In the past, many people had the idea of preferring sons to daughters, believing that there must be a boy in a family, because boys are the root of the family bloodline. I have to admit that there are still some families who have such ideas. But now, another part of the population has begun to emphasize that it is best to have a son in a family, and this part of the people is not patriarchal, but for other reasons.
Having given birth to four daughters, the last three were married, and one was recruited as a son-in-law, the old man was miserable in his old age
A relative gave birth to four daughters, a few years ago three daughters have chosen to marry far away, fortunately, there is another to stay around, listened to the words of relatives, recruited a door-to-door son-in-law, originally thought that the old man's old age life is good and good, but who knows this door-to-door son-in-law in the second year or the third year, after the birth of the child slowly exposed the nature.
The so-called "anti-guest-oriented" is probably this meaning, the son-in-law directly became the big master of the family, angry with his wife when he was unhappy, and even beat his wife, for the old man, directly drove him to the next small house to live, let him take care of himself.
The daughter is distressed by her father, and every time she secretly takes something for her father to eat, she will also give some money, but when her husband finds out, she will be beaten. In addition, the three distant daughters of the old man basically have no time to come back to visit, and there is no way to take this bully brother-in-law, and the old man can only be wronged. Our neighbors here are all talking about if they had a son at that time, it would not be so miserable, and it would not be the turn of an outsider to take charge of the family, let alone be bullied by the son-in-law!
Many people now think that giving birth to a boy and giving birth to a girl is the same, but in fact, there are still some differences, especially for multi-girl families.
Multi-female families will not be able to escape these real problems in the future
First of all, the pension of parents, my relatives are living examples, if it is a multi-female family, coupled with the daughter's long-distance marriage, then the parents' pension is a major problem. Many parents will not care about their daughter's happiness for the sake of their daughter's happiness, and let their daughter pursue her own happiness, after all, he can't accompany her for a lifetime, he can't become a stumbling block for her.
But in fact, if the daughter really marries far away, as the parents gradually increase in age, the various functions of the body begin to decline, and from time to time there will be colds, and if no one is around to take care of these times, it will only make the situation of the elderly more difficult.
The second is the problem that the door-to-door son-in-law is difficult to get along with, some people will think that I have multiple daughters, and when the time comes, it will be the same for the door-to-door son-in-law, which is equivalent to having more sons. But on the one hand, now that people only have one or two children, they basically will not agree to their sons to be sons-in-law. On the other hand, the door-to-door son-in-law should also consider whether it is easy to get along with, if it is my relative's situation, do not want this door-to-door son-in-law.
Of course, not all multi-female families ended in a dismal ending, and there are also many elderly people from multi-female families who are still very happy in their later years. In the early days, the daughters would return to their mother's house once a week or about to visit the elderly for three or four days or a week, and in their old age, they could take their parents back to their homes to live together. But here we also need to consider the attitude of the in-laws, some in-laws can not accept this way of getting along, so it still depends on the family of the daughter who marries, and whether the daughter is filial to herself.
A friend of mine is that two families live together, although there are many contradictions in life, but most of the time they are also harmonious, which is particularly lively. Of course, this premise is that there is a larger house that allows two families to live together, and the personality, temperament and other aspects of the two families are compatible enough, otherwise it will be a chicken feather.
Again, if you only have a few sons or daughters in the end, don't choose to blindly fight for your life, thinking that a family must have sons and daughters to be complete. In fact, if you really want to have security in your old age, it is not that you must have a daughter or a son, but you must look at how well you educate your children.
If the child is well educated, the child has a sense of gratitude, filial piety, kindness, etc., then the old age will naturally be filial to the parents. On the contrary, if children do not have these qualities, it is only a luxury to rely on them to filial piety to the elderly.
For today's young people, this kind of patriarchal thinking has been a lot less, they are also more concerned about how to raise children scientifically, pay more attention to the cultivation of children's character, compared to the extreme parenting methods of some parents in the past, they are much better, and I believe that the next generation of young people will teach their children better and better.
Conclusion: Boys and girls, in some aspects, are indeed different, but from other aspects there is no difference, therefore, do not dwell on too many such problems, put your mind on how to teach your children well, your future pension is naturally guaranteed. It is also a good way to leave a way back for yourself.