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People in the world often say: "There are 80,000 words in the world, but only love words hurt the most." ”
Deeply.
Love is undoubtedly the most wonderful thing in the world, it can bring you endless happiness and let you experience the taste of being loved. But at the same time, a little carelessness can also make you depressed, and from then on, you will be depressed and suffer from gains and losses.
Since ancient times, how many idiot men and women have been addicted to love and cannot extricate themselves, eat love as a meal, and regard the people they like as an indispensable part of life, so that in the long run, they have formed a dependence on the other half and cannot afford to put it down.
Even many people, knowing that the other party does not love themselves, but still have to continue to entangle, and finally not only let themselves hurt more deeply, but also make the other party tired of themselves, and the two people who once loved each other can only be unhappy and disperse.
So a relationship comes to an end, two people have no chance to continue to love each other, or you love each other deeply, and the other party has not the slightest love for you, how should you treat yourself?
Perhaps many people will say: delete all the contact information of the other party, do not contact and do not bother, choose the way to break the connection and let go.
But does disconnection really allow you to let go of the person you have loved for a long time and quickly get out of this relationship? The result is clearly not possible.
Generally speaking, people who have really loved each other, quarrel and conflict, can endure for several hours or 24 hours without contact. However, once the time is long, the heart will be abnormally tormented and irritable, and the longer the time, the more obvious this feeling is, until finally can't help it, have to lower the posture, take the initiative to contact the other party.
So, how to let go of someone who doesn't love you? Disconnection is not the best approach.
In the relationship, disconnection does not necessarily solve the problem
Some time ago, her friend Lingling was breaking up with her boyfriend who had been in love for three years.
Before that, they would occasionally quarrel and quarrel, and when there was an argument, they habitually chose to disconnect, but at most, after sleeping, the boyfriend would take the initiative to apologize to her and coax her to be happy, and then the two tacitly agreed not to mention those unhappy things, and reconciled as before.
But after the quarrel this time, Lingling and her boyfriend felt that they were not wrong, neither of them was willing to be the first to take the initiative, and no one wanted to contact each other first.
As a result, Lingling and her boyfriend began a cold war and stalemated for a long time. During this period, Lingling was talking to her friends every day, and more complained that her boyfriend did not really like her, so she deliberately did not contact her.
But in fact, after Lingling and her boyfriend quarreled, she blocked and deleted all of her boyfriend's contact information in one breath, in order to test how important she was in her boyfriend's heart.
But what Lingling didn't know was that after her boyfriend tried to contact her several times without success, he chose to let go and didn't want to continue to consume with her.
After learning that her boyfriend had contacted herself, Lingling also knew that she had gone too far this time, so she took the initiative to ask her boyfriend's forgiveness, but her boyfriend's attitude was very resolute, there was no chance of easing, and lingling was left alone all day sad.
Therefore, sometimes not contacting for a long time will not necessarily make the other party care more about you, but will make the other party feel that you are repeating the same trick, or even making unreasonable trouble.
Especially for a person who does not want to love you anymore, there is no place for you in his heart, and when you do not contact him, he will not contact you, but will feel very relaxed, without any guilt.
But what about you? When he does not contact you, you also think about not contacting him, and even want to get his attention in an irrational way, but in the end you will find that with the passage of time, the longer the disconnection, the more painful you will be.
People who have truly loved, blind disconnection will only make it more painful
In a relationship, when the other party does not contact you, the first thing you think of must also be: since he does not take the initiative to contact you, why do you still contact him.
Thus, the two men began a cold war, and neither of them contacted the other. But your heart still wants the dialog box to have a message he sent you, even if it's just a good morning, an expression.
You pick up your phone over and over again every day, looking through the circle of friends and all kinds of social software that may have traces of him.
But you didn't expect that if you gambled not to contact him, he would really stop contacting you, and in the end, only you would be sad.
In other words, people who have paid for true feelings, disconnection is not the best way.
Many times, if the other party does not contact you, you may wish to take the initiative, try to show your love for him, try to keep, if he really wants to go, you do not force, generously let go.
But in any case, don't end a relationship by breaking the connection. If you choose to break the connection, it will only be you who will suffer.
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In addition to time and new love, how to let go of someone who does not love you?
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