I usually have average grades, but I "played extraordinarily" in the college entrance examination, what did I do right back then?

Ning Ma Wuyu

2024-05-23 12:35Posted in Shandong Parenting Creators

Text: Ning Ma Wuyu

The college entrance examination is approaching, many children are under great pressure and are unable to study, how to let the children persevere to the end is too important.

I happened to see a message that the girl in her third year of high school was so anxious that she cried and talked to her dad on the phone.

The girl said: Dad, I want to go home in the afternoon, can you pick me up?

Dad said, "Okay, wait for me for a while."

The girl said: I collapsed in learning, it was too difficult, I wouldn't know.

Dad said: It's too difficult, let's not learn, just keep the mentality!

Many friends feel the same way, and it is indeed not easy for children in the college entrance examination.

It is normal for children to learn to collapse before the college entrance examination, which shows that they want to do well in the exam, but in the face of the usual extremely difficult examinations, it seriously hits their self-confidence.

However, I want to say: the future is undecided, you and I are dark horses. Don't throw in the towel until the last minute.

When I was in high school, my grades were average, and at my best, I was only about 15 in my class. But during the college entrance examination, I was admitted to the top 10 in the class, with a total score of 656 points (it was a standard score that year, I don't know the actual score), and I really left the best score for the college entrance examination. In less than 10 days, I received the admission letter of my first choice and first major.

Teachers and students all felt incredible, and they all said: Usually obscure, but during the college entrance examination, they were a blockbuster and hidden!

Actually, I don't think I have any hidden skills, it's just that I played at a normal level with a stable mentality, and I accidentally surpassed many classmates who didn't play well.

Those students who usually have good grades may want to win too much, but as a result, they feel nervous during the exam, which inhibits the reaction speed and sharpness of the brain, and they can't do the questions they should have, and they do the right things wrong.

I also had this feeling, in the final exam of the second year of high school, I actually scored 69 points in mathematics, which is usually above 130, and I also failed the politics test that time, which was miserable. At that time, I thought that the question of the test paper was wrong, and I took it for granted that I changed the question, and of course the result was not scored. I was very nervous and wanted to prove myself with a good result.

The delineation of the final score line is not based on the level of individual scores, but on the overall scores of students in the province. If other students don't do well in the exam, I will continue to perform at a normal level, and my score will be much higher, and I will be ranked high, which seems to be an extraordinary performance.

Therefore, don't care about the current scores, before and after the ranking, focus on the learning itself, check and fill in the gaps, and master the knowledge points that should be mastered.

There is no so-called "dark horse" that has sprung up, and some are just the real realization of the results of three years of high school learning. If the child does these two things correctly in high school and before the college entrance examination, there is a possibility of "overperforming".

Three years of high school perseverance and hard work

Usually the grades are not good, there will definitely be frustration and complaining, but chatting with classmates, going out to climb the mountain, in the end, reason trivializes sensibility, after a short period of adjustment, I will continue to study hard, and I will not break the jar.

In the past three years, I have hardly taken leave, and I seem to have only been sick once, and that time almost all the students in the class were recruited, and they lined up to play hanging bottles. At that time, it was actually very bitter, I got up at half past five in the morning to run exercises, and went to bed at more than 10 o'clock in the evening.

I will do well in every class, I will complete every homework well, and I will humbly ask teachers and classmates for advice if I don't understand. Although the score is not too high, the foundation is very solid, and the knowledge points in the textbook are answered fluently. The score of language, mathematics and English is basically above 130, and the physical chemistry is relatively weak.

When I took the college entrance examination, I found that the questions were much simpler than the usual test practice and mock exams, and most of them examined the basic knowledge, as long as I usually studied well, I could use a lot of time to write, a small amount of time to think, and I could soon do the whole test paper.

I remember that only the Chinese writing task was heavy, and I had a lot of time to check the other subjects, and I had time to look at the birds outside the window and leisurely find something to eat.

Therefore, in the face of the college entrance examination, don't think too hard, as long as you have worked hard for three years and played your normal level, you will have a chance to stand out.

The cultivation of a good attitude before the college entrance examination

Before the college entrance examination, there will inevitably be pressure, don't feel hypocritical, accept yourself, but learn to adjust your mentality.

The reason why I had a good attitude at that time was that there were four kinds of help: myself, teachers, classmates, and parents.

(1) Your own thoughts.

At that time, the farthest place I had ever been was the county where our high school was located, and I didn't know anything about the outside world. I've only seen one admissions poster, and the rest is all up to imagination. I don't know what I can do when I go to college. Therefore, everything feels ethereal and dreamlike. There is a desire for college, but it feels unrealistic.

The idea of the college entrance examination is to have an explanation for the three years of high school, and the result is to go with the flow, go outside to have a look, and if you fail the exam, go home to plant greenhouses and cotton. Anyway, I like farming, I want to plant a lot of acres of cotton when I was in junior high school, tie a big burden around my waist, pick cotton under the sun, and feel a real sense of achievement, which is very beautiful.

In other words, it is 360 lines of the champion, and you have to make multiple plans, so why only care about the single-plank bridge of the college entrance examination.

(2) Guidance from teachers.

Our teachers are very simple, not utilitarian, and never say that if they can't get into college, they will be wasted, they will be finished, etc., but they can surpass them and become important talents in the 21st century. This kind of positive encouragement stimulates our positive motivation.

The teacher always gave us confidence, I remember the physics teacher said: our province is a province with a very strong college entrance examination, our region is the most powerful area in the province, our county is the most powerful county in the region, and our school is the most powerful school in the county. At that time, our school was indeed quite brilliant, nearly a hundred years old, several in Qingbei every year, there was an important scholarship, 10 people in the whole region, our school can account for four or five.

The teacher will also give us some ways to relieve stress, and I still remember the way the homeroom teacher told us to relax. He asked us to close our eyes and feel how long 15 seconds was, and the silence in the classroom felt like 15 seconds in the darkness was longer than 1 minute. The teacher said, don't feel that there is not enough time, it takes a long time to calm down, and just answer the questionnaire patiently.

(3) Mutual assistance among classmates.

At that time, the closest people were naturally dormitory classmates. Every time I feel stressed, a few of our classmates who are very good at talking will go to the road outside the school to take a walk, and we will go hiking during the half-day break on weekends.

(4) Parents' normal heart.

I usually only go home once a month, I don't spend much time with my family, and they don't know what college entrance exams and universities are, and they never make any requests, as long as they eat well and don't get sick, so they don't have a sense of suffocating oppression like many children.

At that time, I felt that everything was so simple and pure, so the mentality was relatively stable. In fact, it can also be used as a reference now, and when you return to your original intention, everything will be better.

Written at the end: I usually have average grades, but I "played extraordinarily" in the college entrance examination, what did I do right back then? The main thing is to study hard without distractions! I hope that my memories can give you some food for thought and help, so that the children can easily go into battle and win the Toad Palace.

I'm @Ning Ma Wuyu

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