Why is it getting harder and harder to get married now?
Why is it getting harder and harder to find someone to marry now? When you ask this question, in fact, you only see the appearance, not the essence of the problem.
In fact, it is not that getting married has become difficult. If you marry blindly and dumbly as you did decades ago, then of course marriage is a matter of minutes.
Someone on the Internet PO out their parents' wedding photos, dad is a big handsome guy at the level of Peng Yuyan, and mom is a very ordinary girl.
Netizen comments: Your mom, something ah, how did your dad agree?
The PO master replied: Don't ask, asking is the fate of the parents, do not marry the kind of broken leg.
You see, it was easy to marry Peng Yuyan before, now you try it?
Boys in this year, with a little bit of conditions, at least require "accurate door-to-door pairs", and it is rare to see anyone willing to "suffer losses" in the matching of conditions.
The single female group is more serious, because from time to time is brainwashed by various network poisonous chicken soup, often the requirements are particularly high, always feel that as a woman, you should be infinitely pampered and accommodated, otherwise the other party just does not love themselves.
There are such single women around: when they are young, they are pursued by boys, they are pampered by each other, blindly making trouble, demanding indiscriminately, until they force each other away.
Seven or eight years later, after turning around a few times, I found that the people around me were not as good as one, and if you think about it, it is still the best first love. But the first love was already married.
Therefore, she took the initiative to go on a blind date, and asked the red lady to find a first love of the opposite sex.
But at this time, she has not been so attractive in the marriage market, and this requirement is really a bit difficult.
Girls, when you are in your twenties, someone is willing to coax you, unconditionally tolerate you, and when you are in your thirties, how can it be easy to find such a person? The boy was older, and he was "shrewd" one by one.
Therefore, if girls really want to get married, it is best to drink less poisonous chicken soup, seek truth from facts, and seize the opportunity.
One of the more important reasons why it is "difficult to get married" is that with the changes in the social environment, marriage has changed from a necessity to a luxury.
In the past, marriage and children were to "raise children and prevent old age", but now what? Whether the child can prevent the old man is not to say, having a child is equivalent to giving birth to a money crusher and giving birth to a four-legged gold-devouring beast.
From expensive imported milk powder, international early education classes, to preschool education, all kinds of messy training courses.
No wonder the state wants to implement double subtraction. But what about double subtraction? The most important thing is not the "school district room"!
Originally, hundreds of thousands of people could buy a beautiful apartment for the elderly, and now they had to spend millions to buy an old and broken child, just for a degree next to it.
What is even more frustrating is that the children you have worked so hard to raise for more than ten years will not only prevent old age in the end, but also the danger of being nibbled on the old.
In this case, people's attitude towards marriage and children is of course more cautious. Ordinary men and women look down on each other and do not get married, in essence, it is not because of the opposition between men and women, but because of the luxury of marriage, it is difficult for everyone to afford it.
If single women in the past don't get married, you will be under strong pressure from public opinion. Most of the women in the past were not career women, and "marrying a husband and teaching children" was her life belonging.
Now the times are different, most women have to engage in social production activities, even if married, they are mainly "double-paid families", which means that women must bear the double burden of "supporting the family" and "having children" at the same time when they get married.
What if the husband has some financial strength? The woman will also consider the issue of her own family voice.
Girls who are not financially independent, married, reach out for money, and rely on people's sniffles, after all, that kind of life is not what most women want.
Unless your husband loves you to death, understands you unconditionally, empathizes with you, tolerates you, and deeply understands that "housewife nature is also an extremely difficult job" and is capable of giving you good living conditions.
But it is a pity that such beautiful men are still a minority after all. Therefore, women have to consider various variables in the face of the option of marriage.
In this contrast, keeping a wonderful life of being single, making money by one person and spending alone, without family pressure, this option suddenly becomes attractive.
The "value for money" of marriage becomes lower, and people (especially single women) are less motivated to marry. Men and women are no longer so active, they are constantly watching, thinking in their hearts, "Unless you meet a particularly perfect and suitable, don't get married easily."
But we should also realize that the economics reduction in the cost performance of marriage does not mean that it loses its meaning in the spiritual sense.
People's desire for soul mates has never changed, and beautiful intimate relationships can bring us a sense of belonging, security, and happiness in our lives, and these have always been the most beautiful aspects of marriage.
In the era of increasing material conditions, that is what we should measure and choose more when facing intimate relationships.