Regarding marriage, I don't seem to have the courage.
Since when, successively, many people have always said such things.
I have to say that at present, the willingness of young people to marry is indeed generally low.
Part of the reason is that many young people begin to feel that a person is also very good, even if they are not married, it does not matter much, on the other hand, for the marriage to a person, many people yearn for it, but also have a worry.
Getting married, walking into marriage with a person, is just a very simple thing, but in this matter, some single people will be less courageous, even some people who are in love, the same is true.
It's like it's good to be in love, and I'm happy, but when I get married, I don't like it so much.
People who do not have the courage to marry seem to be due to timidity, in fact, what young people worry about is also some very real problems.
Worrying about marriage will consume all the good.
Instead of thinking that life will be very romantic and beautiful after marriage, and someone pampers themselves unconditionally, people are now more and more beginning to realize that marriage is not as attractive as imagined.
Because the marriage of parents is full of quarrels, and because the marriages of too many people around them are just chicken feathers.
When a person has seen too much love, and finally just becomes indifferent, just becomes mutually complaining, unconsciously, the cognition of marriage will become not so good, will be afraid that they will be like others, married life is just very bad.
People today, far more sober than ever, never feel that they should be different from others, and only think that what most people look like after marriage is what they will look like in the future.
If after marriage, all the beauty will only be forgotten, and each other will only begin to become very vicious, many people will really have no good feelings for marriage, and they will not be able to ignore it and enter the marriage with a person.
Before getting married, there will only be special hesitation, and it will also be very doubtful, not knowing what is good about getting married.
Don't get married, just fall in love, keep a certain distance from the people you like, don't have to bear so much, so that you often feel very sweet, but also feel very happy.
And marriage, sweet no more, romance no more, some are just chai rice oil and salt, some just look at each other.
I am afraid that after marriage, I will not be able to cope with it.
Too many people are always easy to see the advantages of others and feel that others are good.
Looking back at myself, I always feel that I have a lot of problems and a lot of deficiencies.
Not only that, but I also feel that the problems in my body will not be tolerated by anyone, and I can really tolerate them.
That is to say, if you really marry a person, after marriage, you will feel that if the other party finds out what they look like, then the other party will probably feel that they are not worthy of being loved, and they will not love themselves anymore.
On the other hand, getting married means taking on the weight of a family, whether it's making money to support a family, whether it's buying a house or a car, whether it's having children and raising children, all of this is not an easy task.
Today's young people, to support themselves, often feel very difficult, but also to bear another weight, responsible for a family, responsible for a small life, many people will really be less confident.
I don't think I can bear all that, I feel that such a burden will affect my quality of life and crush myself.
In the face of all this, many people really don't think that on that day, everything will naturally have a way to solve, everything will be fine, but from the beginning they chose to run away, and they didn't dare to easily step in and let themselves fall into that kind of years.
Afraid that the other party is not a good person, let yourself be unlucky.
The generation of parents, once married, few people will think about divorce, and will only be loyal to marriage and live forever.
In this era, the divorce rate is particularly high, and there are many people who are not loyal to marriage.
In addition to infidelity to marriage, there are too many people, the personality is not good, the character is not good, do not love their other half at all, can not share the housework, there is no sense of responsibility and so on.
For this reason, when it is not easy to see a person, it is not easy, so too many people will really be particularly cautious in the matter of marriage, and they are not willing to easily give up their hearts, so they identify a person and marry a person.
Afraid that after marriage, the other party will be bad for themselves, everything in the family, the other party will not want to bear at all, they will need to do a lot of things, even if they pay a lot, they will not get half a response, will only be very unhappy from time to time, living a very painful life.
So, in order to protect themselves and not let themselves fall into that situation, at the very beginning, many people stumbled.
Unless a person is really very good to himself, can make himself feel a love, through that person, he can see the future, otherwise, simply willing to be single, just rely on himself, take care of his own life.
Although a person is a little lonely, at least he will not always be physically and mentally tormented, at least he will not become more embarrassed.
Getting married, that is also a very courageous thing, a very courageous thing.
It's just a pity that too many people have a voice in their hearts and feel that they don't have that courage.
Without courage, on the surface, it seems that I am not brave enough, I think too much, but in the final analysis, I still have not met a sincere heart, and I have not met a person who can give my courage.
I have never met, so I will always be so rational, I will always be so restrained, and I will not be willing at all.
If you can really meet, in fact, no matter what the road ahead, you will be very confident and willing to try.
After all, sincerity is too difficult to meet, and sincerity is too scarce.
In this regard, what everyone should do is to find it well, to be willing to show their own sincerity, to love it first, and then to change it for someone else's. There will always be someone who will be worth it, and there will always be someone who will fill us with courage.
Text/Tan Meng
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