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At the end of last week, colleague Lingling was anxious to hold the child and asked me, the mother of the second child, for advice - why is my child almost four months old, or will not turn over?
I told Lingling from the experience of people who came over that it is very common for children not to turn over for four months. Taking my eldest and second eldest as an example, the eldest will turn over independently in five months, and the second eldest will make a slight advance in progress, and it will not turn over until more than four months.
"But the old people in the family are chanting in their mouths, three turns, six sittings, nine crawls are the law of children's growth, I am really afraid that children have development problems." My explanation did not dispel Lingling's concerns.
So I suggested to her that I take my child to a routine child care check-up and listen to the doctor's professional advice. Lingling went to hold the child the next day, and the doctor conducted a comprehensive examination of Lingling's child, and the result was that the child's development level was good.
As for why the child who is almost four months old does not turn over? The doctor also gave a professional explanation:
(1) Each child has its own rules, can not require all children to be "uniform", the collective to achieve three months to turn over, a little earlier or later is a normal phenomenon.
(2) It is still warm and cold weather, the child is wrapped in a thin cotton jacket, and the clothes are too thick to affect the child's big action.
(3) The child's weight is at the upper middle level, the "base" of his own weight is larger, and his flexibility will be relatively poor.
At the same time, the pediatrician was kind enough to remind Lingling that the so-called "three flips, six sittings, nine climbs" is only the life experience summarized by the older generation, and it is not accurate. If parents force their children to follow this developmental law, it is likely to cause the negative effect of "seedlings and growth".
What is the developmental pattern of your baby? Parents may wish to learn to master it:
turn over
Turning over is the first big limb movement that the baby learns, usually at the age of 3 months, the baby will have a "desire to turn over", but there are not many babies who can independently complete the turnaround action, and most children can turn over independently around 4-6 months.
Parents want to help babies master the skills of turning over as soon as possible, so timely guidance is OK. For example, when I first trained Dabao to turn over, I would use one palm to stick to the baby's back, and then "borrow" forward and downward to help the baby complete the turnover.
Arrange more training at a fixed time every day, and give the baby "borrowing" a few more times, and they will naturally be able to complete the turning over action independently.
Sit still
After looking up, sitting is the second big move in your baby's life. Babies who can sit independently at 6 months are not nothing, but there are really very few, and the vast majority of babies are between 7-9 months of age to complete the sitting and standing action independently.
And I really want to remind all parents that don't let the baby practice sitting and standing too early in order to "be strong". Because as we all know, the baby's bones are not harder than adults, the toughness is very large, and the muscle strength of the waist is also very weak. If you violate the baby's own growth rules to train them to sit upright, it is likely to cause them to deform their spine.
Helping the baby sit up training is also a gradual process, when the baby releases the signal of wanting to sit, parents can take a pillow and other auxiliary tools, pad in the baby's waist, play a supporting role, help the baby practice sitting.
Even if the baby has tried to sit independently, parents still need to participate in the process. Because the baby's waist muscles are not strong enough, during the initial sitting process, there will be a phenomenon of sitting up straight and easy to lean forward.
I remember when my second treasure began to learn to sit, this forward tilt phenomenon occurred very frequently. Later, I would place a few brightly colored toys within the reach of the baby, so that the baby could reach for food. In this way, exercise your baby's neck support and help your baby master sitting skills as quickly and better as possible.
crawl
My eldest will climb in about 7 months, while the second will not climb until about 10 months. To this end, I have also asked many parents of babies who are almost the same age around me, and the answers are various. The earlier ones are about 6 months, and the later ones are about 11 months.
I have to say that the mastery of the skill of crawling is really big for the baby. Therefore, parents' attitude towards the baby learning to crawl may wish to be "Buddhist" and give the baby more time to grow and accept slowly. Even after the baby has fully mastered the skill of crawling, do not be anxious to ask the baby to jump to the stage of "standing and walking".
Know that your baby is keen on crawling time, but before they learn to walk. When they have the ability to walk independently, the baby will basically refuse to crawl. However, crawling has a very great impact on the baby, crawling can train the baby's inner ear vestibular and balance ability to grow. Some parenting experts even suggest that the baby should ensure that the crawling time in his life should be more than 500 hours.
I can understand the mood of being a parent, and I hope that my baby can keep up with the pace of development of his peers. But don't take the old saying of "three flips, six sits, nine climbs" as a standard parenting indicator.
You know, there are no two exactly the same leaves in the world, and the growth and development of each child is affected by its own objective conditions, some fast and some slow, as long as it is within a certain floating range, it is regarded as a normal phenomenon.
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