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Nine times out of ten, the contradictions between husband and wife are all because of money, or the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The stability of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also determines the life and death of this marriage to a large extent.
It is as if there is a natural barrier between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and there will always be a gap in getting along. But on the other hand, if you think about it, if you are biological and non-biological standing together, your heart will definitely be biased towards the biological side, which is beyond doubt. However, there are also many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in life who are like biological children.
Some daughters-in-law have great respect for their mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law does not respect her daughter-in-law again and again. After a long time, the daughter-in-law will fall into resentment, which will eventually lead to the deterioration of the relationship between husband and wife. Netizen Lingling has recently encountered some trouble, which makes her very distressed.
Married to her husband for so many years, I have worked hard for the family, taken care of the elderly and children at home, and taken care of their daily life. No one said a hard word to her, but her mother-in-law kept being sarcastic and calling her. The sister-in-law's attitude was even more dismissive of her.
At the Chinese New Year's Eve meal, Ling Ling found an outlet. What exactly happened? We'll talk about it today.
01 The mother-in-law is not satisfied with the daughter-in-law
Lingling and Wang Bokun are high school classmates, and the two have been in love since high school, and they have been in love for eight years until they graduated from college and began to work. Two people are the typical of other people from school uniforms to wedding dresses, and many people envy the feelings of two people, and they don't know how many bitter tears there are.
For example, after getting married now, the biggest problem for Lingling is getting along with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law was never satisfied with her before she got married. Whether it is the work unit or the family lineage, the mother-in-law does not look up to Lingling.
My son graduated from a college and earned as much as 10,000 a month. In contrast, the daughter-in-law's graduation college is general, and the monthly income is at most five or six thousand, and Lingling's family is rural. At first, the mother-in-law did not agree to the marriage of the two people, and the son insisted on marrying.
After marrying over, Lingling's hard days began. The housework at home was all wrapped up in Lingling. Three meals a day, in addition to the inability to come back home to cook at noon in the company, the remaining two meals are made by Lingling. Once LingLing was late cooking, and her mother-in-law scolded and grinned at Lingling.
Mother-in-law this person is a typical two-sided and three-knife, the husband is very polite and gentle to Lingling when he is at home, and when the husband is gone, he will change into another look. Keep calling Lingling and asking her to do this and do that.
02 Obedience
Many people say that Lingling can tell her husband these things, and Lingling always laughs and does not speak.
Didn't they think they had said it? In exchange, the mother-in-law intensified her coping and abuse. The husband was indifferent next to him, and did not accuse the mother-in-law of her mistakes for her mother-in-law's nonsense, but stood by her mother-in-law's side.
When I first fell in love, I didn't find that my husband was actually a mother and baby man, but now I finally see it clearly. For the mother-in-law's words, only obey the order, and what you say is taken as the wind in your ears.
Ling Ling once thought about divorce, but she was reluctant to do so, after all, they had been together for nearly ten years, and ten years had spent their own youth and all their vitality poured into such a man. Ling Ling was not willing to end this marriage like this, and every time she endured and forgave her husband and mother-in-law's mistakes.
The mother-in-law's wild entanglement continues, and no day is stopped. The mother-in-law found out that there was cholecystitis, which had reached a very serious point and had to be removed by surgery. After the operation is completed, it needs to be cared for.
Both husband and wife need to go to work, and the two discuss taking turns to take care of them. As soon as the married mother-in-law heard that her son was also going to take care of herself. The body is no longer in pain, and the person is also mentally.
"Son, I'm fine, you don't have to take care of me, don't go to work, there's no Lingling here!"
"Good fellow, it's important to go to work with your son, it's not important for her to go to work?" Ling Ling thought so in her heart. The mother-in-law said that if her husband came to serve, she would not be hospitalized and would go home.
The mother-in-law is typically unreasonable, that is, she wants Lingling to take care of her alone in the hospital, so that she can summon people to do things, and the son is afraid of tiring him.
In the end, Lingling took a week's leave, a person 24 hours a day in the hospital to take care of the mother-in-law for a week, the husband came to deliver food. The mother-in-law will also make all kinds of difficulties for Lingling, this does not eat that does not eat.
After a while, I said to go to the toilet, and when I was ready, I said I couldn't go. Said that I want to eat millet porridge, buy it back and don't drink it. It was purely to add to Ling Ling's blockage.
03 The sister-in-law borrowed money
Tolerance also has a certain degree, and rabbits will bite people when they are anxious. Married for so many years, in the in-laws' home to work hard, suffered from the cold eyes, the picture is the husband of this person, but Ling Ling recently found that her husband can not look forward to it.
The sister-in-law needs money to buy a house, and asked Lingling and her husband to borrow 10 yuan, and now they have not given it for the past three years. The houses are all occupied, and the money has not moved at all.
I mentioned it to my sister-in-law many times, and my sister-in-law always laughed and did not speak. Every time I asked, I said that I was tight on my hands now, and I would pay it back immediately when I had money.
The number of times is more, Ling Ling is not happy, one hundred thousand yuan is not a small amount. As a sister-in-law, I was embarrassed to keep asking for money, and every time I ordered it. Lingling asked her husband to ask her sister-in-law for money, and her husband felt that Lingling was preoccupied.
After a long time, my husband was very annoyed about this matter. "Then she has no money now, and if she has money, she gives it, saying what is wrong with the family's help."
Ling Ling was grumbled by her husband and sat there without speaking. I was very aggrieved in my heart, where would my sister-in-law run out of money? A while ago, when I went to her house, my sister-in-law bought a new car. Spending money is also extravagant, every day with children to travel outside, this money can be available, can not first pay back the borrowed money? Or do you not want to pay it back at all, and you don't say that you must let the sister-in-law pay it all at once, and you can pay back a little less each time.
Ling Ling did not understand, there is always a way to solve, why not do it.
04 Chinese New Year's Eve meals
It's another year Chinese New Year's Eve nights, every year Chinese New Year's Eve meal is made by Lingling, this year is the fifth year of marriage, Lingling has also done five years of Chinese New Year's Eve meal.
This year Chinese New Year's Eve meal, Lingling wants to make something different. Since the matter of the sister-in-law borrowing money has not been solved, the mother-in-law does not care, and the husband is troublesome, then let her solve it.
This year's Chinese New Year's Eve meal is a bit large, this year the children have come, last year's sister-in-law's two children did not come, this year everyone has arrived, counting there are 18 people. This is a huge project for the cooker, and there is not such a big table at home, so Ling Ling plans to set up two tables of dishes.
His own two children and two children of the sister-in-law's family, next to an adult to watch sit at a table, the other people sit at another large table.
18 people Chinese New Year's Eve rice, LingLing cooked deliberately forgot to put salt. It is to give the sister-in-law and mother-in-law a chance to get off the horse, so that they know that they are not allowed to be slaughtered.
The mother-in-law tasted the problem first, and did not notice it when eating cold vegetables, and found this problem when drinking tofu soup. The mother-in-law asked Ling Ling if she had forgotten to put salt.
Ling Ling didn't pay attention at first, and then she muttered twice. The sister-in-law couldn't look at it anymore, and felt that the sister-in-law was just making a model for herself again, and she was not welcome to come. The sister-in-law smashed the dishes and chopsticks, and slammed the door with the child and her husband.
Seeing that his sister was angry and left, her husband lifted the table. Chinese New Year's Eve rice was originally a reunion dinner, but now it has become a scattered group meal.
"If your sister doesn't pay back, it's not as simple as cooking without salt."
"Tigers don't threaten, you when I'm a sick cat." Ling Ling had finally caught fire over the years, and her husband was shocked. "After all these years of hard work and resentment to serve you, it is time for me to change my way of life."
Before long, Ling Ling's account had an extra 100,000 yuan. Ling Ling smiled satisfactorily, some people just listen to good words too much, and they have to say evil words to be relatively effective.
Husband and wife pay attention to sharing hardships and hardships, sharing blessings and sharing difficulties. As a husband, you should understand everything that your wife has given up for the family, and you should know how to be grateful.
It is easy to love each other and difficult to get along, two people have come together easily, and they should know how to cherish it. LingLing and her husband have not come all the way, and they should not be affected by the outside world so easily. We tend to be too harsh on the person closest to us, asking her to do this and that, showing her bad side without reservation, and it is too easy to hurt each other's feelings. After a long time, your feelings will be consumed.
The daughter-in-law did not marry to be a servant, and the mother-in-law should not have this awareness. Before marrying, the daughter-in-law was also the treasure of the family and was pampered as a pearl in the palm of her hand. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should have a little more understanding, less quarrels, and a little more love will make the family completely different, why not do it?
Borrowing money to pay back is a natural thing, don't don't pay it back because you are a brother, there is no free lunch in the world, it is not difficult to borrow well and borrow again.
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