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In life, there is nothing wrong with being enthusiastic in itself, but it must also be analyzed on a case-by-case basis. Sometimes, you are kind, but in the end you help, it can be described as thankless.
After marriage, good intentions do bad things from time to time.
This reminds us to try not to be nosy.
We are not parties, do not know what is happening, and cannot afford the consequences of making a choice, so it is a smart thing to stay out of the matter.
Every family has a difficult scripture, many things should not be taken care of, especially as a daughter-in-law, you want a better life, do not interfere in the family problems of your in-laws after marriage.
Otherwise, even if you are kind, you will not end up well, and you will even be blamed and hated.
First: Do not easily interfere in the emotional affairs of the in-laws
Her friend Lin Hui suffered losses, she and her husband are college alumni, and they were successfully married after three years of love.
Husband has a big sister, when she was in love before, Lin Hui often heard her husband say that the big sister went out to work early, just to make more money to supplement the family.
The husband can successfully finish college, thanks to the help and support of the eldest sister. He was grateful to his sister in his heart, and if she encountered difficulties in the future, he would try his best to help.
Lin Hui loves each other, so she also loves Wu and Wu, whether it is with her husband's parents or with her eldest sister, she is very willing to pay.
However, there were some problems with the eldest sister's marriage. They have been married for ten years, and the relationship has been good, but it is a pity that the eldest sister has not been able to conceive the second child.
The eldest sister has a very cute daughter, but her mother-in-law is particularly patriarchal, and she must be forced to have another boy. The eldest sister has worked hard, but after getting older, many things are not up to her.
As a result, her husband had extramarital feelings and completely broke the heart of the eldest sister.
They began to divorce, for a while the eldest sister could only go back to her mother's house to live, Lin Hui saw the eldest sister crying so sadly, felt very distressed, but the mother-in-law always advised the eldest sister that no matter what, she could not divorce.
But at that time, the attitude of the eldest sister was very firm, and there was no love between them anymore, and they could not live any longer.
As a woman, Lin Hui can understand the feelings of the eldest sister, so she encourages the eldest sister to stick to her own choices and not to easily compromise in order to meet the requirements of her parents.
Soon after, they divorced.
But the life of the eldest sister is not good, she has not worked for many years, and she is afraid of hardship. Only a few months after divorcing her ex-husband, she regretted it, and as a result, her mother-in-law and eldest sister blamed all the fault on Lin Hui, saying that she was nosy and had to be persuaded to leave, and she felt extremely wronged.
After experiencing this incident, Lin Hui truly understood that if a woman wants a better life after marriage, she absolutely cannot interfere in the family problems of her in-laws. If she had known that the eldest sister would regret it, she would never have said a word at the beginning.
In-laws' emotional affairs, no matter how not to meddle, you help each other to make decisions, accidents will be blamed on you, why bother, it is better to be alone, and end up clean.
Second: The housework of the in-laws' families can be ignored
There is a saying that it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs.
This is not unreasonable, in life, only the parties themselves can sort out the housework, and outsiders must control themselves no matter how enthusiastic they are, and do not take care of things.
Some women are very easy to do bad things with good intentions, see that the in-laws are not compatible, or because of some small things, they forcibly interfere, and the result is that they are not people inside and outside. Not only will the other party not appreciate her help, but they will feel that you take yourself too seriously.
In this way, you feel aggrieved, the other party feels that you have no measure, and the relationship is frozen.
In life, taking care of yourself is the most important thing, and the idle things that have nothing to do with you can be ignored and left alone, which is not good for you. Even people who are close to each other must know how to keep a distance, grasp the boundaries and measures, and once they cross the line, the relationship will be affected and even broken.
This is especially true for women, the in-laws' affairs should not be easily interfered with, and people who are really emotionally intelligent and smart enough know how to stay out of things, which is not a fear of things, but a kind of rationality and sobriety.
Running a marriage requires certain skills and methods, and a good marriage is not born, but is managed by the day after tomorrow. Only if you are smart enough and sober enough will you not let yourself be bullied and hurt.
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