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I saw a news on the Internet: a third-year girl, due to the epidemic situation, has been taking online classes at home, but she did not expect her mother to inform her to go on a blind date.
When the girl made it clear that she did not want to go on a blind date, her mother reprimanded her sternly and told her that she would take leave for her and the class teacher.
In the eyes of the girl, she is just 20 years old, and the prelude to life has not yet begun to face marriage, which really makes her feel very afraid.
1. If you don't get married, how can you have a career?
In fact, for many parents, their concepts are very unified, they believe that their children can only start a family.
Therefore, there are also many college students who are dating, and these young men and women who have not yet entered the society have not even completed taking care of themselves, and they will be forced to enter the next stage of life.
Of course, there are also many people who say that they have no intention of entering society, so they plan to finish their studies, find someone to marry, stay at home, and teach their husbands and children.
However, such people are still in the minority after all. More young people still hope to be able to rely on their own abilities to break through their own careers.
After all, in this world, the only people we can really rely on are ourselves. Any so-called solid reliance is likely to collapse in an instant.
Some parents say, "When you don't get married at an old age, you'll be left behind, you don't have anyone to want, and your life will be over." If you don't get married, you're not filial piety. ”
You can actually hear something like this every day. But who stipulates that one must start a family as soon as possible in order to start a career? Who has stipulated that marriage is the guarantee of everything?
If nothing else, let's just look at the contemporary couples who are married and have a married life, how many are really happy?
2. Life is not just about getting married
Once watched an interview, someone asked a passing aunt, how to think about the fact that young people are not willing to get married?
The aunt said, "If you don't get married, you won't get married." Young people are not the people we were then, they should have had their own ideas and choices. ”
In her view, marriage is a summary of a stage of life. It can exist or it can not exist, but it cannot be forced to exist.
For her own daughter, she watched her grow up step by step, and also watched her have her own work career, her own social circle and independent life.
Of course, she was far from the so-called age suitable for marriage, but the aunt never thought of urging her daughter to get married.
Because she came to this world with her daughter, she wanted her to see the beauty of this world and then enjoy the life she wanted.
Marriage, which looks beautiful, allows you to have a home of your own, allows you to be accompanied by someone, and gives you the opportunity to create a continuing life.
But that is only one of many ways to live, and it is not the only path, and it is not necessarily suitable for all people.
3. Why do you want to get married?
In the eyes of many parents, when their children reach a certain age, they should choose marriage, only in this way can parents be reassured.
But how do you determine that under that hasty condition, the person you choose must be a marriage that is really suitable for your children?
Parents want their children to get married, and the first premise should be that you want your children to be happy, not as an accessory to your unfinished life.
She should have her own independence and should be very clear about each of her choices, exactly what she did, and why she had to do it.
The establishment of any kind of relationship must first be done on the premise that both parties are willing and sincere, rather than relying on persecution and threats.
Never think that the marriage of your children is something that will make your face grow. Don't think that children who don't marry are children who are rebellious.
She is first and foremost an independent individual, and secondly, she is someone's child, someone's friend, someone's elder, someone's identity being.
If a person lives everything in order to make others happy, then she is doomed to live unhappy. And what is the point of a life that even she herself is unhappy?
4. She should be herself
A girl I once knew who got married after graduating from college once complained: "Now I am beginning to regret it, I seem to have missed a lot of life that I should have." ”
In the period after choosing to give up college in order to satisfy her parents' ideas, her former partners have their own lives and have their own directions.
Now she is not very unfortunate, but she will also carry a lot of regrets. But now, she didn't have a chance to reverse everything and make another choice.
But she had the opportunity to be the proudest of herself. She almost touched the moon.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.