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Nowadays, the wind of freedom prevails, and some young people choose to become "Dinks" in order to make themselves better. They only love, but do not have children, do not hesitate to cut off their own "incense", but also pursue mavericks. Of course, there are also some Dinks who have unspeakable secrets, and not having babies is indeed a forced choice.
So, what happened to these Dinks? Today we'll walk into their lives and see what they were when they were old.
L Dink 20 years of husband and wife to tell the big truth: easy when young, lonely in old!
The old Liu couple is a couple who have been Dink for 20 years, and the two have no children and no daughters under their knees. Nowadays, the couple lives in an old building, or the top floor of the 6th floor, it is very inconvenient to go up and down the stairs. Every time he buys rice and noodles, Lao Liu has to breathe for a long time.
Lao Liu said that he was married at the age of 35, and his wife was 5 years older than him, at that time he felt that his daughters-in-law were so old, afraid that it was not safe to give birth at an advanced age, so he told his daughter-in-law that "it is okay to be born or not."
The daughter-in-law is a new arrival after the divorce of the son, she does not want to toss anymore, just want to live quietly.
Therefore, the two families chose a more relaxed lifestyle and did not have a baby. But now, old Liu remembers the decision when he was young, but he regrets it a little. He said he was 55 years old, childless and a little lonely now.
Before I was young, I worked hard, but now I have fought for most of my life, but the money has been spent because my daughter-in-law has been sick in the past few years. In the end, I didn't save anything, I didn't even have a child around, thinking that no one would send me to the end after a hundred years, it was inevitable that I was a little sad.
What is it like to be childless? Don't like to hear the big truth of the people who come over
A man who is a Dink like Lao Liu, and a good brother of Lao Liu. However, this brother is different from Lao Liu's situation, he voluntarily chooses to be a Dink, rather than a forced choice. At that time, this brother and daughter-in-law loved the earth-shattering, and the two simply wanted to live in the world of the two, and did not want the children to hinder the feelings of the two.
The point is that the wife of this brother is an only child, and always says that she is afraid of having a baby and hurting, and she is afraid that her husband will not love herself if she has a child. In this way, the two are very willful, did not have children when they were young, and now they have no children and no daughters.
Similarly, now that 20 years have passed, recalling the decision that was made, this buddy of Lao Liu also cried: "When the Dink clan is young, it is easy and cool!" Almost old age, lonely and deadly, feeling that every day is waiting for the end of life, not knowing why to live. ”
Mohr says the hardest part of life is choice.
In fact, as the "Dinks", they have also faced various troubles, it is difficult to choose, and they are wandering left and right. But in the end, each of them still could not resist the true thoughts in their hearts, and they fulfilled their wishes. Unfortunately, in his later years, the Dink family was far more difficult than everyone imagined, and would face many risks and problems.
So, what risks did the Dink family face in their later years?
Childless, childless, old and orphaned
Everyone will be old, and there will be an old day. When the Dink family was young, the couple was strong, self-reliant and financially independent. But once old, there may be no children and no daughters, and when they are sick, they can only support each other, and there is no next generation to lean on, which is a sense of helplessness that the future is not supported.
Moreover, if one of the husbands and wives regrets and intends not to have another child, I am afraid that there will be quarrels and stalemates, and even the marriage relationship will be difficult to maintain.
Childless and childless, spiritually lonely
Schopenhauer said: Either loneliness or vulgarity.
In the eyes of everyone, when you were young, you chose to be a Dink, how different is this? Many people even envy the Dink people, the couple live in the world of two, how dashing and free.
However, when some Dinks reach old age, they regret it themselves, and the road of not following the crowd seems to be doomed to loneliness in their old age. In the Dink family in their later years, some elderly couples are very lonely mentally, especially when it comes to the New Year's Festival, seeing other people's families full of children and grandchildren, the Dink family couple will feel the loneliness of childlessness and daughterlessness.
Perhaps, there will be people who object, when the Dink tribe has many benefits, such as: you can take the money to raise children to pension, the economy is relatively generous, do not have to worry about the child is not filial piety, do not have to be afraid of the child's nest in the old age; women do not have children, is not the body charming, free, do not have to be tired?
But the reality is that when most Dink families are in their old age, the couple always has a sense of sadness, feeling that there is always a little regret in the life of no children. Without having children, life doesn't seem to have much meaning. This is a reality that most Dink families face in their later years.
If you want to be a Dink, you need to be cautious: without children and daughters, the meaning of life is incomplete
Many people who have become Dink people have told the big truth: childless and childless, the meaning of life is incomplete. Don't go back, at what age you are, do what you should do at this age, so that you don't waste this life.
Thinking that the Dinks need to be cautious and not impulsive, they made a decision. Because of the opposition of family and relatives, there were too many contradictions and conflicts, forcing themselves to continue to take a road that was not chosen at that time, and they never looked back.
In fact, in addition to some couples who are difficult to conceive and have to choose to be Dink, some young children do not understand what Dink is when they are in love, and their plans for their own lives are not mature at all. They just passively choose to be dink, and then, out of reality, have to dink down.
In short, life is a long road, make any decision, and the person who ultimately pays the bill is himself. Or recommend some small couples, do not blindly make a decision not to have children in life. Because of the childless and childless life, the meaning of life is incomplete.
Nurture life, reproduce offspring, educate and educate people, and cultivate children to become talents. This process is probably the true meaning and happiness of life.
Interactive Topic: Do you have any examples around you where you voluntarily choose to be a Dink and later regret it in old age? Do you think that a childless life is better, or is it a richer life to raise children?
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