Marriage is an inevitable compulsory lesson in a person's life, and some people say that a good marriage is never that each other is changed much, but that they adapt well to each other.
But in this fast-food era, everything seems to come and go in a hurry, including marriage.
According to the "2021-2027 China Wedding Industry Market Panorama Survey and Development Strategy Research Report" released by Zhiyan Consulting, in the first half of 2021 alone, the national divorce rate has reached 0.68 ‰, and the number of registered divorces has reached 966,000 pairs.
This is not a good sign.
In this regard, some people will ask, "Is marriage really the graveyard of love?" ”
I believe that those divorced couples must have the expectation of spending their lives with each other when they first chose to join hands with each other, but why did they end up looking at each other and getting tired of each other?
Isn't it enough to love each other? No, in the final analysis, there is no understanding of how to run a marriage.
In Chongqing, there is such a pilot couple, they use more than 40 years of marriage experience to tell you, whether it is chai rice oil salt, sauce and vinegar sugar tea, or parents are short, noisy, can become the secret of marriage preservation.
They have walked hand in hand through more than 40 years of ups and downs, leaving the most beautiful scenery in each other's eyes, and the old husband and wife can also be like first love.
So, how did their marriage survive?
01 Chen Yufu: The blue sky and her are the most beautiful scenery
In the home of Chen Yufu and Liu Jiarong, there is an old photo album that carefully preserves a black and white wedding photo that has been somewhat yellowed after years of invasion.
Although the two people in the photo are shy and restrained in facing the camera, between the slightly green eyebrows, what cannot be hidden is a happy smile.
At that time, he was full of spirit and style, and he was an aerospace soldier who aspired to the blue sky; and she was a gentle and introverted, beautiful and kind neighbor girl.
Looking at the photos in front of them, the two elderly people who were nearly ancient smiled and went straight to the bottom of their eyes, and sighed, "We chose the date of registration on December 26, 1978, chairman Mao's birthday!" ”
The tones were full of pride and pride.
Chen Yufu said: "When I was young, I always had a dream of being a soldier, thinking that a good boy would stand up to the sky and the earth, and he must go to the army to defend his family and defend the country. ”
Because he had never given up on his dream, Chen Yufu finally waited for the opportunity he had been looking forward to for a long time.
In 1966, the central government recruited pilots.
Although Chen Yufu only graduated from junior high school at this time, he was not willing to accept the selection, with a lot of enthusiasm to participate in the selection, because of excellent physical fitness, and outstanding performance, Chen Yufu finally got what he wanted to pass the layers of selection, and then entered the Baoding Air Force Second Aviation Preparatory School to accept the system and professional study.
It is worth mentioning that in the original primary election of Dechang County, Sichuan, only Chen Yufu passed the exam, and his talent in aerospace and aviation can be seen.
In 1969, after three years of hard study and training, Chen Yufu graduated with honors from the Fourteenth Aviation School of the Air Force, majoring in flight piloting, at this time, he was only 20 years old.
Chen Yufu, a young man, was assigned to Chongqing, and since then he has worked hard in the 17th Flying Brigade of Civil Aviation, and the blue sky above his head is the place where he works and the most beautiful scenery in his eyes.
Later, Chen Yufu was introduced by a friend and met Liu Jiarong, a girl in Chongqing.
From the yellowed black and white wedding photo, we can still clearly see Liu Jiarong when he was young, with dark and slightly curly hair, with the mountain eyebrows and water eyes of Chongqing Gu, and a gentle temperament; and Chen Yufu at that time was also thick eyebrows and big eyes, a righteous body, and more importantly, he was also a soldier of the people. The two stood together, unspeakable matching.
No wonder Chen Yufu said: "The two of us are in love at first sight, in today's words, it is to close the eye!" ”
Only at that time, Chen Yufu had just graduated and was working at Baishiyi Airport, but Liu Jiarong's home was at two intersections in Yuzhong District, and the opportunity for the two people to meet was rare.
Chen Yufu's flight training is very strict, and we have a good understanding of the discipline of the troops, and the management is very strict.
As a pilot, Chen Yufu's most important task is to study and train against the clock, and apply the knowledge he has learned to practice to ensure that there are no mistakes in the subsequent tasks and to ensure the safety of the lives and property of the country and the people.
Chen Yufu also knows that the responsibility on his shoulders is heavy, after all, only when the foundation is laid solidly can he better serve the motherland.
Therefore, after knowing each other for five or six years, Chen Yufu's work gradually got on the right track, and the two began to formally "fall in love".
The love of the parents' era, because of the environmental factors of the times, the thinking is relatively conservative, and most of the expression of the heart is implicit and introverted, but the affection between each other is difficult to buy.
Chen Yufu said: "At that time, it was a married couple who could not hold hands in front of people, and we were even more embarrassed when we fell in love. But since you see the right eye and decide to be together, you must live a lifetime of grace and love. ”
Some people may say that a lifetime is so long, where will everything go smoothly?
Yes, a lifetime is very long, and there is no collision between the teeth, let alone a couple who are wrapped in chai rice oil and salt? But in Liu Jiarong's view, her husband did it.
On December 26, 1978, the two people who were in love chose to register their marriage on chairman Mao's birthday and entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
Liu Jiarong recalled: "That day, I rushed to Baishiyi to register for marriage, and the two of us went to the photo studio to take a wedding photo. ”
Even if there is no beautiful wedding dress or red high heels, the two people in the photo are smiling happily. In their view, as long as the people around them are each other, they are already satisfied.
The wedding of the two is very simple, but it is warm and sweet.
"We simply invited our relatives and friends to a meal, even if it was marriage."
At that time, the country was still in the planned economy period, tobacco, alcohol, sugar and tea and other things also had to be able to buy tickets, Liu Jiarong and her husband bought a few pounds of sugar and a few pieces of smoke, and sent this joy to the squadrons of the 17th Flying Brigade of Civil Aviation where Yu Fu was located.
"At that time, I was very happy! What a celebration! I didn't think of anything else, I just wanted everyone to know, happy, happy, and auspicious! Chen Yufu recalled.
02 The recipe for marriage preservation: understanding and tolerance
After the marriage, the two lived a simple and simple life, and soon after the birth of their daughter added a little liveliness to this warm little family.
As a pilot, Chen Yufu's work is dangerous and busy. He has been traveling for many years, and he does not know how many times he has been an "air tourist" in the country and around the world.
Often Chen Yufu just finished his flight, returned to his small home in Chongqing, took a look at his wife and daughter, and if he received the news that there was a mission the next day, Chen Yufu would return to the airport on time that night and be on standby at his job.
The husband was busy at work, and the burden of the family was suddenly all on Liu Jiarong's shoulders. But she did not complain half a point, took care of her daughter with her heart, and let her husband who was away from home not be distracted.
The difficulty of this, Liu Jiarong never mentioned.
After more than 40 years of marriage, chen Yufu most wanted to say to his wife "thanks": "I have been running around all year round, relying on my wife to manage the 'big rear', so that I have no worries!" ”
In 41 years, Chen Yufu's safe flight time has accumulated up to 20,000 hours, which is also the most fulfilling thing in his life, and he knows that behind this heavy glory, it is inseparable from his wife's obscure support.
While taking care of the family, Liu Jiarong is also paying attention to her husband's safety at all times.
Especially when encountering summer thunderstorms, I want to be in my husband who is still flying a plane, Liu Jiarong always has a heart hanging, and she can't sleep all night, until she receives a call from her husband the next day to report that she is safe, liu Jiarong can put her mind at ease.
In this regard, Chen Yufu is full of gratitude: "She has a very good personality, always let me, and always have to worry about my safety." ”
In marriage, the most difficult thing is mutual understanding and tolerance, which Liu Jiarong has done.
Although the husband can't always accompany himself and his daughter, nor can he share the trivial things in the family for himself, Liu Jiarong never feels wronged, she said: "I can understand his difficulty, his hardship, I myself suffer a little, but also willing." ”
Yes, married for more than 40 years, pots and pans, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, parents are short, everyone has a bump in the face, sometimes, she also feels tired.
However, it is best to think that the husband has more people's lives on his shoulders, countless families can be reunited with staff like their husbands, and the husband can return home safely after each flight mission.
Therefore, after her husband finished his tiring work, she always took good care of him, and when she encountered something that was mixing her mouth, she always whispered softly, let her husband, never let her husband worry.
Chen Yufu saw his wife's efforts in his eyes and remembered in his heart, he said: "Only plain and plain is true, and true is the intention." ”
That's what he said and that's what he did.
As Liu Jiarong said, perhaps it is precisely because the two tolerate and understand each other that their marriage of more than 40 years is still as sweet as their first love.
03 Companionship is the longest confession of affection
Today, more than 40 years of time have passed in a flash, and the "little couple" who used to be beautiful have become "old two" with wrinkled faces, but their days have been sweeter than a day.
Today's Chen Yufu has long since retired and no longer drives airplanes.
When the old couple is idle, they will lean back in their chairs, bask in the sun, and remember the good times. Time passed minute by minute, but the feelings between them were like the photos that Liu Jiarong carefully preserved, which lasted for a long time.
They support each other to visit the park together, play chess together, cook together, gossip and tell us with practical actions that companionship is the longest confession in the world.
The two elderly people married in 1978, and their marriage of more than 40 years has also witnessed the rapid development of the country's economy since the reform and opening up.
When returning to the plane as a passenger, Chen Yufu often overlooked the land under his feet from a high altitude.
The chaotianmen gate where people come and go, the Yangtze River Bridge that flows endlessly, the color collision at the confluence of the Yangtze River and Jialing River... Chongqing, the Yuxiong Pass in Cuba that spans more than 2,000 years, is glowing with a different kind of new life in the new era.
Looking back on that year, Chen Yufu can still clearly remember:
In 1991, when Chongqing Jiangbei International Airport was completed and put into use, the first runway of Jiangbei Airport was only 2600 meters, and today, it has three terminals of T1, T2 and T3A, becoming the premier aviation hub in the southwest region, attracting tourists from all over the country and the world.
In the ASQ evaluation of 356 airports around the world in 2019, Jiangbei International Airport won the "Best Environment and Atmosphere Award" and "Best Passenger Service Award" for airports with a global passenger throughput of more than 40 million in the Asia-Pacific region.
Chen Yufu, who heard this news, was very pleased and constantly sighed to his wife: "The times have really changed! ”
Yes, the times are changing, but Chen Yufu and Liu Jiarong's intentions for each other have never changed. For them, being able to meet each other in the vast sea of people is the best gift given by God.
In such a fast-paced era, we are glad to meet such a sincere and intense love; such a plain and sweet marriage; such a sympathetic couple.
And there are many such long confessions as Chen Yufu and the elderly Liu Jiarong:
For example, the old couple who relied on each other on the subway that was brushed some time ago, even if they were hunchbacked, I can still give you a reliance; Grandpa Song and Grandma Song, who supported each other in the TV series "An Jia", after Grandpa Song died, Grandma Song also went with her husband without hesitation; the old couple in Qingdao who was over seventy years old, wearing Hanfu to spend Tanabata together, grabbing dolls, punching in food streets, playing video games... Even if I am old, I can still accompany you as romantic as ever.
Who says that only the love of young people is vigorous and beautiful?
The old couple's long-flowing love story is as romantic as it is, in them, we can really see the affection of "only enough to love one person in a lifetime", in them, we can truly understand what is "lovesickness is not deep".
Thanks to them, let us see the most beautiful look of love, but also they, to this fast-paced era injected a different element, a long life, choose one person and grow old, is the happiest thing.