The Law of Happy Marriage says:
"In this world, even the happiest marriage will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 times of strangling each other's thoughts in a lifetime."
The most feared thing in marriage is not quarrel, but that both parties do not speak.
The same is true before marriage,
Whether it's getting married or falling in love,
It's not a one-man show,
It's that both sides are protagonists.
Someone asked me: What is the best criterion for testing marriage?
My answer was to quarrel, to quarrel fiercely,
I know if you are suitable and whether you can enter the palace of marriage.
In Changsha, Hunan, the recent torrential rains have been continuous,
A woman rides an electric car to rain for 3 hours to rush home,
The fiancé's actions made her heart cold,
She hesitated: she didn't want to get married.
So should the woman marry her fiancé? Where will she go in the future?
01. Women ride electric vehicles to rush home in the rain for three hours
Recently, Hunan Changsha suddenly rained heavily,
Without a little "precaution", the heavy rainstorm that came was coming.
Usually it only takes half an hour for a woman to ride home.
But the torrential rain made her ride for three hours before she got home.
In the torrential rain, the woman walked alone,
One is danger, the other is helplessness, the helplessness of being drenched in rain.
But this is a strong woman,
She didn't choose to find a place to hide from the rain,
Nor did I choose to park the electric car somewhere and change other means of transportation to go home.
Instead, he chose to ride his electric car home in the rainstorm.
It rained for three hours.
It's not the difficulty that makes people feel frustrated.
It's that the person who loves you is indifferent to you.
It was pouring rain in the sky,
Wind and rain, muddy water stains on the road,
Can't tell if it's a stone or a puddle,
On the way home, the woman almost fell into a puddle,
It was hard to rush home,
There was no wind or rain in the house, but it was more violent than the storm.
The fiancé who has been in love for 5 years sees the woman come home,
He didn't say a word of concern,
On the contrary, after seeing the woman has emotions,
Alone with a bowl and chopsticks to the coffee table to eat,
He gulped down as if he were hungry.
And the woman sitting at the dinner table, tears like the torrential rain just now,
Crackling on the dinner table,
The "rainstorm" became heavier and heavier, and the woman recalled her former love,
The two have been in love for five years and are ready to take wedding photos next month.
But her fiancé's actions made her heart cold,
The woman even hesitated, she did not know whether to marry unmarried.
02. Comment area netizens support
This video is on fire, and some netizens commented:
Usually half an hour's drive, it took three hours to rain. The person who has you in his heart has long been worried, not to mention that he is not yet married, and his heart should be the most important. Indifference before marriage will be even more indifferent after marriage.
Some netizens said:
Some things feel uncomfortable and say them, and if they feel bad, they go back. Don't say nothing, always feel that if you love you, you have to understand your heart, guess your thoughts, in fact, some people really can't think so much, and finally you are aggrieved, he doesn't know the reason.
The netizens in the comment area are divided into two factions,
A group of netizens think that women should break up,
Another group of netizens feel that women should speak out their dissatisfaction,
Because whether it is love or marriage, you should learn to communicate.
So should a woman break up with her fiancé?
If it were you, how would you choose?
Why did the woman cry and not go because of the "I thought" in her heart?
I thought he loved me.
I thought he would care about me if he loved me.
I thought he didn't say anything and didn't love me.
Because "think", so expect,
So that I feel that the other party should do something,
Even if I don't say it, he knows to care about me.
That's all there is to the woman.
Because she didn't tell her fiancé what happened to her,
Why didn't you say it, don't you think the other party can understand?
But it's just that you don't say it, I don't understand.
Why are women crying?
Because her fiancé doesn't understand her,
Because she thinks her fiancé will definitely scold her for deserving,
And then the tears crackled and flowed down,
Tell the grievances in your heart.
Two people together is not a one-man show,
You don't need a person to write and act by yourself.
The woman made the mistakes that most women do,
Because I thought, "I don't say it, you'll understand.",
So time and time again, I doubted myself and wronged myself.
Remember: a happy marriage, with quarrels to heat up love.
03. The best criterion for testing marriage - quarrel
In this world, even the happiest marriage,
There will be at least 200 urges to divorce,
50 times to "strangle" each other's thoughts,
There are too many frivolities in love and marriage,
The best test for marriage – quarrel.
The attitude of quarrel determines the degree of happiness
What is a couple arguing?
That is, both sides are not possessed by the soul,
Blushing neck thick case for unnecessary consultation,
It can be an emotion or a contest of words.
Take the woman above as an example,
She thinks her fiancé doesn't care about her,
So there's a lot of bad emotions.
And then a man wept bitterly,
The fiancé is also a kind of "wooden man",
Hungry, eat first, comfort the girlfriend can wait,
Then there's the scene we saw.
The woman made the mistake that most girlfriends do – self-amplification,
Do not tell the other party their own thoughts, infinitely amplify the grievances in their hearts,
Regret all these years of effort, and then the more you think about it, the more angry you get,
It ended in a breakup.
The right thing to do should be this,
Since the heart is wronged and hurt, and needs to be comforted,
Then speak out loud about your grievances and thoughts,
See what attitude the other person has, if he is still a "wooden man",
Then break up when it is time to break up, and you don't have to be embarrassed and wronged yourself.
This is how quarrelsome attitudes determine the degree of happiness,
Some couples or couples quarrel more and more, the feelings of both sides are getting better and better,
But some couples or couples quarrel and become enemies,
May the two people on both sides of the couple think more about the reasons for this.
Quarrels have many benefits,
whether the couple is suitable for marriage,
Just get into a few fights before you get married.
Quarrels can see each other's emotional minefields.
Every time you quarrel, it is because you have touched the minefield of the other party,
So the two sides quarrel, at this time you can see the minefield touching each other,
What was her attitude? Can you accept his minefield,
This is the test of whether you are fit to get married.
Marriage can see each other as they really are.
When quarreling, the other party will give the worst emotions to the most familiar people,
He will show you everything that is most sensitive and fragile in his heart,
At this time, he is the most real.
When you see the most real him,
You then consider whether each other is suitable for marriage.
Arguing can test the other person's ability to cope with conflict.
It is not the conflict itself that defeats marriage.
Rather, the two parties lack the ability to deal with the conflict.
When quarreling, each other will show the most real side to each other,
But what about after the fight?
Some people choose the Cold War,
There are options to solve the problem,
The way it is handled here determines how happy the marriage is.
Write at the end:
Quarrel is the best trial marriage,
Two people who can't stand a fight,
Can't hold up the sky after marriage.
Whether it's love, or marriage
They all grow up in bumps and bumps,
Love and marriage are not one-man shows,
Whether it is happiness or wronged,
Share together, solve together,
Such a love will last.
I am January Love August, watching other people's stories and tasting my own life. If the article helps you, I hope you will also help me. How far a person can go, the key lies in who to walk with, I use the whole way across the mountains and seas, I hope to get your "like" praise.