Many times, as parents, we want our children to communicate with their parents about something or ideas, but this is not the case.
Lingling is in the fourth grade this year, and usually comes home from school to tell her mother interesting things about school.
But sometimes as he talked, he stopped, and it seemed mysterious.
Lingling's mother asked her why she didn't say it, and Lingling said that this was a secret between me and my classmates and couldn't tell you.
Mom said even I can't say?
Ling Ling nodded.
Ling Ling's mother felt very strange, before the child asked what to answer, now the mouth is getting stricter, what is the matter?
In fact, in the process of children growing up, as they grow older, their thinking, vision and three views have changed differently, so we cannot look at and educate children with stale and wrong eyes.
If you always want to spy on your child's secrets, what will your child do?
In order not to let parents know, they also think of many ways.
Like children chatting, they actually used a password system.
In order to prevent parents from watching, they no longer write text, but use punctuation + expression, or use alphabet abbreviations, which looks like Morse password, parents are confused and confused, at this time they no longer worry about parents watching, after all, the content is only understood by themselves.
Take a look at this chat below
Isn't it creative? A series of numerical calculations can express a sentence.
Look at these two elementary school students, how do they talk?
Use pinyin to convey the spirit.
For example: What is yyds? What is xsml?
If no one translates, few people must know. It turns out that this yyds is the eternal god, and xswl translates to laugh at me.
Look at the following symbolic chat, which is a kind of advanced chat, because the chat content will be encrypted, and parents are even more confused.
The above two children communicate with punctuation marks, really advanced, one? , a +, you can know the meaning of the other party's expression, it is really powerful.
It's hard to guess without explanation.
And this combination of diagonal, horizontal, and dot, that's the Ben Morse code.
Let's take a look at it, what is the alien text?
Is it a confused face, and the question mark is all over the head?
I really don't understand the brain circuits of children today, and we can only sigh to ourselves.
There may be parents who have seen it and will do their best to think about cracking it, but have you ever thought about it, in this way, will the child's heart be hurt?
If you always want to control the child, lack confidence in the child's growth, use adult thinking and intervene in what the child does and what should not be done, such manipulation is wrong.
Because no matter how young a child is, he is an independent individual, and we should respect him.
Some psychologists say that this child, after entering school, especially after entering puberty, the need for inner independence is becoming more and more intense, and we must objectively realize that this behavior of the child is not necessarily aimed at parents, but wants to express their inner desire for independence.
From this point of view, respect the child, give the child enough space, when the child encounters problems, be a qualified listener, become the child's loyal friend.
In the process of educating children, parents must understand that when the child is older, he will not be as clingy as when he was a child, he has his own ideas, and he prefers to be alone with his peers.
The so-called father and son mother and son, but you are at this end of the road, watching him slowly disappear on the other side of the road, watching his back gradually blur until it disappears, but you don't have to chase...