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The anger of a 34-year-old single woman: Why did my fiancé dislike me when I had a black boyfriend?

Our encounter is a speck of dust in the sea of people, but a speck of dust refracts the sun is the brightest, I hope you can tell me your story, and I will listen to your voice as the best listener, hello everyone, this is the emotional station of yu'an.

Whenever we mention "older leftover women", many people may think of it for the first time: picking and choosing, too high vision, coveting vanity and a series of related negative evaluations. But in fact, there is still such a kind of leftover woman in real life: they envy the beautiful romantic love on the one hand, and at the same time struggle in the cruel real life on the other hand, in fact, their own hearts are also very entangled and confused.

Why do we always use older leftover women to advertise some women? How did those so-called leftover women come about? Is it necessarily her fault that a woman is not in love? In fact, women's choice to be single is influenced by many factors. In modern society, the status of women is constantly improving, and they no longer regard feelings as the whole of their lives, so there are more and more women who pursue a free single life.

Women strive to be better, and at the same time their standards for the other half are raised. They hope that the other half can have a rich material and economic foundation, and also hope that the other party can have a soul that matches themselves and a value concept that fits, and the woman's vision is indeed more critical, and the attitude towards feelings is more cautious.

So if they don't meet a man who satisfies themselves in every way, then they will never casually give in to their hearts and remain single. It is also under such circumstances that more and more women will become "older leftover women" like street rats.

However, a large part of the leftover women in the society are in a very embarrassing situation, their own conditions are not so good, but they put forward very strict requirements for the other half. They never realized how their mediocre qualifications could be worthy of those quality men. This is the problem with women themselves.

The anger of a 34-year-old single woman: Why did my fiancé dislike me when I had a black boyfriend?

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Yuran is 34 years old this year, but she is still single, in fact, she hates that others always use older leftover women to describe her, but she also feels tired after watching so many years of not being able to find her final destination. Yu Ran is a very emotional woman, she always pursues the ultimate happiness and romantic love, and she hopes to appear in her love life in the romantic scenes of the wind and snow moon that have appeared in books or TV series.

She has always believed that as long as she meets someone she likes, she will immediately take the initiative to pursue, but every time she gets the other party's permission, she begins to lose interest in this relationship. Later, Yu Ran met a classmate from Africa, she asked him to talk about Chinese, took him to adapt to the new life, and the spark of love was also generated in the intimate interaction again and again, and the two soon began to fall in love.

She was very happy during the time with him, the two always tried something new whenever they had time, and it was rare for Yuran to be able to maintain such a good feeling for this African boyfriend for such a long time, and she cherished this feeling. However, after graduating from college, because the boyfriend was going back to his country, the relationship ended. Even if it is a breakup, Yuran still often talks about this relationship with the people around her, and she feels that she can make such an African boyfriend, which is enough to prove that she is attractive.

After graduating from college, Yuran returned to her hometown to start working, and during that time she also tried new relationships, but eventually broke up unhappily. Because YuRan can't see hope for future life in those men, she knows very well that love without economic material support will not last long. Yuran always thought she was good looking and had a stable job, and she deserved a better man and a better life.

The anger of a 34-year-old single woman: Why did my fiancé dislike me when I had a black boyfriend?

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She's been waiting for the man who suits her best to show up, falling in love and getting married are two different things, and she can't just make a decision casually. In this way, she is picky and blind dates, she does not look up to those who like her, but the people she looks up to can't look at her. Once a blind date was still accusing her in public, "You are so old now and have so many demands on your face, do you think you are still a little girl in your early 20s?" Surely no one will want you in the future! ”

Fortunately, later she met a man who could really talk to herself, and the two ideas and concepts hit off. After all, neither of them is young, and after the relationship stabilizes, they immediately begin to prepare to meet their parents to prepare for the wedding. After getting the recognition and support of both parents, Yu Ran was very happy, and she waited for so many years to finally find a satisfactory marriage partner, fortunately the time was not in vain!

But one night when the two were talking about their past feelings, Yuran mentioned that she once had an African boyfriend, and she also recalled many details of the time when they were in love. Her happy look deeply stung the man's heart, "After so many years, you can't forget that person, do you really like him that much?" YuRan did not understand the true meaning of her boyfriend's words, so she did not respond.

The anger of a 34-year-old single woman: Why did my fiancé dislike me when I had a black boyfriend?

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Since that night, her boyfriend's attitude towards Yuran has become more and more indifferent, because he always feels that Yuran can't forget the African boyfriend in his heart, and he has been thinking about him for so many years, and even the details of the love affair are clearly remembered. If it weren't for the fact that the man had left, he might have rekindled his old feelings a long time ago. Doubts began to arise in the man's mind, and he became more and more distrustful of Yuran, and eventually even proposed to break up.

Yu Ran felt inexplicable, why did she suddenly say that she was going to be separated when she was in love? The man gave an explanation, "I really can't accept your African boyfriend, and I can't accept you mentioning his happy face." If you really like it so much, why don't you follow it to Africa? Marrying me now is just the last choice, right? ”

Yu Ran does not understand why a relationship that has ended has become a roadblock to preventing him from entering the marriage hall, and why falling in love has become his own mistake? Yuran never realized her mistake, she didn't take the chaotic emotional experience to heart, she always felt that it was just a very ordinary thing. She feels that her own excellence is enough to make men ignore her shortcomings.

The anger of a 34-year-old single woman: Why did my fiancé dislike me when I had a black boyfriend?

If she never finds herself wrong in her concept of mate selection, she may never find a truly suitable person. Yuran's requirements for marriage are so high, but her own conditions are not worthy of such a good life, and the pursuit of unrealistic feelings will only make her bear more difficulties and tortures in the end.

I hope that everyone can correct their attitude towards marriage feelings, do not use it as a tool to obtain benefits, treat feelings with sincerity, and use true emotions to each other, only in this way will they harvest the most beautiful love and marriage!

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