid for youth by mistake. Parents can only warn us of these truths from their experience, but where will young people listen to their recklessness and infinite hopes for the future? As parents, they can't experience and feel your life situation, where does understanding come from?
Therefore, this article has no conclusion in the end, and the conclusion is left to everyone.
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January 13, 2022
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