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Every spring festival, also known as the annual "blind date festival", the human marriage and blind date activities reach the climax of the Spring Festival, there are love objects are urged to marry, no love objects are arranged to go on blind dates.
And the New Year is really a very suitable season for marriage, usually children work in other cities, even if the phone call is useless, want to arrange a blind date can not be implemented, after all, the emperor is far away, really can not manage so far.
Spring Festival is different, from the city of work back home, every day under the eyes of parents, it is easy to arrange a variety of blind date activities for him, parents in order to let the child obey the blind date arrangement, can be described as a hard work, even coaxing and cheating, no matter what, first let the child and the blind date meet and then say, they feel that as long as they meet, the next everything is easy to say.
Therefore, the Spring Festival has also become the most distressing time for young people, because young people now have their own opinions, are not willing to accept blind date arrangements, and advocate free love, and feel that people who know each other by blind dates will not be much better, and it is difficult to produce real emotions.
Yesterday saw the news on the Internet, a woman went home for the New Year, in one day was arranged more than 20 blind dates, this number is simply shocking jaws, but also can be seen that parents do not respect the child, did not respect the child's wishes, forced the other party to do what she does not want to do,
Are the feelings and marriages obtained by blind dates really reliable? I think it's more or less unreliable, because it has a lot of drawbacks, and these drawbacks are the root cause of misfortune.
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The biggest drawback of blind dates is that you can't understand the truest side of this person.
Some people will think that the blind date is reliable, because there are people who know each other in common, and there is this person to help stare at, so it will be relatively reliable, and it can be regarded as knowing the roots, in fact, this is not the case.
Even if the person who is the middle pull line, that is, what we call the matchmaker, is not necessarily a reliable person, they are not your parents, will not examine for you whether this person is reliable, whether the character is good or not, whether the personality is good or not, whether there is any principled problem, and what is more, some matchmakers know that the person introduced to you is not good, he is useless, there are many shortcomings, and they will deliberately conceal the problem in order to promote this marriage.
We often see such and such strange blind date stories on the Internet, some people are introduced to those who have just been released from prison, some people are introduced to those who have serious illnesses, some people are introduced to domestic violence, some people are introduced to unemployed vagrants, and some people are introduced to their wives who have just died.
And there are not many such cases, it can be said that it is very common, we can be sure that a person needs to rely on blind dates to find someone to marry, that means that the person will not be very good (they do not want to get married and do not want to fall in love, except those who are forced by their parents)
Because if a person is good enough, then there will be a lot of people around him who like him, he does not need to make friends of the opposite sex through blind dates, those who need blind dates, are all problematic, and are picked out.
So if the matchmaker gives you a big exaggeration of a person, be careful and vigilant, he may be deliberately beautifying the other party.
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The second drawback of blind dates is that the other party is only to complete the task of marriage.
For people who participate in blind dates, their purpose is very clear, that is, to get married, for them, marriage is just a task in life, just like going to school in order to get a diploma, as long as you get that certificate, you will complete the task.
If a person is only to complete the task of marriage, he will hardly know how to love, will not know how to love a person, and will not know how to run the family well.
Marrying someone who does not know how to love and has no sense of family responsibility can see that the future will not be happy. Those who have love will not necessarily be happy when they enter marriage, and those who do not have love will not be happy when they enter marriage, and this result is inevitable.
If you think about it, going on a blind date with a person, sitting at each other's desk and exchanging personal information with each other, what kind of work you do, how much money you make, whether you have a house or a car, just a simple understanding, feeling that the other person's conditions can then continue to communicate.
And if you are blind date, as long as you determine the right eye, the family will definitely urge marriage immediately, and even many people know that the other party has some shortcomings, and they will rush to get married in order to complete this task.
Marriage is not a child's play, marriage is very complicated, how can you choose a random person, and then feel that you can get happiness?
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Finally, if you are a parent, you must learn to respect your child, listen to his inner thoughts, if he does not plan to get married so quickly, but also want to work hard to fight for his career, you should not rush to arrange a blind date for him, but follow his ideas.
If you blindly force each other, the result will only be counterproductive, and eventually make the parent-child relationship tense.
If you are a child, urged by your parents to marry, urged to go on a blind date, you must have your own opinion, do not want to do what you do not follow, learn to defend your own sovereignty with your parents, because if this matter can not be decided by yourself, there will be many things that will be interfered with by them in the future.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Bouquet of Love"